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Rebekah Karli Grill
I'm currently sitting in a hospital room with my wife who is asleep right now. She is 22 weeks pregnent and began having complications today. Basically, her cervix is opening and the doctors aren't sure if they can close it back. The baby herself is perfectly fine. My wife is going into surgery tomorrow morning at 7:30AM to see if there is anything that can be done but the doctors aren't optimistic. Even if they are able to close her cervix with sutures, there's no guarantee that she won't go into labor or have something else happen in the next couple of weeks.
Babies have a 50/50 chance at 25 weeks. 80% of those that do make it have problems ranging from learning disabilities, physical disabilities, to cerbal palsy. Our first child was born at 32 weeks and has had problems with allergies and asthma. He turned three just a couple of weeks ago. The doctor said the chances of Karli making it to 30 weeks was slim.
I really don't know why I'm writing this here. I guess just to have it down somewhere that this little girl is mine and that she was on this earth for at least a little bit of time.
This has been the most difficult and painful day of my life. I've both cursed and prayed to God for my baby's life and my wife's health and I've had difficulties controlling my emotions all day. Tomorrow, I get to look forward to making decisions like whether or not to try heroic measures to save her life. Whether or not my wife and I want to hold her while she gasps for air with lungs that have not formed and dies. What to tell a three-year old who's been telling everybody about his little sister. How to comfort a wife when I'm a wreck myself.
Treasure who and what you have in your life. They are special and unique and may be gone before you truly get to know them.
UPDATE: Wife went into surgery at 7:40AM EST. They're supposed to determine whether or not there is enough cervix left for them to suture. Procedure is supposed to last 30minutes to an hour. Since it is now 8:30AM EST. I'm guessing that they're trying to put the sutures in.
When we went for the sonogram to determine the sex of the baby last week, she weighed just over 1lb. The baby is perfectly fine. It's just the cervix gave out for some unknown reason.
UPDATE 2: Surgery was successful. The doctor was able to suture her up. We're still not out of the woods yet though. The next five to seven days are critical as the sutures could still cause labor, her water to break, or an infections. After that it will be just one day at a time trying to get as far along in the pregnency as we can. However, my wife will be staying in the hospital for the rest of the pregnency. But, at least we have hope now.
UPDATE 3: Whelp. After initially being told on Wednesday that our baby girl was going to be born that day or the next and die, my wife has moved out of Labor & Deliver and into the High Risk Pregnency unit. The doctor said the surgery was very successful and she can even get out of bed to go to the bathroom and take a shower. Talk about a complete 180. I can't even begin to describe the relief.
This is our second stint in the High Risk Pregnency Unit as we spent three weeks here during the pregnency of our first child. We're looking at a minimum of eight weeks this time. Fortunately, my boss is really cool and is going to let me work from home through next week. I'll be working from home two days a week after that. Even more fortunately, the hospital has free wireless internet access. :thumbsup: So, I'm able to connect to work and do whatever I need. Unfortunately, they're blocking software blocks any url with the word "game" in it.
Just wanted to say thanks again for the positive thoughts and prayers. Now everyone can start placing bets on how long I keep my sanity as I try to take care of a wife in the hospital and a three-year old boy for at least the next eight weeks.
I'm currently sitting in a hospital room with my wife who is asleep right now. She is 22 weeks pregnent and began having complications today. Basically, her cervix is opening and the doctors aren't sure if they can close it back. The baby herself is perfectly fine. My wife is going into surgery tomorrow morning at 7:30AM to see if there is anything that can be done but the doctors aren't optimistic. Even if they are able to close her cervix with sutures, there's no guarantee that she won't go into labor or have something else happen in the next couple of weeks.
Babies have a 50/50 chance at 25 weeks. 80% of those that do make it have problems ranging from learning disabilities, physical disabilities, to cerbal palsy. Our first child was born at 32 weeks and has had problems with allergies and asthma. He turned three just a couple of weeks ago. The doctor said the chances of Karli making it to 30 weeks was slim.
I really don't know why I'm writing this here. I guess just to have it down somewhere that this little girl is mine and that she was on this earth for at least a little bit of time.
This has been the most difficult and painful day of my life. I've both cursed and prayed to God for my baby's life and my wife's health and I've had difficulties controlling my emotions all day. Tomorrow, I get to look forward to making decisions like whether or not to try heroic measures to save her life. Whether or not my wife and I want to hold her while she gasps for air with lungs that have not formed and dies. What to tell a three-year old who's been telling everybody about his little sister. How to comfort a wife when I'm a wreck myself.
Treasure who and what you have in your life. They are special and unique and may be gone before you truly get to know them.
UPDATE: Wife went into surgery at 7:40AM EST. They're supposed to determine whether or not there is enough cervix left for them to suture. Procedure is supposed to last 30minutes to an hour. Since it is now 8:30AM EST. I'm guessing that they're trying to put the sutures in.
When we went for the sonogram to determine the sex of the baby last week, she weighed just over 1lb. The baby is perfectly fine. It's just the cervix gave out for some unknown reason.
UPDATE 2: Surgery was successful. The doctor was able to suture her up. We're still not out of the woods yet though. The next five to seven days are critical as the sutures could still cause labor, her water to break, or an infections. After that it will be just one day at a time trying to get as far along in the pregnency as we can. However, my wife will be staying in the hospital for the rest of the pregnency. But, at least we have hope now.
UPDATE 3: Whelp. After initially being told on Wednesday that our baby girl was going to be born that day or the next and die, my wife has moved out of Labor & Deliver and into the High Risk Pregnency unit. The doctor said the surgery was very successful and she can even get out of bed to go to the bathroom and take a shower. Talk about a complete 180. I can't even begin to describe the relief.
This is our second stint in the High Risk Pregnency Unit as we spent three weeks here during the pregnency of our first child. We're looking at a minimum of eight weeks this time. Fortunately, my boss is really cool and is going to let me work from home through next week. I'll be working from home two days a week after that. Even more fortunately, the hospital has free wireless internet access. :thumbsup: So, I'm able to connect to work and do whatever I need. Unfortunately, they're blocking software blocks any url with the word "game" in it.
Just wanted to say thanks again for the positive thoughts and prayers. Now everyone can start placing bets on how long I keep my sanity as I try to take care of a wife in the hospital and a three-year old boy for at least the next eight weeks.
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