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should I go see a female friend tonight?

mcveigh

mcveigh

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A couple of friends from highschool are getting together tonight, one of them is a close friend I haven't seen in at least a year, the problem is my wife doesn't like her (only met 2x, a few minutes each) She was one of my closest friends in HS (no romance you pervs) but has since moved a couple hours away and we never see each other.

anyways my gut is tellimg me if I tell the wife I'm going to meet some friends tonight (it's past our kids bedtimes so we can't all go) she'll be pissed.
any married people think i should I pass?

 
Originally posted by: mcveigh
A couple of friends from highschool are getting together tonight, one of them is a close friend I haven't seen in at least a year, the problem is my wife doesn't like her (only met 2x, a few minutes each) She was one of my closest friends in HS (no romance you pervs) but has since moved a couple hours away and we never see each other.

anyways my gut is tellimg me if I tell the wife I'm going to meet some friends tonight (it's past our kids bedtimes so we can't all go) she'll be pissed.
any married people think i should I pass?
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How is romance perverted? 😕
 
Originally posted by: datalink7
Originally posted by: mcveigh
A couple of friends from highschool are getting together tonight, one of them is a close friend I haven't seen in at least a year, the problem is my wife doesn't like her (only met 2x, a few minutes each) She was one of my closest friends in HS (no romance you pervs) but has since moved a couple hours away and we never see each other.

anyways my gut is tellimg me if I tell the wife I'm going to meet some friends tonight (it's past our kids bedtimes so we can't all go) she'll be pissed.
any married people think i should I pass?
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How is romance perverted? 😕
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it's not, voyeurism is
 
Originally posted by: mcveigh
A couple of friends from highschool are getting together tonight, one of them is a close friend I haven't seen in at least a year, the problem is my wife doesn't like her (only met 2x, a few minutes each) She was one of my closest friends in HS (no romance you pervs) but has since moved a couple hours away and we never see each other.

anyways my gut is tellimg me if I tell the wife I'm going to meet some friends tonight (it's past our kids bedtimes so we can't all go) she'll be pissed.
any married people think i should I pass?
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Don't lie to your wife, but if this woman is a friend of yours then you should definitely go out with her. Letting your wife choose your friends is not healthy.
 
Do you have to give up friends ( to some extend life ) after getting married?
Talk to her, probably she will understand.
 
i won't lie to the wife.

I think maybe she is jealous b/c my friend is pretty. no pics.
she first met her when we had just been dating like a week. I think maybe she was insecure about our relationship at the time.
 
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: mcveigh
A couple of friends from highschool are getting together tonight, one of them is a close friend I haven't seen in at least a year, the problem is my wife doesn't like her (only met 2x, a few minutes each) She was one of my closest friends in HS (no romance you pervs) but has since moved a couple hours away and we never see each other.

anyways my gut is tellimg me if I tell the wife I'm going to meet some friends tonight (it's past our kids bedtimes so we can't all go) she'll be pissed.
any married people think i should I pass?
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Don't lie to your wife, but if this woman is a friend of yours then you should definitely go out with her. Letting your wife choose your friends is not healthy.
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I agree with this. My ex used to have a double standard about this; she used to get upset when I would see female friends, but thought it was perfectly ok to have male friends of her own. "But guys are different," she would say, "you can't trust them." Bah. May she forever remain my ex.
 
then talk to her about it. if your friends are generally not an issue and this is a rarity--give it up.
your wife is more important.
 
Originally posted by: CaseTragedy
then talk to her about it. if your friends are generally not an issue and this is a rarity--give it up.
your wife is more important.
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If you want to see this person, your wife needs to be there. You're playing with killing the trust in your marriage, which would effectually turn your life into hell.
 
I'm not married, so no experience there, but I know for dsmn sure that if that were the case between me and my significant other it would be folly to try to sneak off to meet the girl (I know what you mean about a close personal friend, one of my best friends right now is a girl I have known since 2nd grade) I think the best you can do is tell your wife that that you are meeting some friends and that the girl will be there too. See maybe if your wife wants to come hang out with you guys to see that it is all innocent? I dunno just my take on the situation.
 
Originally posted by: Garet Jax
Originally posted by: mcveigh
A couple of friends from highschool are getting together tonight, one of them is a close friend I haven't seen in at least a year, the problem is my wife doesn't like her (only met 2x, a few minutes each) She was one of my closest friends in HS (no romance you pervs) but has since moved a couple hours away and we never see each other.

anyways my gut is tellimg me if I tell the wife I'm going to meet some friends tonight (it's past our kids bedtimes so we can't all go) she'll be pissed.
any married people think i should I pass?
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Don't lie to your wife, but if this woman is a friend of yours then you should definitely go out with her. Letting your wife choose your friends is not healthy.
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to clear things up it wouldn't be me and her alone, it would be a small group of friends probably 3-5.
i'll probably pass. she is supposed to be in town tomorrow though, maybe we can grab a cup of coffee.
 
Originally posted by: mcveigh
to clear things up it wouldn't be me and her alone, it would be a small group of friends probably 3-5.
i'll probably pass. she is supposed to be in town tomorrow though, maybe we can grab a cup of coffee.
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So you're into group stuff with this friend. No wonder the wife is worried. 😀
 
Originally posted by: mcveigh
i won't lie to the wife.

I think maybe she is jealous b/c my friend is pretty. no pics.
she first met her when we had just been dating like a week. I think maybe she was insecure about our relationship at the time.
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My guess is that you have made it very clear to your wife that you think this friend is "pretty". This is probably why she is so reluctant to let you go alone.
 
You're married to your wife.

This other person you haven't seen for ages. You'll be meeting up with her AND SOME OTHER PEOPLE, you were never romantic.
Why does your wife have a problem? If she ha ssecurity issues, why are you even married?

If your wife doesn't like it, she might have issues 😛
 
why don't you invite 'em all over for coffee tonight? (after runnin' that by the wife first of course.. ). that way she is included.

 
I know exactly what you're talking about. My suggestion is NO! Do not see your friend if:
1. you friend is a She and you're a he.
2. your friend is pretty.
3. you don't approve of your wife seeing guy friends behind your back.

I keep it simple with my wife. No friends of the opposite sex. Especially from the past. Never know when one of you will slip.

You start allowing this friend and that friend into your life, it'll create a very uncomfortable atmosphere.
 
Originally posted by: Lonyo
You're married to your wife.

This other person you haven't seen for ages. You'll be meeting up with her AND SOME OTHER PEOPLE, you were never romantic.
Why does your wife have a problem? If she ha ssecurity issues, why are you even married?

If your wife doesn't like it, she might have issues 😛
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now I think b/c she doesn't like her.

can'y invite everyone over cause the house is a dump, we remodeling the living room.
 
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