Roommate etiquette: Appropriate to constantly have a close friend (or girlfriend) over?

[PrinceofWands]

You have a right to be irritated, but the solution isn't entirely up to you. I'd say talk to your roommates, let them know how you're feeling, and find a solution. It will probably be that you move out, or the problem roommate does. I only say that because there's really no way to win: you have a right to live like you want in your own place, but so does your roommate. Better to just part ways than to have trouble.

 

[DaiShan]

I had a similar situation this summer. My room mate's GF spent every day and night here in June and July, and most of August. Now don't get me wrong, she seems like a cool girl, and definitely didn't bring any animals over, but my main problems were that during the day, my room mate and I worked, now normally we would bump the A/C up to 85 or so to save on utilities, but since she was there she kept the thermostat at <70F. She kinda treated the place like a hotel, and frequently I'd come home from work during the day to find her and a few random people that I don't know sitting in the living room with MY surround sound up entirely too loud (I didn't even know that the amp had a setting called "max")

Last month I finally sat them both down and let them know that she is always welcome here, but that does not extend to her friends unless one of us is home, and also since our Utilities were ~350+ every month that she was here she would have to at least pay a third of that cost (really she probably used more like half of the utilities herself, but I didn't want to start trouble) They both were very mature about the whole thing and we haven't had a problem since. I recommend the same to you.

 

[doze]

Normal for the roommates girlfirend to be there but if she wants to bring her damn cat she should be paying rent. Talk to your other roommates without her around.

 

[Mellman]

if she's there chilling, thats fine. if she's living there (sounds like your situation) then its f'ed up.

Talk to your roomate, tell him you don't think its fair for her to be showering, cooking (is she using your food, or his?), bringing her cat over etc when she's not paying any rent, don't be a d*ck about it, just be frank with him that it makes you uncomfortable that she's over there, and its YOUR house too.

just rread what DaiShan said - do that, the main thing is utilities costs, and are you allowed to have a pet in your place?

 

[Christobevii3]

I'd say once she starts staying more than a quarter of a month over she needs to pay like $100 a month.

 

[Aquaman]

talk to your room mate and figure out whats going on. The cat thing has got to stop though.

Cheers,
Aquaman