Should I call her or shouldnt I?

[thereds]

This girl and I went out on one date. She and I seemed to be getting along pretty well. I thought she liked me...she was always nice to me and I was always nice to her...awkward moments, nothing of the sort. The day before she was leaving for home, I went over to her place to wish her a happy b'day. I saw her roommate and asked if her roommate was single and if that she was single, maybe she and I could hook her roommate up with one of my friends.
Thats it. Nothing more, nothing else. It's been like 5 days. She hasn't called or emailed me. I left her a couple of messages on her answering machine. Obviously, I said something or did something for her to avoid me. I honestly believe that I didn't do anything wrong.
What should I do? I just want to know the reason why she avoids me now. If she doesnt want to see me thats fine, but i just want to know why? Am I justified in wanting to know this?
Should I call her in about 10 mins to find out?

edit I don't why I am posting this here, but I am hoping one of you guys can give me some idea on what to do. I guess thats why we meet here at the 'pub'.

 

[shiner]

Yeah sure...call her. I bet it's a misunderstanding in that she thought you were asking about her roommate for yourself. Of course you could try the rarely attempted and even more rarely successful "roommate dating switch."

Seriously give her a call...couldn't hurt....unless you've already waited too long.

 

[thereds]

Whats too long? It's only been 5 days.
Plus - I've left messages.

wtf, I posted after you and I appear above you. I've seen this before. hmmm.

 

[shiner]

Ohhh...could have used that info before.

If you have left messages and she hasn't returned them chances are that she is:

A) Not interested
B) Mad about the roommate thing
C) Found someone else

Me thinks thou art screwed.....

 

[thereds]

That's fine. I don't mind any of the reasons. I just want to know why. Thats all. Besides, I don't think the messages had to do anything with CALL ME BACK or anything like that. It was more like, have a merry xmas blah blah.

 

[thereds]

Okay, I am about to call her. Knowing her, she will probably not even pick up the phone. damn my good looks. hah

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Well, you're not back posting yet, is that a good sign?

 

[thereds]

no its not.
i need to pick my balls up first.
I am trying to figure out what to say....any ideas?

 

[shiner]

Go on...call her and then lets us know what happened....good or bad.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Well how long were you going out together w/everything being good and fine before this recent lapse?

Oh nevermind, I see just one date. You say you went over there the day before she was leaving for home, maybe she is just not back yet? It's still Christmas break, etc.

 

[thereds]

Any ideas on what I should say? Damnit, I hate this crap.

 

[thereds]

hmmm, say a month...we were never really an item but it was always assumed that we had it for each other. Atleast I assumed that. Man, this is some weird sh||.

YO_ma-ma - I know she is back since I called her on dialpad to make sure she is there at home and someone answered and since thats her phone only, it means that she is there.

If she 'isn't there' at home, I am planning on leaving this msg on her machine. Tell me if you think this is alright:
hey i guess there is something bothering you or something I did that has made you avoid me. Could you atleast tell me whats going on rather than leaving me in suspense? I'd appreciate it if you did.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Might just be the roommate... how did they answer? Personally no I wouldn't leave that kind of message. The only possibility I'm thinking of is she misinterpreted your asking if her roommate was single, and she might have thought your "let's set her up with a friend" response was just a cover or something?

 

[shiner]

Don't leave that message....she could take it that you are mad at her for not calling and that will open a whole new mess. Just call and talk to her. Take a deep breath, let your balls drop, be a man and call.

 

[thereds]

So what should I leave as a msg...

 

[T4NNER]

Women... they are all unique like men. No-one can tell you what to do for sure. Take a chance and call her. Expect to be rejected, and nothing more. If she says "yer a loozer", then hang up and go on with life (easier said than done). If she says something more positive, then you know you did the right thing.

 

[thereds]

Okay, I know what to say if she picks up. What msg do i leave if there 'isn't anyone at home'?

 

[T4NNER]

Do what feels natural. Be calm, and patient.

 

[thereds]

Oh my god, she really thinks I am an idiot. I called her place and supposedly her twin sister picks up. I guarandamntee it that it is her and not her sister.
Now I know...

 

[shiner]

Yep...forget it...she obviously decided to distance herself from you for some reason. To heck with it...move on. Do you think that a shark would be all upset just because he missed out on one piece of tuna? Hell no...there are a LOT more tuna in the ocean that he/you can catch.

 

[Yo Ma Ma]

Oh that just sucks, sorry to hear that..

 

[thereds]

I GOT HER! I USED DIALPAD, faked my voice a little and asked if I could speak to her. She started it off saying 'This is....her' but she didn't finish it. She asked who was calling and I gave some fake name. She probably picked up on my voice and said that she isn't in at home right now.

Wow, I really must have done something bad.

 

[shiner]

To heck with it...post her name & number here and we'll all take turns calling and asking what her problem is.

 

[Tripleshot]

This calls for a face to face meeting. Come back and post when you have done that and confirm you two are a couple or not.

Good Luck

 

[thereds]

shiner - I'd do that...trust me, I really would.

For now though, i am just gonna email her and request for an explanation. Seems the gentlemanly thing to do although she isn't behaving like a lady.

Man.