Should I contact my crush after 2 years?

ai42

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Ok heres the deal just the other day one of my roommate's father's friends came in to help us setup a fish tank. It just happened to be that those people are the parents of this girl I went to high school with (and middle school for that matter). Anyway we talked and she apparently is still in the area and is going to a different college. Anyway they gave me her email address.

Anyway I had this crush on her for almost as long as I knew her. However, I was always too shy and/or scared to ask her out. Every once and a while I really wonder what it would be like if I did date her. And I always wonder if it would have worked out or even at all. And I always regret not asking her out.

A few facts pertaining to the situation.
We were friends I guess but really not great friends I had a lot of classes with her and I would talk to her on occasion but never really hung out outside of school.
We had a few mutual friends however that is no longer true.
I haven't talked to her since we graduated and it's been a bit over 2 years now.
I don't know if she is seeing someone else.
I'm not sure of course but I really don't think I am her type.

I don't want to seam like a jerk and just tell her all of this, especially if she is seeing someone else. I'm not sure I was thinking I could just ask her out to goto coffee. I don't really have an expectation to go out with her however I would take the chance if she was willing. I really would like to be honest with her and tell her all of this but I think that would just screw everything up.
 

Kipper

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"Hey do you want to grab a coffee or a bite to eat."

STOP RIGHT THERE, play the field.
 

dabuddha

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Originally posted by: ai42
Ok heres the deal just the other day one of my roommate's father's friends came in to help us setup a fish tank. It just happened to be that those people are the parents of this girl I went to high school with (and middle school for that matter). Anyway we talked and she apparently is still in the area and is going to a different college. Anyway they gave me her email address.

Anyway I had this crush on her for almost as long as I knew her. However, I was always too shy and/or scared to ask her out. Every once and a while I really wonder what it would be like if I did date her. And I always wonder if it would have worked out or even at all. And I always regret not asking her out.

A few facts pertaining to the situation.
We were friends I guess but really not great friends I had a lot of classes with her and I would talk to her on occasion but never really hung out outside of school.
We had a few mutual friends however that is no longer true.
I haven't talked to her since we graduated and it's been a bit over 2 years now.
I don't know if she is seeing someone else.
I'm not sure of course but I really don't think I am her type.

I don't want to seam like a jerk and just tell her all of this, especially if she is seeing someone else. I'm not sure I was thinking I could just ask her out to goto coffee. I don't really have an expectation to go out with her however I would take the chance if she was willing. I really would like to be honest with her and tell her all of this but I think that would just screw everything up.



That right there tells me to go for it!
 

Francodman

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If you're gonna contact her and ask her out, then yeah... If you're gonna continue doing what you've been doing for the past 2 years, then no
 

imported_Pablo

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Just drop her an email and say "What's up! saw your dad the other day and just figured i'd drop you a line to see what you were up to. Let me know. We'll go get coffee or something."

And go from there.
 

Jzero

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#1 Don't use the word "anyway" so often.
#2 Ask her out but try not to make it sound like you've been pining over her for the last 2 years....that's creepy.
 

ai42

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#2 Ask her out but try not to make it sound like you've been pining over her for the last 2 years....that's creepy.
Thats not true I have a life I've seen other people but its just every once and a while I wonder if it could have been. It's not that I think about this everyday or anything like that.

I only said anyway 3 times. But I guess those sentences get rather repetitious.
 

bobbybe01

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Nothing wrong with contacting her again, since her parents gave you her email address. Ask her out for something simple at a specific day and time. When you're get the date, you'll be able to determine what kind of possibilities there are.

Btw, please keep us updated. I hate giving advice and not seeing the fruits of my labors.
 

Nitemare

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Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Just make sure you don't sign it

Your friend in Christ,
ai42
 

Jzero

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Originally posted by: ai42
#2 Ask her out but try not to make it sound like you've been pining over her for the last 2 years....that's creepy.
Thats not true I have a life I've seen other people but its just every once and a while I wonder if it could have been. It's not that I think about this everyday or anything like that.

I didn't say it was true, I just said try not to make it sound like that. It's a pitfall to be aware of. Choose your words poorly and it will sound creepy, so step carefully and you will avoid that mistake.
 

BooGiMaN

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drop her an email...

hey whats up!

8 out of 10 guys on ATOT say I should email you.
4 of those say i should hit it and quit it.
2 of them say i should do you like Kobe.
1 of them wants to know if my your ass would feel like mine.
1 of them says i should help you kill a spider.
1 of them says your OMGWTFBBQPIMP!
all 10 of them wants pics.

what do you think? post a reply in my thread k thanx bye!
 

ed21x

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Originally posted by: PabloMartinez
Just drop her an email and say "What's up! saw your dad the other day and just figured i'd drop you a line to see what you were up to. Let me know. We'll go get coffee or something."

And go from there.

just cut and paste the lines above and you're good to go.
 

bobbybe01

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Originally posted by: Nitemare
Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Just make sure you don't sign it

Your friend in Christ,
ai42
Pwned.


Yeah, don't tell her that you're in a romanced trance and that you admire her perfect qualities and beauty.
 

Chunkee

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she if would like a threesome

find another chick to participate

threesomes are good icebreakers from aged lost relations

njoy
 

Ladies Man

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Originally posted by: ed21x
Originally posted by: PabloMartinez
Just drop her an email and say "What's up! saw your dad the other day and just figured i'd drop you a line to see what you were up to. Let me know. We'll go get coffee or something."

And go from there.

just cut and paste the lines above and you're good to go.
 

Doboji

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Originally posted by: bobbybe01
Originally posted by: Nitemare
Nothing ventured nothing gained.

Just make sure you don't sign it

Your friend in Christ,
ai42
Pwned.


Yeah, don't tell her that you're in a romanced trance and that you admire her perfect qualities and beauty.

you beat me to it.... Look up any thread by Skywalker66, and do exactly the opposite.

-Max
 

clamum

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Send her an e-mail and tell her you saw her dad recently and they gave you her e-mail address, etc. What's the worst that could happen? She doesn't reply, you keep on not talking to her. What could happen? :)
 

PingSpike

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I was in a similar situation as yours a few years ago. I emailed her and about 2 weeks later she got back to me. We went out for a few months.

So its worth a shot.
 

KK

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Don't do it, you'll just get rejected and then you'll know you could never have her. whereas if you don't ask her then you could always have the hope that she'll go out with you someday. Ignorance is bliss.

:)

KK
 

TwinkleToes77

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Originally posted by: Ladies Man
Originally posted by: ed21x
Originally posted by: PabloMartinez
Just drop her an email and say "What's up! saw your dad the other day and just figured i'd drop you a line to see what you were up to. Let me know. We'll go get coffee or something."

And go from there.

just cut and paste the lines above and you're good to go.

take it from the Ladies Man... he knows how to get the girls.
 

Lash444

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Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
Originally posted by: Ladies Man
Originally posted by: ed21x
Originally posted by: PabloMartinez
Just drop her an email and say "What's up! saw your dad the other day and just figured i'd drop you a line to see what you were up to. Let me know. We'll go get coffee or something."

And go from there.

just cut and paste the lines above and you're good to go.

take it from the Ladies Man... he knows how to get the girls.

Id leave out these lines:


Originally posted by: PabloMartinez
And go from there.
 

bjc112

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Originally posted by: PabloMartinez
Just drop her an email and say "What's up! saw your dad the other day and just figured i'd drop you a line to see what you were up to. Let me know. We'll go get coffee or something."

And go from there.

Yep..

That's good route, and she will probably definitely want to hang out..