Should i ask her for forgiveness???

[littlegohan]

I know many of you have useful life experiences, so please help me

I need your advice


a month ago i talked to this girl about going to this university, i said science is easy to get in.
She got mad at me for some reason. (it might be that she said people that go to science need brains, and i told her that she shouldnt go than because she dosent have one) Anyways, a week ago, we had a test. She did quite bad on it (40/51)
Suprise, suprise, i did well (50/51
anyways she is piss off at me now. She said that I am not satisfy with my marks and that i am stupid etc in front of a bunch of people. (note: she read my marks from sheet that the teacher posted, i didnt boast or brag about it)

Ever since than, i havent spoken to her ( we werent friends before that happend, is just that now we have become enemies)

So do you think i should apoligize to her? I mean I dont like her (as in having affection for her) or anything, but i dont want to have an enemy in school.

I dont want anybody to HATE me.

i have come up with serveal soultions

a: goto her and say "plz forgive me, i was stupid etc....blah blah cliches corny crap

b:my school has this rose+card crap, i cant write on the card about asking for forgiveness and have it delieverd to her class. the problem is that the rose will be delierd on the same block that i am having class with her, so i still cant avoid confrontation.(i am afraind by sending her the rose, she will think i like her.
then she will purposely "dump" me in front of a whole classs and that sucks)

 

[Atlantean]

Do the rose thing, but say on the card that this rose isn't cause you like her or anything, just a rose between friends. OR something lame like that.

 

[pillage2001]

She hates you for getting 50/51??

WTF?

 

[rival]

just go up to her and tell her you are sorry for what you said or somethin along those lines, maybe eat lunch with her?

 

[littlegohan]

<< She hates you for getting 50/51??

WTF? >>



yeah, some ppl are just jealous

dont think the eating lunch thing would be a great idea cus she sits with a bunch of girls and they will think i like her or something

 

[notfred]

40/51 is a C+. How is that "quite bad"?

 

[pillage2001]

<<

<< She hates you for getting 50/51??

WTF? >>



yeah, some ppl are just jealous >>



Forget about asking for her forgiveness. She just being a b|tch. Not worth anything IMO.

 

[littlegohan]

<< 40/51 is a C+. How is that "quite bad"? >>



cus after the test, my mark for that course went up to 97
she drops to 89

i think she always sees me as a competitor

 

[Noriaki]

<< and i told her that she shouldnt go than because she dosent have one >>

Uhmmm?

You don't want her to be mad at you, yet you said this?

If she's mad at you because you did better than her on a test, f*ck her. But if you are saying things like that, then yeah she's probably justified in being pissed at you.

Whether or not you want to apologize is totally up to you. But if you said something like that, I'd say she's got every right to be psised atyou.

 

[CKDragon]

<< Do the rose thing, but say on the card that this rose isn't cause you like her or anything, just a rose between friends. OR something lame like that. >>



Good idea,

This doesn't sound like a very serious situation. A little bit of an argument isn't a big thing, if nothing else works, give it a few weeks and try to talk again. Time heals...

CK

 

[oLLie]

<< Do the rose thing, but say on the card that this rose isn't cause you like her or anything, just a rose between friends. OR something lame like that.
>>


Do what he said but just clarify that you were only joking when u made fun of her and didn't mean to hurt her feelings.

 

[Zim Hosein]

I can't believe no one asked yet, got PICS of her?

There, now littlegohan, I know you say you don't want anyone to hate you, but honestly, if you like yourself, who cares?

edit: Can't spell

 

[littlegohan]

i dont have her pics and i dont see what that has to do with my dilemma



anyways, you people who suggest the rose thing, i have a question. will she think i like her by sending that ?

 

[Chris A]

<< i think she always sees me as a competitor >>



Forget about it and move on.. She will never stop competing no matter how much you kiss up.. Just smile and say Hi when you can..

 

[j@cko]

I don't think it's worth of apology really, because you didn't do anything wrong on your part. It is HER own problem, the jealousy is causing the problem. So why apologize? I mean, like you said, you don't have affection on her or anything. Besides, it's gonna be like that in the work place or some where when you enter the society... So... it's not a big deal...

Oh, but you probably need to apologize to her for saying that she doesn't have a brain. How would you feel if some one tells you that you don't have a brain, or you're dumb?

 

[Atlantean]

SHe won't think you like her if you write on the card that you are not sending it becaues you like her, but you are sending it as more of a peace offering.

 

[littlegohan]

<< I don't think it's worth of apology really, because you didn't do anything wrong on your part. It is HER own problem, the jealousy is causing the problem. So why apologize? I mean, like you said, you don't have affection on her or anything. Besides, it's gonna be like that in the work place or some where when you enter the society... So... it's not a big deal... >>



good point, but my my morals and religon both encourage me to "reconcile" with enemies
i see the good in that, cus having an enemy is always a bad thing

 

[j@cko]

<< good point, but my my morals and religon both encourage me to "reconcile" with enemies
i see the good in that, cus having an enemy is always a bad thing >>



Sure, try to apologize to her, like I said, I still think you should apologize to her for calling her not having a brian.

 

[Mday]

<< i dont have her pics and i dont see what that has to do with my dilemma



anyways, you people who suggest the rose thing, i have a question. will she think i like her by sending that ? >>



lol... hahaa, littlegohan, you are quite the n0ob here...

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anyway

just let things be... if she is petty, you might as well just let things lay where they may....

why are you feeling bad because she is getting worse marks?

 

[geekybear]

don't do anything. you said you weren't friends before, so it's really not worth going to all that effort anyway. besides, it sounds like now the two of you are even: she told people you were stupid, you told her she has no brains. not everyone will like you all the time, so just get over it. forget it ever happened.

 

[geekybear]

one more thing...

and what is all this stuff about 'enemies?' how does someone saying something that everyone but you has forgotten about by now make the two of you 'enemies?' with that kind of attitude about things, no wonder people don't like you. once again, GET OVER IT!

 

[Orsorum]

Honestly....

I went out with a girl like this... toward the end of high school, I basically got a ton of scholarships (four or five, full ride through college, etc), some newspaper stories, lots of awards from the school, etc etc... and she didn't really get anything. She played on my sense of modesty and self-deprecation to the point of me feeling guilty for the results of my sacrifices throughout k-12 education... I realize now that I earned what I got, and that she had no right to play those guilt trips on me.

I wouldn't waste my time. Tell her to get over it, and ask for help if she wants it.

 

[bigshooter]

maybe she should have studied for that test?

 

[Antisocial Virge]

<< it might be that she said people that go to science need brains, and i told her that she shouldnt go than because she dosent have one >>



How old are you? 12?



<< .(i am afraind by sending her the rose, she will think i like her. then she will purposely "dump" me in front of a whole classs and that sucks) >>



Might I suggest this.

 

[UberNeuman]

<< I dont want anybody to HATE me. >>



You better try living where there's no people - there's always someone who hate you for whatever reason and there's not much you can do about it but forget it....