Room with a friend from home at college?

[zippy]

A few of my friends are going to the same college as me next year. I'd really only consider rooming with one of them but I'm not even sure if I should bring it up to him.

Is it generally a bad idea to room with a friend your freshman year at college? I don't want to end up with some tool or psycho or anything. But I also don't want to risk losing a good friend (I know my sisters each f'ed up friendships by rooming with people they were really close with in college) or end up relying on one another for friends and become joined at the hip (I don't think this will happen - he likes to party more than I do and I don't really see us as having the same group of friends really).

Opinions? Things to be wary of? Anything? Bueller?

 

[Ns1]

go meet new people

 

[yoda291]

Originally posted by: NeuroSynapsis
go meet new people

 

[kermalou]

Originally posted by: NeuroSynapsis
go meet new people

 

[Glitchny]

i did it, he moved out this simester, we are still friends but not as close as before, people change i guess, or some people dont. Better not to risk it

 

[zippy]

Yeah, I should note that he's probably the only friend, of those going to the same college as me, that I'll really stay friends with once we go to college. The rest...well, I don't particularly care, I definitely can't wait to meet new people - I'm rather sick of people in my high school already.

 

[erikiksaz]

I'm in the same situation as well. A friend i've known since the sixth grade, always hung out with him. Not sure what to do

 

[Supermercado]

I'd say go out and meet new people. I can't speak from personal experience - I had no choice but to meet new people.

On the other hand, though, I've got two friends that I think I could live with in college. I've known one for 12 years and the other for 6 and I think I could live with either. It's really your call, but I'd probably say not to chance it.

 

[atom]

If you think you are compatible as roomates, then room with him. Better than being roomed up with someone that you are toally opposites with.

Rooming with someone you know has no effect on meeting other people.

 

[rgwalt]

Bad call. Don't do it.

Ryan

 

[AUMM]

i'de say no, if you're going to the same college you can still hang out and im sure you'll still stay friends, but rooming with some random person is a much better way to meet people

 

[anxman69]

Go with random roommates for your freshman year. It's part of the college experience.

If you want to stay friends with your buddy in college, I'm sure you will. Why force it?

-Ankur

 

[Freejack2]

DO NOT room with a friend. Unless by some chance you are totally compatible with your friend (odds are greatly against it) it won't work out.
The worst roomate situation I ever had was with a friend. Ironically probably the best roomate situation was with a stranger.
Rooming with your friend is just begging to lose them as a friend.

 

[Shockwave]

I would highly recommend it!
I roomed with a friend freom college. We were the only two that came here, and it was cool to know someone when we went out. The funny thing is, we had 4 people in a room. Me and my friend, then our two roommates were also from the same town (Not ours, but they went to HS together elsewhere).
Alot of my other friends also roomed with people from our hometown in other areas they went. For the most part its always worked out really well. Its nice when your in a brand new place to have someone your a good friend with, and it really wont stop you from meeting new people.

So, I say go for it!

 

[ElFenix]

meeting new people is overrated, you're likely to get someone who sits there masturbating all day or having sex with his boyfriend while you're trying to study.

 

[Shockwave]

Originally posted by: Shockwave
I would highly recommend it!
I roomed with a friend from high school. We were the only two that came here to college, and it was cool to know someone when we went out. The funny thing is, we had 4 people in a room. Me and my friend, then our two roommates were also from the same town (Not ours, but they went to HS together elsewhere).
Alot of my other friends also roomed with people from our hometown in other areas they went. For the most part its always worked out really well. Its nice when your in a brand new place to have someone your a good friend with, and it really wont stop you from meeting new people.

So, I say go for it!

Damnit, I was tryin to edit and hit quote instead.

 

[calpha]

Yes and no.

The best roomate I ever had (besides my wife ) was my best friend, and the worst roommate I ever had was my then cousin (by a now divorced marriage).

Note: I wasn't the reason for the divorce.......his father was a cheatin SOB.

But, even my best friend that I got along great with when we moved in, after I moved out, wew needed a good 6 months to start talking again. Not because of any bs......just needed some time apart. But, on the same hand, we both lost our jobs at the same time, and I was tech, he was marketing....so back then....for every 5 calls I'd get about an interview (not just a recruiter mind you)....he'd maybe get 1......so I found a job a lot quicker, and had to loan up some $ for groceries and stuff.......And then to top it off.....our apartment got flooded by some idiots above us who moved out, and left the water on after they disconnected the washer. But, if we weren't best friends back then...I doubt we'd even be talking now.

