Originally posted by: CU
Originally posted by: Craig234
Originally posted by: CU
Originally posted by: Craig234
No. It's racist because of the history making it racist, and the person choosing to say it given that history.
Obviously, if someone had lived in a cave since birth and didn't know the history, they wouoldn't know not to say it; they could then be told how big an oops it was, and say 'sorry, didn't know'. But go find me a public official who is unaware of the black-Simian racism history, that it's a racist thing to say.
You are trying to blame the victim. You are being obtuse.
I tire of the people who pull this crap - it's so often 14 year olds explaining how 'i love you' means a cigarette in England, so it's ok to say ha ha ha. Idiocy.
I speak to you as a reasonable person - you come back too many times with BS blaming the victim here, and that can change.
I agree it is racist because of history, but you said it would be racist until the reference meant nothing. For it to not mean something the people being offended by it must not let it mean something or offend them thus they are part of the problem. The offended need to stop taking things in the worst way and people saying things should assume people will take things in the worst way. That way if either side makes a mistake it should not offend anyone.
My comment was 'until the reference means nothing' because the racism has become forgotten from lack of use - not 'means nothing' because the targets 'ignore it'.
You are blaming the victim there. How about I insult your mother, and then say you are part of the problem for saying it's offensive, when you could just ignore it?
Are you really partly in the wrong there? No. You could ignore it, but you are not wrong to object.
"Forgotten from lack of use" does clarify that more, and I see your point that would allow a statement like what was made to not be racist because no one would remember how to take it in a racist way. I do however believe this will take a very long time to happen. I think a quicker way would be for people to stop taking things in a racist unless that is the only absolute way to take it. Make the offender come out and use a real insult or admit to saying it to be racist. Although by the time you convinced the world to do that "Forgotten from lack of use" would have already worked. LOL. So, I guess it is here to stay and we all better watch what we say.
Thanks for this reasonable response. I'd just add I'm not sure you appreciate that your desired standard would leave a lot of racist innuendo going on.
14 year olds who love to say 'i love you' and defend it by saying 'maybe they only a mean a cigarette in England' would rejoice with your new lax policy.
Depending on the what you said about my mother it may be my fault. If you called her fat, and she really was then it is partly my fault. Because if that is all you said then I really should only be offended by it if I assume you were trying to say it as an insult, and without further context clues that would be wrong. But if you called her a fat b****, then it would not be my fault because I don't see how that could be taken anyway besides and insult.
I'm talking, though, about racism, not defensible racial statements. The reference to the 'blacks and monkeys' racism is a problem, I'm not talking about someone saying, in a responsible context, 'African Americans commit a disprortionate percentage of crimes',which is analagous to your mother actually being overweight. (Not that it's right to go around insulting based on weight, and if someone did say that, it's probaly at attack aimed at you, not your mother).
As for what was said about the First Lady it was a one sentence post with no context except for him saying later it was about making fun of her evolution speech. And even with the later context he added a lot of people still think he said it as a racist comment. I just don't see why people look for the worst way to take things. Call me naive, but I try to look for the good in everyone and everything.
I can even accept that he might be telling the truth, but the point is, that because of the history, it's still wrong.
Maybe an anecdote will help (true story). A young man saw a news story about a man who had been killed while working on his car, and he used a torch to open the gas tank - it exploded. This young man and his brother laughed hysterically at the idiocy of the man doing that. Not long after, they had a visitor - the mother of the man who was killed, who turned out to know his parents, and he got to see their grief, and realized what an ass he'd been to laugh as he did. Think he'd say to her 'that's sad and all, but isn't the idiocy funny?'
The fact is, if Michelle Obama were white, he could probably be ok with the joke; on that issue, there's a different standard, because the history is different for blacks.
I like that you see good in situations and give the benefit of the doubt, but that doesn't make it ok to open the door for racists to demand their insinuations be allowed.
As I said before, the right response is for the guy to explain that he didn't mean it as racist, say sorry now that he realizes it.
Kind of like Obama did on his 'special olympics' gaffe when he only meant to make himself the tarkget of the joke, but actually accidentally made fun of people with disabilites.