SIGH - Why do I even get involved with these fights?

[LuckyTaxi]

Not going to write a whole essay as to what happens, so I'll highlight the points.

Setting - Fiance mother's house
Parties - Her two sisters, herself and her cousin THEN three other girls on the block
Reasoning - Girls on block have nothing better to do than to sit in front of their house and talk about ppl
Background - My fiance and I have our own spot and a car, and we can do whatever we want since we're out of school and hold FT jobs. Her sisters/cousin are another story but I'm defending my gf.
The three other girls are high school dropouts settling for factory jobs paying $5/hr.

Ongoing sh!ttalking by these three girls. my fiance and her sisters/cousin don't say a word nor do they instigate. A "neutral" person came by yesterday and told us the three young girls were talking smack. I took it personal cuz they said something about my girl and how she looked. Making fun of her clothes. Mind you, we dont go out spending $80 on a pair of jeans like they do. They have to work 2 months to make what we make in a month, so I really dont understand how they talk sh!t about us. We live within our means and save the rest of our money on things we enjoy. So, basically thats a slap in our face, but everyone knows we're better than these three girls.

So, I was just going to leave it to the girls to settle it. My fiance's cousin would stomp on all three girls. The thing is our side doesnt want to do anything. Let them talk, it's not worth bickering over. HOWEVER, i gotta get involve cuz there's this one guy. I think he's gay, but thats not th reaosn why I dont like him. He talks a lot of smack.

What bothers me is the constant talking they do. It gets to a point were we are all saying, let's just settle this once and for all. I'm about ready to beat the crap out of someone today after work. It's not cool to talk about ppl constantly behind their backs.

Maybe it's jsut me, but I'm tired of listening to them. Sorry for the rant, but it's been on my mind all night long!

 

[kranky]

You are letting other people control your emotions. You can't control them, but you can control how you handle it.

Let it go. Even if it gets to the point of violence, is that going to stop them from talking smack? No. And thinking it's a "slap in your face" is wrong. If small-minded people gossip among themselves out of jealousy, that's not a slap in your face. It's just small-minded people doing what they do, and realistically you can't stop them.

Your best revenge is to hold your head high and don't let them get to you.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Yea - I've thought about that and the "slap in the face" part is her comparing me to her man.
"My man takes care of me"

Yea, her man buys her new clothes every two weeks, but he has to hustle drugs and work 6 days a week to get all that stuff. We work 40 hour weeks and we're enjoying our weekends.

The only thing this girl has is her looks. yea she looks good, but that will only get you so far. She's stupid and immature.

You're right about letting them get to us. My girl's cousin did say let them talk all they want. But doesnt it get to a point where you just have to let them know? Violence doesnt solve anything, but if you can make them shut up, they'll stop. What am i saying? I'm too old for this petty sh!t!!!
:laugh:

 

[Codewiz]

Are you still in middle school?

 

[skace]

Be right back after I figure out what thread this parodies...

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Codewiz
Are you still in middle school?

Seems like it doesnt it?!

 

[kranky]

Originally posted by: lilcam
But doesnt it get to a point where you just have to let them know?

I would say no. I can't see what purpose it would serve except to encourage them.

Violence doesnt solve anything, but if you can make them shut up, they'll stop.

And I'm saying that you can't make them shut up.

 

[jjones]

Offer them a cookie.

:cookie;

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: kranky

Originally posted by: lilcam
But doesnt it get to a point where you just have to let them know?

I would say no. I can't see what purpose it would serve except to encourage them.

Violence doesnt solve anything, but if you can make them shut up, they'll stop.

And I'm saying that you can't make them shut up.

Yea ... I'll leave it be. Might come out of it with broken bones or something.
I know i dont need to prove that we're better than them.

 

[sixone]

Was I you, I'd have a word with the "neutral'" party who repeated all this stuff. Neutral people don't do that. What is he/she trying to instigate?

 

[mattlear]

This may sound weird... but take a look at that Bill Cosby thread. It sounds alot like that... bums talking smack trying to keep others down who are making something of themselves.

Let it go man. The toughest thing to do is walk away from a situation like that. If you don't, what have you got to gain? If you whip their asses, and they press charges, then what? They will have dragged you down to their level.

Don't get even by violence... if you must "one up" them, use your brain an do something crafty.

