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selling our home

slag

slag

Lifer
Doesn't make sense sometimes. We've been doing all these things to get our house ready to put on the market. In our area of the world, our 1900 square foot home, 4 bedrooms, 2.5 bath with finished basement goes for around $175-200k. We're trying to get the upper limit because the house we want to buy is 3850 square foot and costs about 350k.

So, I replaced the countertops this past weekend. Ripped out the circa 1973 countertops and put in new ones from home depot. I replaced 4 of our interior doors as well. We got a quote to replace the carpet in the basement and 3 boys bedrooms which will be done right before we put it on the market. We are regrouting the bathrooms this weekend and I'm installing a new shower door in the master bath. We're putting in a new backsplash in the kitchen as well and are repainting a TON of stuff in the house.

My wife mentioned that after we're done with all of this, maybe she won't want to move. She absolutely loves the kitchen now. GRRRRRR.. I think this was part of her plan all along!!!

She has mentioned more than once that it will be hard to leave because this is the home where we have raised our kids. I keep reminding her about having the laundry facilities on the 2nd floor instead of the basement, having a free flowing floor plan and twice the room. Keep your eye on the prize I tell her. I hope its sinking in.
 
i listed my house last fall. got a good offer on day 3, but my wife told me that she was not emotionally ready to sell. she was crying almost every day. the deal eventually fell thru. i think women go thru a grieving process when they sell a house.

eta: it just occurred to me that my wife did not have a problem selling our prior house. in that case, we bought our current house first, and then we had no choice but to sell our prior house. that was pretty normal 10 years ago. too bad mortgage lending has changed so that we can't do that anymore.
 
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What you need to do is take her to see the new houses. If she's like most women she'll find one she loves and will want to move.
 
Oh she loves the new house we are looking at. We took the kids by last week also and they really liked it. The reality of it is that she is tied to the memories in our current home. I told her we can make more memories in this newer and larger one. It has a perfect place for the hot tub, nice layout, etc. We have pictures of the kids at various stages of growth too. I think we are just wired differently, men vs women.
 
zardthebuilder said:
i listed my house last fall. got a good offer on day 3, but my wife told me that she was not emotionally ready to sell. she was crying almost every day. the deal eventually fell thru. i think women go thru a grieving process when they sell a house.

eta: it just occurred to me that my wife did not have a problem selling our prior house. in that case, we bought our current house first, and then we had no choice but to sell our prior house. that was pretty normal 10 years ago. too bad mortgage lending has changed so that we can't do that anymore.
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We don't make enough to own both homes and float the first until it sells. We could do it, but it would be painful and I'd rather not try that out.
 
That happened with the people we bought our house from. We heard from the neighbors she (the wife) didn't realize how hard it would be to move away from the home they brought their kids home to, etc. Plus they almost completely remodeled it over the course of 10 years and were about to start the same process with their new home. I think I felt nostalgic when we moved out of our apartment for about 20 minutes....that was that 😛
 
Once your kids move out if they don't boomerang back that is going to be a lot of space to take care of, heat and cool. 1900 is an awesome size for 2 people.

I'll wager the workmanship and materials you put into the kitchen will already be better than the lowest paid bidder/builder grade materials new houses you are looking at.
 
TheSlamma said:
Once your kids move out if they don't boomerang back that is going to be a lot of space to take care of, heat and cool. 1900 is an awesome size for 2 people.

I'll wager the workmanship and materials you put into the kitchen will already be better than the lowest paid bidder/builder grade materials new houses you are looking at.
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We only plan on living in this other house for 4-8 years. We'll then sell and downgrade. The house we are looking at has been redone inside. The owner's wife is an interior designer and if she didn't like something, she ripped it out and did it how she liked it. We really like the look and style of the house.
 
maybe it's a cultural thing but I don't understand moving to a bigger house for such a low amount of time, unless you actually have 3 kids and the house feels cramped.
 
