Should I move to the hometown of my x?

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manlymatt83

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Well...

The hometown of my recent X in North Jersey is the EXACT halfway point between my new job, and my parents/friends. 20 minutes from my parents/friends, 20 minutes from my job.

But ... my only memories of this area are of my x, and she'll be about 4 minutes from me, even though she won't know I'm living there (I won't tell her), and we're not speaking other than the occasional IM talk.

I found a REALLY nice apartment complex right near the highway that I really like. Should I go for it, and hope that new memories of the area will overwrite the old ones? Or should I can the idea and stay out of her town?
 
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Vinny N

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You might be ok if it's a good area with lots to do. I'd normally recommend living closer to friends, but it sounds like this spot is about as good as it gets in terms of distance to everything.
 
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manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: JasonSix78
Will you be moving there with your new g/f from the other thread?

-Jason
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No... but near her. And shes not my new girlfriend. We've more or less turned into "buddies" if you know what I mean.

But no, I'd be moving alone. and thats what I'm worried about.
 
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manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: Vinny N
You might be ok if it's a good area with lots to do. I'd normally recommend living closer to friends, but it sounds like this spot is about as good as it gets in terms of distance to everything.
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In the immediate area, there is nothing but a Quik Check. BUT... the rent is so expensive at this one location, and that is because, within 100 feet, is the entrance to 4 major highways, including the parkway and turnpike. So even though I'm in a town with nothing to do, I'm right near highways where I can be ANYWHERE within 10-15 minutes with a CRAP load to do.
 
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dude seriously, you are putting the p**** on a pedestal. you're making it seem like its this great greek goddess named p****liah or something. just move there and dont worry about that crap you silly dumb bastard.
 
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manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: anxi80
dude seriously, you are putting the p**** on a pedestal. you're making it seem like its this great greek goddess named p****liah or something. just move there and dont worry about that crap you silly dumb bastard.
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I get attached. Especially since girls have a way of making it seem like everything is the guy's fault. She has me apologizing for things I didn't even do. I'm whipped by my X.

My friends keep telling me to tell her I slept with that other girl. Then, she'll hate me so much it will be easier to get over things.
 
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: JasonSix78
Will you be moving there with your new g/f from the other thread?

-Jason
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No... but near her. And shes not my new girlfriend. We've more or less turned into "buddies" if you know what I mean.

But no, I'd be moving alone. and thats what I'm worried about.
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I see, haven't checked your other thread in a while. I think you'll be ok just as long as you have other interests (females) in that area. Unless you think getting back with your ex would be a good idea.

-Jason

 
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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I get attached. Especially since girls have a way of making it seem like everything is the guy's fault. She has me apologizing for things I didn't even do. I'm whipped by my X.

My friends keep telling me to tell her I slept with that other girl. Then, she'll hate me so much it will be easier to get over things.
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if you still yank the crank while thinking of your ex after all these years, then you have some deep-seated attachment issues. if thats the case then you need to slay about 20 hoodrats and then after that you will probably be ready for a meaningful, deep relationship because you will have the confidence and control. good luck with that.
 
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Originally posted by: anxi80
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
I get attached. Especially since girls have a way of making it seem like everything is the guy's fault. She has me apologizing for things I didn't even do. I'm whipped by my X.

My friends keep telling me to tell her I slept with that other girl. Then, she'll hate me so much it will be easier to get over things.
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if you still yank the crank while thinking of your ex after all these years, then you have some deep-seated attachment issues. if thats the case then you need to slay about 20 hoodrats and then after that you will probably be ready for a meaningful, deep relationship because you will have the confidence and control. good luck with that.
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Amen.
 
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chambersc

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its just an apartment complex that happens to be in the city where you X resides. think bigger than "OMG ill be living near my X!!!!!"

edit: stop being so emo that you need the advice and approval or people on the internets.
 
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manlymatt83

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PS: The mods comment in YAGT's all the time. Yet they have never commented in one of mine. Does that mean they think I'm smart?
 
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iliopsoas

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wtf are you IM her? sheesh. get over the bia*ch already. and move wherever you like, as long as you have plenty of friends or things to do nearby. don't mope around by yourself in your new place near that hoe. it will only drive you nuts.
 
Whoozyerdaddy

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Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: anxi80
dude seriously, you are putting the p**** on a pedestal. you're making it seem like its this great greek goddess named p****liah or something. just move there and dont worry about that crap you silly dumb bastard.
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I get attached. Especially since girls have a way of making it seem like everything is the guy's fault. She has me apologizing for things I didn't even do. I'm whipped by my X.

My friends keep telling me to tell her I slept with that other girl. Then, she'll hate me so much it will be easier to get over things.
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You: Hi. I slept with this other girl.
Her: So. I've slept with other guys since we broke up. Congrats.
You: YAMGT - Ex is having great sex. Should I go out and have great sex to get back at her? :confused:
 
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manlymatt83

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Oct 14, 2005
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Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: mjuszczak
Originally posted by: anxi80
dude seriously, you are putting the p**** on a pedestal. you're making it seem like its this great greek goddess named p****liah or something. just move there and dont worry about that crap you silly dumb bastard.
Click to expand...


I get attached. Especially since girls have a way of making it seem like everything is the guy's fault. She has me apologizing for things I didn't even do. I'm whipped by my X.

My friends keep telling me to tell her I slept with that other girl. Then, she'll hate me so much it will be easier to get over things.
Click to expand...

You: Hi. I slept with this other girl.
Her: So. I've slept with other guys since we broke up. Congrats.
You: YAMGT - Ex is having great sex. Should I go out and have great sex to get back at her? :confused:
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nah, she isn't the hook up girl. She hasn't even kissed another guy since we broke up.
 
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gotsmack

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live closer to work, you'll shave time off your commute and you go to work 5 days a week while you may see your friends and the rents twice a week.

what town are you planning on moving to?
 
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Kenazo

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Move to the city/town you're working in. Do you actually visit your parents that often that you need to live at the halfway point?
 
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manlymatt83

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Originally posted by: gotsmack
live closer to work, you'll shave time off your commute and you go to work 5 days a week while you may see your friends and the rents twice a week.

what town are you planning on moving to?
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I'm planning on moving to South Plainfield. I will be working in Red bank. Its still only about a 15 minute drive. I want to move to somewhere on 287 so that I can commute to Bridgewater/Raritan/Somerville/hillsborough where most of my friends are and my parents are in a REASONABLE amount of time.


And i've lived south of the driscoll for so long now. I want to move north of it now :)
 
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