-Matt

 

[TwinkleToes77]

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: kranky

Originally posted by: lilcam
But doesnt it get to a point where you just have to let them know?

I would say no. I can't see what purpose it would serve except to encourage them.

Violence doesnt solve anything, but if you can make them shut up, they'll stop.

And I'm saying that you can't make them shut up.

Yea ... I'll leave it be. Might come out of it with broken bones or something.
I know i dont need to prove that we're better than them.

Here's the part that i find insulting.. you think you are a 'better' person than them because you have more money? They may be drop outs and what not but do you really know what was happening in their lives that made them drop out? My mom is a better person than most of the people I know and she was a drop out too. Maybe they talk smack about you and yours because you think you are so full of yourself because you make 11/hr instead of $5.50?

*dons flamesuit for playing devil's advocate*

 

[Hammer]

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: kranky

Originally posted by: lilcam
But doesnt it get to a point where you just have to let them know?

I would say no. I can't see what purpose it would serve except to encourage them.

Violence doesnt solve anything, but if you can make them shut up, they'll stop.

And I'm saying that you can't make them shut up.

Yea ... I'll leave it be. Might come out of it with broken bones or something.
I know i dont need to prove that we're better than them.

Here's the part that i find insulting.. you think you are a 'better' person than them because you have more money? They may be drop outs and what not but do you really know what was happening in their lives that made them drop out? My mom is a better person than most of the people I know and she was a drop out too. Maybe they talk smack about you and yours because you think you are so full of yourself because you make 11/hr instead of $5.50?

*dons flamesuit for playing devil's advocate*

i think the money thing came up because they're talking sh1t about how his gf has crappy clothes and they have nicer things.

 

[Hammer]

my advice to you is don't let it get to you. you're going to run into people all your life that are gonna be jealous of you. they'll envy your house, car, looks, gf, money, education, whatever. because of that jealousy (and comparing it to their own pathetic lives) all they have left to make it through their day is to talk smack about you. just ignore them.

 

[LuckyTaxi]

Originally posted by: Hammer

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77

Originally posted by: lilcam

Originally posted by: kranky

Originally posted by: lilcam
But doesnt it get to a point where you just have to let them know?

I would say no. I can't see what purpose it would serve except to encourage them.

Violence doesnt solve anything, but if you can make them shut up, they'll stop.

And I'm saying that you can't make them shut up.

Yea ... I'll leave it be. Might come out of it with broken bones or something.
I know i dont need to prove that we're better than them.

Here's the part that i find insulting.. you think you are a 'better' person than them because you have more money? They may be drop outs and what not but do you really know what was happening in their lives that made them drop out? My mom is a better person than most of the people I know and she was a drop out too. Maybe they talk smack about you and yours because you think you are so full of yourself because you make 11/hr instead of $5.50?

*dons flamesuit for playing devil's advocate*

i think the money thing came up because they're talking sh1t about how his gf has crappy clothes and they have nicer things.

yea thats how that came up. i DO NOT go around saying im better than so and so cuz i make more money. they started it by saying how we dress crappy. just because we buy our clothes from old navy and american eagle and they wear rocafella, enyce, sean john, etc...

its ok, they cant live in their clothes/cars.

 

[BlueWeasel]

Personally, I'd pull off a crazy and unique breakdancing routine in front of them. Promptly tell them they've been served.....all problems solved!

 

[minendo]

They are only words so why the big deal.

 

[richardycc]

yeah let it go, why do you get worked up over what others think of you? so, I think you are an a$$wipe, and I talk about you behind your back all the time, do you want to kick my a$$ too?

 

[PanzerIV]

I mirror the same thing Hammer said. They are jealous and words are free and effective so they use them to talk noise about you and your girl. We know you're going to be the winner in the long run so why give them the satisfaction that they want which is some type of confrontation. If you do that you're back down to their level.

In a few years most will probably have one or two kids, no steady man and live on welfare while you hopefully will be pursuing your dreams with your girl.

 

[MAME]

Originally posted by: lilcam
Not going to write a whole essay as to what happens, so I'll highlight the points.