Murloc said:
maybe it's a cultural thing but I don't understand moving to a bigger house for such a low amount of time, unless you actually have 3 kids and the house feels cramped.
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Thats the problem right now. We need our space and just don't have it with this house.
 
A "simple" regrout job this weekend turned into ripping out the entire master shower, removing moldy insulation and materials, spraying everything down with chlorox, wiping it off, and respraying it, letting everything dry, and then putting new vapor barrier, cement board, painting on a membrane, then new tile, and grout still to come tonight or tomorrow. Then I will tackle the floor as the floor near the shower is rotten and needs to be cut out. Should be able to take my circular saw at 1/2 inch and cut out the old plywood and replace just that section, starting about 3 feet out just to be safe. Then I'm laying a new vinyl plank floor and new top on the vanity and will reinstall the toilet I had to take out to remove the plywood floor.
 
The owner of the home we want doesn't want to accept contingency offers, especially since we aren't ready to put our home on the market yet. Lots of "little" things to do, but there's no reason the couple whose home we want should dismiss other offers while waiting on us to get our shit in gear and house sold.
 
I dread pulling off my tile. I've conceded that I'll be stripping the whole thing down to the studs.
I usually go into little "projects" expecting the worse case. If it turns out to be easier, that's a bonus.
 
Contingencies are still common.
We received 3 contingent offers on our house and denied all 3 instantly via email.
The house we bought had multiple contingent offers, but they accepted ours due to us not having a contingency.

Selling your house outright first is a huge benefit.
The down side is moving to temporary housing while you house shop, and storing all your crap in the meantime.
 
after my wife and I moved a long time ago, we said "Lets do the improvements we want now, not when we think we want to sell."

I just remember how miserable we lived with certain little things in our old home, and were forced to fix them just to sell it.

On the plus side, if you guys love your new house, you could theoretically dump $100,000 into it 😛
 
slag said:
A "simple" regrout job this weekend turned into ripping out the entire master shower, removing moldy insulation and materials, spraying everything down with chlorox, wiping it off, and respraying it, letting everything dry, and then putting new vapor barrier, cement board, painting on a membrane, then new tile, and grout still to come tonight or tomorrow. Then I will tackle the floor as the floor near the shower is rotten and needs to be cut out. Should be able to take my circular saw at 1/2 inch and cut out the old plywood and replace just that section, starting about 3 feet out just to be safe. Then I'm laying a new vinyl plank floor and new top on the vanity and will reinstall the toilet I had to take out to remove the plywood floor.
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I dealt with this too, lol. Except I had to remove each tile carefully to reuse it, then clean each tile off by hand.

Just make sure you are doing everything to code. Just because it's in the bathroom doesn't mean it needs a vapor barrier...some insulation already has a paper barrier and there shouldn't be another barrier on top of it (from what I remember)
 
edro said:
Contingencies are still common.
We received 3 contingent offers on our house and denied all 3 instantly via email.
The house we bought had multiple contingent offers, but they accepted ours due to us not having a contingency.

Selling your house outright first is a huge benefit.
The down side is moving to temporary housing while you house shop, and storing all your crap in the meantime.
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okay, contingencies are not extinct. but worthless.
 
mizzou said:
after my wife and I moved a long time ago, we said "Lets do the improvements we want now, not when we think we want to sell."

I just remember how miserable we lived with certain little things in our old home, and were forced to fix them just to sell it.
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i totally agree. we fixed so much in our house to make it ready to sell. in hindsight, we should have done it as we encountered the problems. on the up side, our buyers are buying it "as-is", so at least we have nothing else to fix.
 
zardthebuilder said:
okay, contingencies are not extinct. but worthless.
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It just depends IMHO. For example, if my buyer has a contingency that their current property has to close escrow, that's not so bad since things are lined up.

But again, completely market dependent. Would you accept a higher offer with a contingency? Hard to say until you have to make that decision.
 
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