rude roommate thing ???

[Stifko]

A friend of mine has an Asian roommate. Actually she rents out a room at her place, they aren't really roomies. Anyway the tenant informs the person that she is renting from that she has a friend coming to town and will be staying w/her for about a week. She didn't really ask, but kind of told her. So the landlady said that it wasn't cool. What ticked her off was her approach and how assuming she was. Ppl staying over like this was never discussed before, but her b/f and some other dude are always crashing in her room & thats not a problem. This whole thing has caused a big rift between the two and the Asian chick is moving out now. She said that in Asian cultures this is commonplace and she has never had a hard time before when she put friends up. As it was the visiting friend did stay over for 3 days, even though the roomie was told that it wasn't allowed. She arrived early and needed a place fast. This whole thing happened so quickley and it was first presented to the woman whose place it is, just a few days before the visitor arrived.

opinions on this ?

 

[hans007]

this is just stupid. its not even an asian thing. the landlady is just a bitch .

 

[z0mb13]

yep that landlady is one major biatch
not an asian thing..... usually asians are very tolerant when a roomie's relatives visit

 

[crystal]

I have to agree. That landlady is harsh.

 

[Zim Hosein]

Originally posted by: hans007
this is just stupid. its not even an asian thing. the landlady is just a bitch .

What he said

 

[TheOmegaCode]

Kinda stupid for you to generalize, and ask if it's an "Asian" thing in the first place...

 

[Stifko]

I asked that b/c the girl has roomed w/Asians and they have been much more accepting of this according to her. My whole point was that she wasn't asking permission, but told her what was going to happen. IMHO nobody likes to be told whats going to happen in their house. I guess I am the only one that sides w/the landlady and thinks that the girl is pushey and assuming. It would have worked out differently if her approach was better and less of a strong arm tactic.

 

[XZeroII]

Originally posted by: crystal
I have to agree. That landlady is harsh.

I don't think you've thought this through. Let's say that you spend $200,000 to buy a house. Would you want some punk potentially wrecking it? No. I would want to protect my house against possible parties and stuff. I think you would too, unless you are profoundly stupid.

 

[crystal]

I don't think you've thought this through. Let's say that you spend $200,000 to buy a house. Would you want some punk potentially wrecking it? No. I would want to protect my house against possible parties and stuff. I think you would too, unless you are profoundly stupid.

An out of state guest staying over for a few days, suddenly they become punk and will wreck up the house? If you are renting out your house, you are extremely stupid if you don't ask for deposit money for stuff they or their guess might wreck.

 

[gotsmack]

its not an asian thing. but if a friend asks you really can't say no unless its really inconvient.

 

[Viper GTS]

IMHO you shouldn't rent a room to someone & NOT expect them to have guests on occasion. I don't mean a non-stop stream of losers, but guests should be an expected occurrence.

Viper GTS

 

[ProviaFan]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS
IMHO you shouldn't rent a room to someone & NOT expect them to have guests on occasion. I don't mean a non-stop stream of losers, but guests should be an expected occurrence.

Viper GTS

 

[kgraeme]

Most tenant applications include a limitation on guests. Typically a weekend guest is acceptable, but a week or so and it becomes a violation of the tenant agreement.

Considering that this is a house with rented rooms, the owner has complete authority. If I were the owner I personally wouldn't like a tenant just inviting people to crash even for a weekend without my knowing who the guest would be. It's my house, my rules.

 

[rutchtkim]

yeah, I would change the title if I were you.

 

[Stifko]

I personally wouldn't like a tenant just inviting people to crash even for a weekend without my knowing who the guest would be. It's my house, my rules.

thanks, that was the opinion I was lookin for

 

[dafatha00]

I don't even see the point of pointing out that she's asian. To what purpose does that serve?

 

[Lucky]

Originally posted by: dafatha00
I don't even see the point of pointing out that she's asian. To what purpose does that serve?

didja read the first post?

She said that in Asian cultures this is commonplace and she has never had a hard time before when she put friends up

 

[crypticlogin]

IMHO, if the tenant assumes all of the responsibility in paying for (if any) damages the visitor may cause and the visitor doesn't disturb the other tenants or neighbors, a week visit isn't going to trigger the Apocalypse. The landlady sounds like a real tightass, sorry. :|

Unfortunately, the landlord sets the rules and if the lease follows suit, the courts would probably back the landlady if it comes to that.

 

[Flashram]

Kind of related but not really. A few years when in college my roommate went to Mexico for the summer, came back married (without telling me), and brought his wife to live with us (without telling me). If that's not bad enough, he wasn't willing to pay any extra rent/utilities to make up for her baggage. Bottom line, yes it's rude and inconsiderate. I kicked both their asses out.