Setting - Fiance mother's house
Parties - Her two sisters, herself and her cousin THEN three other girls on the block
Reasoning - Girls on block have nothing better to do than to sit in front of their house and talk about ppl
Background - My fiance and I have our own spot and a car, and we can do whatever we want since we're out of school and hold FT jobs. Her sisters/cousin are another story but I'm defending my gf.
The three other girls are high school dropouts settling for factory jobs paying $5/hr.

Ongoing sh!ttalking by these three girls. my fiance and her sisters/cousin don't say a word nor do they instigate. A "neutral" person came by yesterday and told us the three young girls were talking smack. I took it personal cuz they said something about my girl and how she looked. Making fun of her clothes. Mind you, we dont go out spending $80 on a pair of jeans like they do. They have to work 2 months to make what we make in a month, so I really dont understand how they talk sh!t about us. We live within our means and save the rest of our money on things we enjoy. So, basically thats a slap in our face, but everyone knows we're better than these three girls.

So, I was just going to leave it to the girls to settle it. My fiance's cousin would stomp on all three girls. The thing is our side doesnt want to do anything. Let them talk, it's not worth bickering over. HOWEVER, i gotta get involve cuz there's this one guy. I think he's gay, but thats not th reaosn why I dont like him. He talks a lot of smack.

What bothers me is the constant talking they do. It gets to a point were we are all saying, let's just settle this once and for all. I'm about ready to beat the crap out of someone today after work. It's not cool to talk about ppl constantly behind their backs.

Maybe it's jsut me, but I'm tired of listening to them. Sorry for the rant, but it's been on my mind all night long!

so you make $10 an hour then

 

[DrPizza]

Ignore them!
They won! They found the ONE thing in life that they have better than you... they have nicer clothes.
You can even congratulate them on it if it'll make you feel better. Tell them, "congratulations, you're right. You do have nicer clothes."

If you want to quiet them, there's nothing that will shut up someone like that more than to happily admit it to them. "All right, you got me. You've got nicer designer clothes. You obviously have more money than me to spend on clothing. You win. I have poor taste in clothes. Oh well. I'm sorry I can't be here this weekend for you to continue to bash me for my clothing, because my fiance and I are going to _______ (name a really nice weekend getaway place). I wish I had nicer clothes to wear for the trip. You 3 are so lucky. Have a nice day."

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: lilcam
Not going to write a whole essay as to what happens, so I'll highlight the points.

Setting - Fiance mother's house
Parties - Her two sisters, herself and her cousin THEN three other girls on the block
Reasoning - Girls on block have nothing better to do than to sit in front of their house and talk about ppl
Background - My fiance and I have our own spot and a car, and we can do whatever we want since we're out of school and hold FT jobs. Her sisters/cousin are another story but I'm defending my gf.
The three other girls are high school dropouts settling for factory jobs paying $5/hr.

Ongoing sh!ttalking by these three girls. my fiance and her sisters/cousin don't say a word nor do they instigate. A "neutral" person came by yesterday and told us the three young girls were talking smack. I took it personal cuz they said something about my girl and how she looked. Making fun of her clothes. Mind you, we dont go out spending $80 on a pair of jeans like they do. They have to work 2 months to make what we make in a month, so I really dont understand how they talk sh!t about us. We live within our means and save the rest of our money on things we enjoy. So, basically thats a slap in our face, but everyone knows we're better than these three girls.

So, I was just going to leave it to the girls to settle it. My fiance's cousin would stomp on all three girls. The thing is our side doesnt want to do anything. Let them talk, it's not worth bickering over. HOWEVER, i gotta get involve cuz there's this one guy. I think he's gay, but thats not th reaosn why I dont like him. He talks a lot of smack.

What bothers me is the constant talking they do. It gets to a point were we are all saying, let's just settle this once and for all. I'm about ready to beat the crap out of someone today after work. It's not cool to talk about ppl constantly behind their backs.

Maybe it's jsut me, but I'm tired of listening to them. Sorry for the rant, but it's been on my mind all night long!

drama breeds drama. ignore them. going down there running your mouth solves nothing. who gives a fvck what they say about your gf, or anyone else? this "neutral" person is far from that, and knew exactly what would happen by telling you that sh!t.

just let it go.....

 

[chrisms]

Go tell Dr. Phil about it.

 

[captains]

omgwtfbbq did u see what lilcam was wearing today.....like oh my gawd