Aside Note:
One time I roomed with a guy I worked with in college, and nearly every night, when he wasn't screwing some new random chick, he was puffin on the green machine.

Furhter Aside Note:
My cousin, mentioned above.....other then personal reasons....one of the hardest things to adjust to with living with him, was that he loved to hang out with ppl from the hood......I'm not talking about college people either.....but questionable characters in some circumstances. (I learned, after I moved out, that my cousin was selling pot).

So.....the moral is......doesn't matter. Either way, roommates can stink, or they can be fun. But I agree with the other posts, that the best way to meet new people is to go for broke. But on the other hand, it'd be cool if you had a cool-guy already to move in.


shite!
My wife......she roomed with her best friend from 4th grade on in college, and in the middle of her senior year, that girl turned into a mega-b!tch. For whatever reason.....we never knew....but she just decided in the middle of the summer b/w junior and senior year that she wasn't going to room with my wife anymore. And they never talked again after that. When we saw her on Graduation day, my wife tried to make amends and be nice.....and walked up to talk to her. Her B!tch friend, just loooked at her and walked away.

 

[Judgement]

I did it and it ended ok

 

[Sid59]

i did it my freshman year. I knew my friend all 4 years of high school. It was good, if i didn't trasnfer out, i had plans to live him again. Hell, we just hung out on friday night. Aint no blood loss.

 

[jaeger66]

I did it with a variety of friends and apartments all through college, if you're good friends you can make it work. The main thing is to not get annoyed by stupid insignificant crap.

 

[Juniper]

I haven't seen my friend-roomate for like 5 yrs.

 

[Shockwave]

Originally posted by: calpha
Yes and no.

The best roomate I ever had (besides my wife ) was my best friend, and the worst roommate I ever had was my then cousin (by a now divorced marriage).

Note: I wasn't the reason for the divorce.......his father was a cheatin SOB.

But, even my best friend that I got along great with when we moved in, after I moved out, wew needed a good 6 months to start talking again. Not because of any bs......just needed some time apart. But, on the same hand, we both lost our jobs at the same time, and I was tech, he was marketing....so back then....for every 5 calls I'd get about an interview (not just a recruiter mind you)....he'd maybe get 1......so I found a job a lot quicker, and had to loan up some $ for groceries and stuff.......And then to top it off.....our apartment got flooded by some idiots above us who moved out, and left the water on after they disconnected the washer. But, if we weren't best friends back then...I doubt we'd even be talking now.

Aside Note:
One time I roomed with a guy I worked with in college, and nearly every night, when he wasn't screwing some new random chick, he was puffin on the green machine.

Furhter Aside Note:
My cousin, mentioned above.....other then personal reasons....one of the hardest things to adjust to with living with him, was that he loved to hang out with ppl from the hood......I'm not talking about college people either.....but questionable characters in some circumstances. (I learned, after I moved out, that my cousin was selling pot).

So.....the moral is......doesn't matter. Either way, roommates can stink, or they can be fun. But I agree with the other posts, that the best way to meet new people is to go for broke. But on the other hand, it'd be cool if you had a cool-guy already to move in.

shite!
My wife......she roomed with her best friend from 4th grade on in college, and in the middle of her senior year, that girl turned into a mega-b!tch. For whatever reason.....we never knew....but she just decided in the middle of the summer b/w junior and senior year that she wasn't going to room with my wife anymore. And they never talked again after that. When we saw her on Graduation day, my wife tried to make amends and be nice.....and walked up to talk to her. Her B!tch friend, just loooked at her and walked away.

Man, you have a weird life....Did you marry a guy? Are YOU a guy?
Your post, for some reason, has me all confused. You talk about your wife, then mentionm *his* father.....
And talk about screwin some random chick like its a bad thing....
Man, maybe...like uhhh....Do you have one of those same sex marriages??

 

[MWink]

My roommate was my best friend from HS. It worked out great for the first year. This year it has been all downhill. His GF is a crazy liar who has successfully convinced him that all his old friends are "using him" or something like that. Now he won't talk to me AT ALL. He won't even look at any of our other friends. He obviously won't be my roommate next year.

I'd say it's worth it. It worked out fine for me for a while. It would probably still be fine if it wasn't for his a$$hole of a GF. Even if I hadn't been his roommate I probably would have lost him as a friend since he got rid of ALL his friends (not just me).

 

[rh71]

Just have him live in the same hall or something, but not the same room. You'll meet more people if you're separated.

 

i like all my friends, but i know that if i had to live with them, it would have driven me crazy. Being there and knowing a friend is one thing...living with them way change your view about them.