Science of Attraction

[HBalzer]

So I was watching the national geographic channel last night the show was Naked Science and they where talking about the science of love and attraction.

So here are some interesting things I learned that might help you single people:
1. Fear increases the love drive - So make the first date a scary one or try meeting someone in a scary place the test they did was on a high bridge.
2. This one is somewhat well known the bigger the pupils are shows their interest so second date should be with candle light
3. Impress them with your physical abilities ? so play a sport (and I don?t think extreme gaming counts)
4. When a woman sees a photo of someone they love their brain pumps blood to the memory part. They said the woman is trying to think back on all the things you have done that would make you a good father. So be nice, keep promises, and show your brain power.

 

[Lola]

We were watching that as well...
It was a very interesting show.
I learned a lot.

 

[Lola]

You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

I included that in number 4 be nice and show your brain power

 

[Soccerman06]

I know another way: (course I have never personally tried it)

15 shots of any hard liquor.

Edit, doesnt hurt to be packin 8+ either.

 

[pontifex]

Originally posted by: HBalzer
So I was watching the national geographic channel last night the show was Naked Science and they where talking about the science of love and attraction.

So here are some interesting things I learned that might help you single people:
1. Fear increases the love drive - So make the first date a scary one or try meeting someone in a scary place the test they did was on a high bridge.
2. This one is somewhat well known the bigger the pupils are shows their interest so second date should be with candle light
3. Impress them with your physical abilities ? so play a sport (and I don?t think extreme gaming counts)
4. When a woman sees a photo of someone they love their brain pumps blood to the memory part. They said the woman is trying to think back on all the things you have done that would make you a good father. So be nice, keep promises, and show your brain power.

i'm sure a girl is going to want to go somewhere dangerous with a guy she just met...

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

i agree with that.

 

[MrDudeMan]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

you may be intelligent and kind from your prespective, but so was hitler from his point of view. catch my drift? your other problem you might be a little too arrogant if you actually consider yourself intelligent compared to others. you have some stuff to think about.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

Pushover or kind. Very different.

Are you kind to everyone you meet or know? Or just to certain people who push you around. Are you decisive, showing leadership?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

i agree with that.

i totally think that is correct.

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: HBalzer
So I was watching the national geographic channel last night the show was Naked Science and they where talking about the science of love and attraction.

So here are some interesting things I learned that might help you single people:
1. Fear increases the love drive - So make the first date a scary one or try meeting someone in a scary place the test they did was on a high bridge.
2. This one is somewhat well known the bigger the pupils are shows their interest so second date should be with candle light
3. Impress them with your physical abilities ? so play a sport (and I don?t think extreme gaming counts)
4. When a woman sees a photo of someone they love their brain pumps blood to the memory part. They said the woman is trying to think back on all the things you have done that would make you a good father. So be nice, keep promises, and show your brain power.

i'm sure a girl is going to want to go somewhere dangerous with a guy she just met...

They suggested an amusement park, but man think use your imagination, think what a hot air balloon ride would be like or a helicopter ride over the city.

 

[dullard]

Originally posted by: pontifex
so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

You first have to be on the date to let your date to see that you are kind and intelligent.

To get the date you have to be bold and assertive. Then your date can see your kind and intelligent sides on the date.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: HBalzer
So I was watching the national geographic channel last night the show was Naked Science and they where talking about the science of love and attraction.

So here are some interesting things I learned that might help you single people:
1. Fear increases the love drive - So make the first date a scary one or try meeting someone in a scary place the test they did was on a high bridge.
2. This one is somewhat well known the bigger the pupils are shows their interest so second date should be with candle light
3. Impress them with your physical abilities ? so play a sport (and I don?t think extreme gaming counts)
4. When a woman sees a photo of someone they love their brain pumps blood to the memory part. They said the woman is trying to think back on all the things you have done that would make you a good father. So be nice, keep promises, and show your brain power.

i'm sure a girl is going to want to go somewhere dangerous with a guy she just met...

They suggested an amusement park, but man think use your imagination, think what a hot air balloon ride would be like or a helicopter ride over the city.

Or a trip up a skyrise, eiffel tower...

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: HBalzer
So I was watching the national geographic channel last night the show was Naked Science and they where talking about the science of love and attraction.

So here are some interesting things I learned that might help you single people:
1. Fear increases the love drive - So make the first date a scary one or try meeting someone in a scary place the test they did was on a high bridge.
2. This one is somewhat well known the bigger the pupils are shows their interest so second date should be with candle light
3. Impress them with your physical abilities ? so play a sport (and I don?t think extreme gaming counts)
4. When a woman sees a photo of someone they love their brain pumps blood to the memory part. They said the woman is trying to think back on all the things you have done that would make you a good father. So be nice, keep promises, and show your brain power.

i'm sure a girl is going to want to go somewhere dangerous with a guy she just met...

They suggested an amusement park, but man think use your imagination, think what a hot air balloon ride would be like or a helicopter ride over the city.

Or a trip up a skyrise, eiffel tower...

Now we are getting somewhere

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: dullard

Originally posted by: pontifex
so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

You first have to be on the date to let your date to see that you are kind and intelligent.

To get the date you have to be bold and assertive. Then your date can see your kind and intelligent sides on the date.

True No confidence = no date only thing I can say is get out there and talk to everyone or take public speaking.

 

[AMDZen]

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

you may be intelligent and kind from your prespective, but so was hitler from his point of view. catch my drift? your other problem you might be a little too arrogant if you actually consider yourself intelligent compared to others. you have some stuff to think about.

