I have just made a decision with 2 friends to move in to a really nice new house. I have been living with one of the guys for 2 years now in a real Sh*t hole. We have both been making lots of money workiong in IT and now we are ready for a nicer place. I found this AMAZING house in a really hip part of town. I loved it so much that I sacrificed both the Master and (although I wasnt aware at the time, due to over-excitement resulting in an oversight) the second largest bedroom. I also sacrified good closet space. The master bedroom also has its own bathroom. We have already put down a deposit and signed a year loease, and now I am starting to have reservations. I wish I had made a bid for the master bedroom, or at least the second large one. Now after all the work I did finding the place, I will be the one with the smallest room. I am really getting annoyed with this. I am afraid it will drive me crazy, but what can I do. I made my bed and I hav to lie in it...right ? I want to offer to buy out my roomate for the master (although he will already be paying more than me and the other roomate), but I am afraid he will turn it down, and then I will feel like EVRYONE knows I am pissed about not having the master bedroom , and then I will be even more stressed. I need to figure out how NOT to let this get to me...buit I am afraid it is going to no matter what..What can I do ?
Roomate Problems !!!!
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Just sit down and talk with them in a calm manner...let them know how you feel and that you want one of the bigger rooms...
You never know, simple talks like those sometimes have great outcomes.
Homer
You never know, simple talks like those sometimes have great outcomes.
Homer
How did you come to decide who would get which bedroom? Just tell them you are interested in the larger room, and if they also want it then draw lots or something to make it (randomly) fair. Agree on pricing before lots are drawn.
i didn't bother reading ur post cuz im lazy but i think i got the jist of it from the title
killem...they are all sleep farmers
killem...they are all sleep farmers
Well I totally mesed up..and that is why I feel wrong in bringing up the issue. I was so excited about the place that I just immediately said "ill take the middle room"...because it has this rebuily closet for my computers" and you guys can flip for the master bedroom. I honestly thought mine was second largest! That is how it went.. and now I am realizing my mistake. I know in this situation it is probably best just to take it in the rear, so to speak, because I made the error...but this is a year long deal. I could really get upset in a year , unless I figure out a wa to change it fairly, or cope with it maturelly.
just an idea, but you guys could try switching every half year or year. that relies on teh fact that you will be living there long term though. if not that, i guess you should just tell him how you feel. since youre living with them, it shows that you guys somewhat get along, so just trust his understanding and tell him that youre upset and that youd like a larger room. "honesty is the best policy" 
good luck
good luck
Well looks like you chose that specific room for a reason. Is there another reason you don't want that room? Are you paying more than the guy that's getting the second largest room? The way I've done it in the past is this:
If I already live in the place and someone needs a place, it doesn't matter if I have a larger room or not but they pay more.
If we move into a new place, calculate total square footage of bedrooms and divide with total cost of living there and you have what it costs for each room.
If you're willing to pay a little more and have the guy who's gonna get the small room pay a little less....
-edit- Hehehe a little late on my post. Well tell the guys that's paying the same as you if he would be willing to take the smaller room if you pay a little bit of his share like another $10 or so. Or trade with the guy who's paying the most and tell him you'll pay $20/month of his share. Something like that.
If I already live in the place and someone needs a place, it doesn't matter if I have a larger room or not but they pay more.
If we move into a new place, calculate total square footage of bedrooms and divide with total cost of living there and you have what it costs for each room.
If you're willing to pay a little more and have the guy who's gonna get the small room pay a little less....
-edit- Hehehe a little late on my post. Well tell the guys that's paying the same as you if he would be willing to take the smaller room if you pay a little bit of his share like another $10 or so. Or trade with the guy who's paying the most and tell him you'll pay $20/month of his share. Something like that.
You should split it 485, 465, and 455 (or even more, considering the master has its own bathroom).
Thats what I thought...in fact I would be willing to buy out the master bedroom at 500 easy, maybe 515..but my current romate is kind of an a**hole. He will deman that we stick to the deal..Im sure hefigured out that he is getting a MUCH MUCH better end of this all. I think that is making this even worse, I know that if I were in his place, I wold be glad to pay more because it only seems fair..he wont feel the same. He is really greedy and selfish. Truth be told I am not too thrilled about moving back in for another year with him, but me and my other roomate cant afford it ourselves, and we already signed the lease anyway. It looks like I just waited way to late,. I messed up. This really sux.
I think I have already figured out that I need to learn to live with this mistake I made. It wil only make me a stronger person...right ? The only other thig is that my current roomate has money issues. He is being sued right now, and he doesnt make as much as I do. I could play the "buy-out" card....I could offer him the smaller room at 400 bux, and I could offset his rent into mine. It has a small chance.
If the differences in rent is $10 and you're making "lots of money," talk to the guys and see if someone won't mind taking your room for theirs and you pay a bit more of the split? The difference you pay will be recouped in the long run, knowing you have that much more space.
Well my current roomate is the only possible buy out. The other roomate, make a ton of money too. He would be happy to do the same, but he actually got a pretty fresh room too.
If you want the room then I say go for it. I wouldn't go with that deal. You and the other guy are getting screwed. I mean figure out the sqft and figure out the amount for each room. I wouldn't pay the same price as a guy who has a larger room. That's just BS. Don't let this guy walk all over you just cuz he's a a$$hole.
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that arsehole is getting his own bathroom, and is only paying $475??? :| you are a moron if you let him get away with that. he is probably laughing at you guys right now, telling his friends how he scamed two morons out of the master bedroom, and is only paying $10 more in rent.
<< that arsehole is getting his own bathroom, and is only paying $475??? you are a moron if you let him get away with that. he is probably laughing at you guys right now, telling his friends how he scamed two morons out of the master bedroom, and is only paying $10 more in rent. >>
my thoughts exactly.. only $10 more for the master bedroom?? should be like at least $50 or more..because he has his OWN bathroom..
have a meeting with your roommates and tell them how you feel.
EDIT: ooops.. ddin't mean to have it all bold
I second the meeting and it would be easy to get the other roomate who is paying the same as you to agree that the guy with the bathroom should pay at least $60 more per month because having your own bathroom is like having two rooms.. otherwise it's just not fair if it's only $10 difference.. it needs to be calculated by room size..
i can't believe you guys set those prices for the rooms. out of all the friends that i have, anyone who gets the master bedroom with the private bath, pays at least $100 more than the rest of the house. but, you already made the mistake of agreeing to the room and the prices. think of this as a good lesson learned, and not get excited prematurely next time you make any decisions. at least you weren't purchasing the house (or buying a car). you could have been screwed lot worse.
if you can't be a man about this, then talk to your roommates and see if they think it's fair. i knew these 3 guys living in a 2 bedroom apt. they would rotate the arrangement every month, so that master bedroom was being shared by 2 people, and smaller room by 1 person. you could suggest doing this once every 4 months, and in the end each one of you would have slept in every bedroom.
my suggestion: you made the suggestions, you took what you considered to be the best deal at the time, and now you're regretting it. be a man, stick with the arrangement.
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