Should I have picked her up?

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isasir

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Well, not really a YAGT, but it involves my girlfriend.

So she flew in from Chicago to Newark Airport (NJ), which is about 1 - 1.5 hours away from my house depending on traffic. I was off today, just hoping to relax after a crazy week last week. She parked her car at a friends house in the Bronx, and to get to Newark when she was departing, took a train to Port Authority and a bus to the airport.

I come to find out that she's pissed at me for not picking up (or offering to pick her up) from the airport today.

My reasoning is that she assured me that it wasn't a big deal, and frankly, booked the flight from Newark even tho' it was further away (JFK and LaGuardia are closer to us) to save money. I basically would've had to leave my house about 30 min. after her plane took off, in order to pick her up, drive her to the Bronx, then back to Queens, not to mention I'd have to tape 24 (!) as well. This would've saved her about 1 - 1.5 hours of time, but taken up my whole afternoon/evening.

She's angry, I feel I did nothing wrong. Thoughts?

Cliff Notes:
1. I didn't pick up girlfriend from airport.
2. She's angry.
3. Am I an insensitive prick?
 
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Wanescotting

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You should have picked her up. She is angry because she probably wanted teh sex, and you were not there. You lose.
 
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Triforceofcourage

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No, she is a selfish bitch and can't see it would have inconvenienced you way more than it would her for having to find her own transportation. Its better to get all this stuff settled now so your not surprised down the road when she tries to pull the same crap.
 
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Brutuskend

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Originally posted by: isasir
Well, not really a YAGT, but it involves my girlfriend.

So she flew in from Chicago to Newark Airport (NJ), which is about 1 - 1.5 hours away from my house depending on traffic. I was off today, just hoping to relax after a crazy week last week. She parked her car at a friends house in the Bronx, and to get to Newark when she was departing, took a train to Port Authority and a bus to the airport.

I come to find out that she's pissed at me for not picking up (or offering to pick her up) from the airport today.

My reasoning is that she assured me that it wasn't a big deal, and frankly, booked the flight from Newark even tho' it was further away (JFK and LaGuardia are closer to us) to save money. I basically would've had to leave my house about 30 min. after her plane took off, in order to pick her up, drive her to the Bronx, then back to Queens, not to mention I'd have to tape 24 (!) as well. This would've saved her about 1 - 1.5 hours of time, but taken up my whole afternoon/evening.

She's angry, I feel I did nothing wrong. Thoughts?

Cliff Notes:
1. I didn't pick up girlfriend from airport.
2. She's angry.
3. I AM an insensitive prick?
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meltdown75

meltdown75

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sounds like you two have a little communicato problemo dude! use the digits and find this sh!t out!
 
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dman

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Depends:

How long you been dating?

Does she travel often (multiple times/year)?

IMO, if she's a new GF or travels once/year or less and this was a family trip or something, then yeah definitely should do the whole pick her up thing, bring flowers, etc, make an evening of it. Screw the show you coulda recorded it and had a nice time out and gotten some action instead of crap.

That said, I just got back from Newark and if I had to drive 1.5hrs each way to pick up someone there I'd've tried to avoid it to. Wonder what the price difference was.. $100 maybe?




 
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simms

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Originally posted by: raanemaan
Originally posted by: Wanescotting
You should have picked her up. She is angry because she probably wanted teh sex, and you were not there. You lose.
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She's your girl... If you cared about her you'd take the time out of your day instead of watching 24. Maybe you have different priorities.
 
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I can't believe someone is so pathetic!
"I was going to pick my girlfriend up from the airport, but if I did, I would have had to tape 24 instead of watching it when it first aired."

I hope she reads this thread and dumps you.
Truly truly pathetic.
 
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b0mbrman

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You should have offered and if it's as big a convenience gap as you make it seem, she would have declined...

That's all really
 
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Kipper

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Let's see...time with the girl, or TV.

You need to get your priorities straight.
 
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isasir

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Originally posted by: DrPizza
I can't believe someone is so pathetic!
"I was going to pick my girlfriend up from the airport, but if I did, I would have had to tape 24 instead of watching it when it first aired."

I hope she reads this thread and dumps you.
Truly truly pathetic.
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Yeah, the 24 comment really was just dry humor I threw in.
 
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isasir

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Originally posted by: dman
Depends:

How long you been dating?

Does she travel often (multiple times/year)?

IMO, if she's a new GF or travels once/year or less and this was a family trip or something, then yeah definitely should do the whole pick her up thing, bring flowers, etc, make an evening of it. Screw the show you coulda recorded it and had a nice time out and gotten some action instead of crap.

That said, I just got back from Newark and if I had to drive 1.5hrs each way to pick up someone there I'd've tried to avoid it to. Wonder what the price difference was.. $100 maybe?
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Been dating about 1 yr. 4 months. She's traveled about 4 times since we've dated and I picked her up and dropped her off each time but one (her sister took and picked her up). It wouldn't have been an evening for us, since I'd still have take her and her friend to the Bronx, and probably wouldn't get back to her place until 9 PM. She's a steady g/f who's not going to dump me over this, but I really just wanted some damn time to myself after a very busy week last week. (Other IT guy is on vacation).

I don't even know how the heck to get to Newark Airport, so it might've actually taken me longer to get there, since it was during rush hour.
 
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isasir

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Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
She sounds like a drama queen.....
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Nah, far from it actually. This is just one of those times where I play the role of a$$hole in the relationship and my damn pride/ego/personal logic/etc. prevent me from feeling guilty, even though part of me does know I should've picked her up.


 
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oneshot47

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On the other hand she did assure him that it was no problem. If she needed picked up then she should have said "pick me up." I say smack her around a bit and remind her who the man in the relationship is.
 
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Injury

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Just admit to her that you SHOULD have picked her up and apoligize. You reap the benefit of not having to do it AND the argument is as close to over as it could be.

You're kind of a d!ck for not offerring/insisting to drop her off and pick her up. I mean, if you had something important you had to get done... fair enough. But you make it sound as if you just wanted to sit around and do jack crap.


However, I think it's selfish of her to be as pissed off as you make it sound.
 
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