When did he compare himself to others?

Back to the thread. The so called "facts" so far mentioned in this thread are irrelevant depending on the age of the girl. I also saw some stats in my local paper this morning that said, for every 100 single female's in their 20's, there are 130 or so males. The odds aren't in the guys favor at my age (and a lot of others in this thread).

Also, women in their early to mid twenties are not wavered by intelligence and kindness. Thats just BS if you ask me. Maybe by their late 20's, or early 30's when their biological clock kicks in and they realize whats important. So I ask, did these so called "studies" take age into account? But I don't buy it.

Women want a confident guy, even cocky. They also like a sense of humor, I'd say these are the two most important aspects for this age group. Kindness? Hell, I'd even go so far as to say that women really do like the bad guy. Not long term, but for finding a date you should almost be a bit of a dick sometimes. A lot of women are also superficial at that age, even if they claim not to be - and looks are more important to women then they claim. I always hear "women are less visual" this is true once women grow up, but not at all true for the college age women.

Such studies are BS.

 

[Atheus]

Alternative theory:

1) Be tall, thin, and good looking
2) Score

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: Atheus
Alternative theory:

1) Be tall, thin, and good looking
2) Score

nope... not usually. Those are the ones that are usually the most shallow, most self absorbed, ingorant and boring.
Time erodes all such beauty, so one better have a personality and non-physicial atributes as well.

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: Atheus
Alternative theory:

1) Be tall, thin, and good looking
2) Score

So you have never seen some ugly dude with a fine woman? I know I have! They must know something and something must work!

 

[talyn00]

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: DaShen

Originally posted by: HBalzer

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: HBalzer
So I was watching the national geographic channel last night the show was Naked Science and they where talking about the science of love and attraction.

So here are some interesting things I learned that might help you single people:
1. Fear increases the love drive - So make the first date a scary one or try meeting someone in a scary place the test they did was on a high bridge.
2. This one is somewhat well known the bigger the pupils are shows their interest so second date should be with candle light
3. Impress them with your physical abilities ? so play a sport (and I don?t think extreme gaming counts)
4. When a woman sees a photo of someone they love their brain pumps blood to the memory part. They said the woman is trying to think back on all the things you have done that would make you a good father. So be nice, keep promises, and show your brain power.

i'm sure a girl is going to want to go somewhere dangerous with a guy she just met...

They suggested an amusement park, but man think use your imagination, think what a hot air balloon ride would be like or a helicopter ride over the city.

Or a trip up a skyrise, eiffel tower...

Now we are getting somewhere

you can always stage a mugging

 

[HBalzer]

Originally posted by: AMDZen

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th

Originally posted by: pontifex

Originally posted by: LolaWiz
You forgot to mention the two things that are MOST important to others in finding a good mate...
studies they did showed intelligence and kindness.
Very interesting.

so uh why can't i get a date. i'm both of those things

you may be intelligent and kind from your prespective, but so was hitler from his point of view. catch my drift? your other problem you might be a little too arrogant if you actually consider yourself intelligent compared to others. you have some stuff to think about.

When did he compare himself to others?

Back to the thread. The so called "facts" so far mentioned in this thread are irrelevant depending on the age of the girl. I also saw some stats in my local paper this morning that said, for every 100 single female's in their 20's, there are 130 or so males. The odds aren't in the guys favor at my age (and a lot of others in this thread).

Also, women in their early to mid twenties are not wavered by intelligence and kindness. Thats just BS if you ask me. Maybe by their late 20's, or early 30's when their biological clock kicks in and they realize whats important. So I ask, did these so called "studies" take age into account? But I don't buy it.

Women want a confident guy, even cocky. They also like a sense of humor, I'd say these are the two most important aspects for this age group. Kindness? Hell, I'd even go so far as to say that women really do like the bad guy. Not long term, but for finding a date you should almost be a bit of a dick sometimes. A lot of women are also superficial at that age, even if they claim not to be - and looks are more important to women then they claim. I always hear "women are less visual" this is true once women grow up, but not at all true for the college age women.

Such studies are BS.

Like DaShen said pushover and kind are very different. Being kind doesn't mean you can't say no. You can still make the woman work for things.

 

[Fireball77]

This has seemed to work with me.....

Go see a really bad movie....i.e. When a Stranger Calls, Dark Water
They are supposed to be scary, but are just down right horrible movies. And when they are so bad, you now have something to laugh and talk about.

Also, make the girl feel comfortable....I have been told that I am not too touchy feely, which they end up liking, because they feel comfortable around me. Which has ended up to them trusting me, and which leads to more.

Also, not being so subtle, and knowing when you can be risque with the way you talk to them....make sex jokes, call them a freak....it gets them worked up and gets them blushing and lets you know you are interested.

Like I said, these have worked for me.

 

[BAMAVOO]

Where is the show them your **** comments? Has ATOT grown up?

I did see the 8+ comment, but am shocked that nothing else was said.

 

[illusion88]

Personally I use the "foot in the door" technique.
People feel better about other people if they are thinking and acting positively towards other people. I ask a girl to do a small favor early in the night, knowing that she will be more inclined to grant a larger favor later. Even if it is something small and seemingly misogynistic ("get me a beer will ya?"). When helping someone out, you are thinking and doing positive actions towards that person, which causes you to like them more. I telling you, it?s the key to life.