Self-confidence rating

Hyperblaze

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On a scale of 1 to 10, what would you describe as your self-confidence when it comes to ladies, which are 8-10.

I don't mean a butter face. I'm talking about a girl who you are attracted to (ie, consider hot)

If it's not a perfect 10, what do you think could improve your self-confidence?
 

JulesMaximus

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See, I don't have a problem talking to women...being married kind of helps though as I'm not trying to get a date.

I'd rate my self-confidence as 9.
 

halik

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Oct 10, 2000
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9 for sure,
of all traits in my personality, confidence is the strongest.... and my girlfriend is a hottie, so it shows :D
 

Special K

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Jun 18, 2000
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I'll never understand this whole self-confidence thing. No matter how highly you think of yourself, there's always going to be another guy out there whose better than you at whatever it is you are proud of yourself for.
 

bsobel

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I said 8. I only date a certain type of woman and if I already know she's that type I'd say I'm a 9, if I don't and have to find out, a 7. Hence the average of 8.

I also hate meetings in bars or other quick settings, I do great when I can talk to them for more than 5 minutes. Less than 5, not so great :)
 

FallenHero

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Originally posted by: Special K
I'll never understand this whole self-confidence thing. No matter how highly you think of yourself, there's always going to be another guy out there whose better than you at whatever it is you are proud of yourself for.

Self defeating attitude doesn't help there man. Its not a matter of "someone else is better" its "I believe I am better at this than most" or "I am confident I know what I am doing."
 

xtknight

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Oct 15, 2004
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Originally posted by: Special K
I'll never understand this whole self-confidence thing. No matter how highly you think of yourself, there's always going to be another guy out there whose better than you at whatever it is you are proud of yourself for.

Not always. There's an apex somewhere. I bet you that lots of people have reached the apex in a very specific field.

When you have more confidence in yourself, you can do more. Lack of confidence is one reason why people give up when they can actually do something with their physical self. You need the mental aspect too. It gives you more strength.
 

JEDI

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Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
On a scale of 1 to 10, what would you describe as your self-confidence when it comes to ladies, which are 8-10.

I don't mean a butter face. I'm talking about a girl who you are attracted to (ie, consider hot)

If it's not a perfect 10, what do you think could improve your self-confidence?

doesnt matter the girl

approach, start a convo

if she keeps up the convo, ask for her #
 

Special K

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Jun 18, 2000
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Originally posted by: xtknight
Originally posted by: Special K
I'll never understand this whole self-confidence thing. No matter how highly you think of yourself, there's always going to be another guy out there whose better than you at whatever it is you are proud of yourself for.

Not always. There's an apex somewhere. I bet you that lots of people have reached the apex in a very specific field.

When you have more confidence in yourself, you can do more. Lack of confidence is one reason why people give up when they can actually do something with their physical self. You need the mental aspect too. It gives you more strength.

Well statiscally speaking, most people cannot be the best at something. Plus even if you are the best at one thing, chances are you are sub-par at something else.

 

xtknight

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Originally posted by: Special K
Originally posted by: xtknight
Originally posted by: Special K
I'll never understand this whole self-confidence thing. No matter how highly you think of yourself, there's always going to be another guy out there whose better than you at whatever it is you are proud of yourself for.

Not always. There's an apex somewhere. I bet you that lots of people have reached the apex in a very specific field.

When you have more confidence in yourself, you can do more. Lack of confidence is one reason why people give up when they can actually do something with their physical self. You need the mental aspect too. It gives you more strength.

Well statiscally speaking, most people cannot be the best at something. Plus even if you are the best at one thing, chances are you are sub-par at something else.

Confidence is not being the best at something. It's believing that you are. The psychological factor helps you do stuff that your logical mind doesn't believe you can do. It doesn't matter if you actually are the best or not.

With more confidence, you only get better at something. So, effectively, the more confidence you have in yourself, the better you will do at everything. You're basically strengthening yourself up on the fly. Or if you want it in chemistry terms, confidence is the catalyst in the chemical reaction of your thoughts. Haven't you ever felt like running 100 mph and karate chopping everybody in the world? :p

There is no such thing as just having confidence in one thing. You either have confidence in everything, or you have low self-confidence over all, at least if you're speaking of your self-esteem.
 

chrisms

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Mar 9, 2003
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Originally posted by: xtknight
There is no such thing as just having confidence in one thing. You either have confidence in everything, or you have low self-confidence over all, at least if you're speaking of your self-esteem.

I have high self-esteem and a lot of confidence but in certain situations I freeze up like a hermit crab in Antarctica.

Sorry thats the best I can come up with.
 

her209

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Oct 11, 2000
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The only way I can describe self-confidence is like when you are pwning on CS:S or something similar and you're like "****** yeah b*tches!".
 

npoe1

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I think that I have low confidence because I always over analyze everything, when I will approach to a girl I always look forward to have a very good excuse to talk her and I?m always picky.