She lets her b/f sleep over at his ex's place

[daveymark]

A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years. She lets him sleep over at his ex g/f's house.

She says she's ok with that because they "share a huge level of trust"

I think that's a little weird, and he's most likely banging the ex. what do you think?

 

[swtethan]

I would NEVER let anyone do that, why the hell is he sleeping there anyway?

 

[mugs]

Huge level of trust? More like a huge level of naivete. What is the supposed purpose of his spending the night at his ex's house?

 

[Zugzwang152]

umm, the fact that he WANTS to sleep at the ex's place is bad enough.

 

[ed0ggyd0gg]

Originally posted by: daveymark
A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years. She lets him sleep over at his ex g/f's house.

She says she's ok with that because they "share a huge level of trust"

I think that's a little weird, and he's most likely banging the ex. what do you think?

So huge that apparently he can fvck his ex without repercussion.

 

[stars]

Your friend is naive and her bf is inconsiderate. Does she buy his condoms to?

 

[chrisms]

That's pretty bad. She'll realize her mistake soon enough

 

[ed0ggyd0gg]

On the other hand, kudos to that prick. He managed to convince that poor girl that nothing was happening. Either she is seriously oblivious to all common sense, or he is one hell of a smooth talker.

May he reside in hell for eternity, and the only part of his body that burns shall be his penis. Amen.

 

[I Saw OJ]

Your friend is an idiot.

 

[chambersc]

Yeah, why is he sleeping over his ex and not her? I'm not understanding her reasoning here.

 

[0roo0roo]

does it matter?
some people have to learn the hard way

 

[chrisms]

Kind of reminds me of this Marine that got back from Iraq that my ex used to work with. He has a girlfriend (or had a girlfriend) that is completely devoted to him. He was driving up and down my ex's street asking "When are we gonna hook up?" for like 20 minutes, and she refused to tell him where she lived. Even after clearly telling him to f off he didn't get the point, until finally she forwarded his messages to his girlfriend. I don't think they're together anymore and he is back in Iraq.

I say she wasn't supporting the troops!

 

[amicold]

Originally posted by: daveymark
A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years. She lets him sleep over at his ex g/f's house.

She says she's ok with that because they "share a huge level of trust"

I think that's a little weird, and he's most likely banging the ex. what do you think?

It's entirely possible he's not. People do move on, and if he's been with this girl for two years I'm sure he's long forgot about his ex that way.

 

[fire400]

I'm trying to see something from the guy's point of view...

He probably doesn't grasp the concept... "growing up means growing up, so stop wasting time trying to look like you're the opposite of moving forward."
-his mind needs to be rewired with the ingredients that include the successful construction of 'common sense.'

 

[clickynext]

Trust also means trusting that he won't do anything that seriously puts his faith into question.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: clickynext
Trust also means trusting that he won't do anything that seriously puts his faith into question.

Insightful++

 

[yhelothar]

I think you have to actually look at the situation to determine if it's rational to let him sleep over.
You can still be very good platonic friends with your ex. I have platonic relationships with a few of my ex's.
It's not that black and white.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: swtethan
I would NEVER let anyone do that, why the hell is he sleeping there anyway?

How can YOU control what the other person does?!?! Are you her father? No, didn't think so....

 

[yhelothar]

If she has the grounds to believe that her boyfriend wants to sleep with his ex, then she probably should break up anyways. Not letting him sleep over won't accomplish anything for the relationship and will only indicate a lack of trust.
Her only choices should be to either let him sleep over or to break up with him. She trusts him enough to choose the former. Maybe she is wrong, but if they're very open to each other, then it's not unreasonable to be trusting.

 

[Zoblefu]

Maybe the "huge level of trust" == "we both let each other sleep around"

Some relationships are like that

 

[mobobuff]

Originally posted by: amicold

Originally posted by: daveymark
A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for 2 years. She lets him sleep over at his ex g/f's house.

She says she's ok with that because they "share a huge level of trust"

I think that's a little weird, and he's most likely banging the ex. what do you think?

It's entirely possible he's not. People do move on, and if he's been with this girl for two years I'm sure he's long forgot about his ex that way.

Sooooooooo detatched.

 

[alkemyst]

Originally posted by: Zoblefu
Maybe the "huge level of trust" == "we both let each other sleep around"

Some relationships are like that

exactly. I am sure stuff is happening and I am sure the couple has an agreement to what the bounds are.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

I once tried to be friend with an ex, We both agreed that wasn't possible after I finished having sex with her.

 

[Chiropteran]

Originally posted by: astroidea

You can still be very good platonic friends with your ex. I have platonic relationships with a few of my ex's.

Do they sleep at your house?

Because I can't think of ANY reason to sleep at a "platonic friends" house.

 

[Juno]

depends on the level of trust. my ex and i broke up and now we are best friends. sometimes i sleep over her house. oh yeah, we'll NOT re-enact any acts together ever!