Should the husband of a woman who has been in a vegetative state for 15 years be allowed to stop life support?
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Just get a divorce and move on.
I used to think that why bother with life support after a couple years. Then i read the TRUE story of a guy that woke up from a coma 20+ years later. I think i would allow anyone i loved to have that chance, that one in a million chance of pulling through.
I used to think that why bother with life support after a couple years. Then i read the TRUE story of a guy that woke up from a coma 20+ years later. I think i would allow anyone i loved to have that chance, that one in a million chance of pulling through.
This is an actual case in Florida. The guy can't get a divorce without her signature. He has a new girlfriend and a kid with her, but isn't allowed to get married because he's still legally married. The state won't let him terminate her life support.
waggy
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yeah and her parents wont let her go off life support. EVEN though they know she has stated that she does not want to be on it.
Then we have Jeb passing laws forbiding her to be taken off of it.
Huge lawsuit going on.
I feel so sorry for the women on life support. just let the poor lady die already.
Dr. Detroit
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SacrosanctFiend
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Yes. Medicine isn't magic, and there are other people who could use that room more than a life-long vegetable.
From following the story, I have learned the following...
The husband and wife and a mutual agreement that if either of them ended up in this state, the other would 'pull the plug'. The wife, in this case, is brain damaged, and can only be feed thru tubes. She shows some repsonsiveness but not much (her eyes are open, she can follow the light and appears to recognize certain family members).
The husband has been pleading to have the plug pulled from day one, and the family have been fighting it. The husband argues that she will never recover and will have a horrible life. He reminds people of the wife's wishes. The wife's family argue that they want to take care of her and will cover all expenses to do so. They also say that is is not a case of pulling the plug and having her heart or breathing stopped. What will actually happen is that they will remove the feeding tubes and she will starve to death. They also claim that she is able to breathe unaided for longer periods of time... but that has not been proven, it is just the family's claims.
But can she get better? For every one medical expert that says no, she is fvcked forever, the family finds another to say... that if all the money that was spent in courts over this, was spent of treatment, she would show remarkable improvement. The husband has indeed moved on, has a baby with someone else. He will not get any money from her death, as it has all been eaten up by the lawyers that are fighting on is behalf to pull the plug. the family will not get any money, as they are not her next of kin... the husband is.
I cannot say how I would react in this case. If VeggieFrog were married and her husband wanted to pull the plug, I would need 110% proof that there is nothing that can be done. I would also feel that if I were willing to do all the work, and spend all the money, I would not want him to take her away from me. I would weigh that against respect for any agreement they had with each other as a married couple. I would find it very difficult.
The husband and wife and a mutual agreement that if either of them ended up in this state, the other would 'pull the plug'. The wife, in this case, is brain damaged, and can only be feed thru tubes. She shows some repsonsiveness but not much (her eyes are open, she can follow the light and appears to recognize certain family members).
The husband has been pleading to have the plug pulled from day one, and the family have been fighting it. The husband argues that she will never recover and will have a horrible life. He reminds people of the wife's wishes. The wife's family argue that they want to take care of her and will cover all expenses to do so. They also say that is is not a case of pulling the plug and having her heart or breathing stopped. What will actually happen is that they will remove the feeding tubes and she will starve to death. They also claim that she is able to breathe unaided for longer periods of time... but that has not been proven, it is just the family's claims.
But can she get better? For every one medical expert that says no, she is fvcked forever, the family finds another to say... that if all the money that was spent in courts over this, was spent of treatment, she would show remarkable improvement. The husband has indeed moved on, has a baby with someone else. He will not get any money from her death, as it has all been eaten up by the lawyers that are fighting on is behalf to pull the plug. the family will not get any money, as they are not her next of kin... the husband is.
I cannot say how I would react in this case. If VeggieFrog were married and her husband wanted to pull the plug, I would need 110% proof that there is nothing that can be done. I would also feel that if I were willing to do all the work, and spend all the money, I would not want him to take her away from me. I would weigh that against respect for any agreement they had with each other as a married couple. I would find it very difficult.
alkemyst
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With such a living will in place it should be a no-brainer. I write down that I specifically do not want life support, *my* wish should be granted when I cannot express it. If I could have / would have pulled through suck it, life is a lot like that already....it's my wishes.
If this lady wanted it ended and was of sound mind and without coercion at the time....honor her freaking desires.
It's sad for 'mom and dad' to let go, but life is sad sometimes.
If this lady wanted it ended and was of sound mind and without coercion at the time....honor her freaking desires.
It's sad for 'mom and dad' to let go, but life is sad sometimes.
HardcoreRobot
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no its a human life! thats MURDER! you are going to hell for even thinking about it. burn in the lake of fire you heathens. just because you dont want her around anymore and she is incapable of making a decision you think its ok to KILL her?? thats just selfish, you should have thought of that before you married her.
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Dude, my grandpa was in a situation similar to this and he chose to die because he was tired of all the pain. It sucks for the family but really, is that how you want someone to go on living if they've stated before that they didn't want that kind of a situation to arise? 15 years is a looong time, and I'm sorry to say that even if she fully recovered, she'd end up wanting to kill herself after hearing about her husband who she probably wanted to talk to more than anything all those years.
Starvation isn't the only way to kill somebody.Originally posted by: KarenMarie
From following the story, I have learned the following...
The husband and wife and a mutual agreement that if either of them ended up in this state, the other would 'pull the plug'. The wife, in this case, is brain damaged, and can only be feed thru tubes. She shows some repsonsiveness but not much (her eyes are open, she can follow the light and appears to recognize certain family members).
The husband has been pleading to have the plug pulled from day one, and the family have been fighting it. The husband argues that she will never recover and will have a horrible life. He reminds people of the wife's wishes. The wife's family argue that they want to take care of her and will cover all expenses to do so. They also say that is is not a case of pulling the plug and having her heart or breathing stopped. What will actually happen is that they will remove the feeding tubes and she will starve to death. They also claim that she is able to breathe unaided for longer periods of time... but that has not been proven, it is just the family's claims.
But can she get better? For every one medical expert that says no, she is fvcked forever, the family finds another to say... that if all the money that was spent in courts over this, was spent of treatment, she would show remarkable improvement. The husband has indeed moved on, has a baby with someone else. He will not get any money from her death, as it has all been eaten up by the lawyers that are fighting on is behalf to pull the plug. the family will not get any money, as they are not her next of kin... the husband is.
I cannot say how I would react in this case. If VeggieFrog were married and her husband wanted to pull the plug, I would need 110% proof that there is nothing that can be done. I would also feel that if I were willing to do all the work, and spend all the money, I would not want him to take her away from me. I would weigh that against respect for any agreement they had with each other as a married couple. I would find it very difficult.
I don't think I would want my wife taken off life support, in the miniscule chance that she might revive, but I would certainly leave her after a period of time.
I was looking for the "hell yes" option but had to choose "yes" when I realized that was the only choice other than "no."
even if she were to wake up today, her life would probably be over. I mean, how to do you move on after 15 years of being in a hospital bed. You probably wouldn't be able to walk on your own for a solid month at best, you would be out of touch with reality, you probably wouldn't have any worthwhile skills at that age to get a decent job, your life would be a total wreck.
If no progress towards recovery has been made in a year, then the closest family member should be allowed to make that decision, and the government should not be paying a dime for it.
If no progress towards recovery has been made in a year, then the closest family member should be allowed to make that decision, and the government should not be paying a dime for it.
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