Right Or Wrong? (Sexual Ethics)

[skace]

Damn I read this whole thing and I'm too late to give a good response I feel cheated! Glad you worked through it Isla...

 

[Isla]

Well, you all may as well get a dose of reality. Here's a recent article about sex and married couples.

From A Newsweek Article

My husband gets more sex than both the average married guy AND the average single guy. The fact that I make it a PRIORITY to be with him twice a week (it's unscheduled, we just fit in in when we can, so to speak ) is a sign of my willingness to make things work. I am not sitting around eating bon bons all day. I am up early in the morning and stay up late at night to take care of my home, family, career, and continuing education. Five minutes of quiet time to myself is unheard of... the only time I have to rest is when I am asleep. I would just like to be allowed to sleep when I say that I need to.

I'm not the only one, but at least I'm honest about it.

About 'scheduling', something that seems to disturb some of you...

But a new breed of marriage therapists take a more action-oriented approach. Regena Thomashauer, a relationship counselor and author of "Mama Gena's Owner's and Operator's Guide to Men," agrees that scheduling time together is essential. Use the time to have sex, she urges. Michele and Marcelo Sandoval, 40 and 42, respectively, sought help from Thomashauer when they were expecting their first child; now they make two "dates" a week. "We call them dates," says Marcelo, "but we know it means sex, and we make it a priority."

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
What do you do when your wife has lost her in sex (I mean zero interest) and won't discuss it and divorce isn't an option because you have small kids.

Throw in the fact that the husband thinks adultery is wrong.

divorce her, and get visiting rights to see the kids

 

[Riprorin]

I'd take twice a week.

Hell, my wife cut me off (figuritively, that is).

How about 0 times in over two years?

 

[Isla]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
I'd take twice a week.

Hell, my wife cut me off (figuritively, that is).

How about 0 times in over two years?

I'm sorry to hear that. That IS wrong and I hope that you both will consider talking to someone about it together. Marriage and raising kids is HARD. There is no shame in asking for help when things aren't going well!

<---hopes things will improve for you soon

 

[Riprorin]

Thanks, but things aren't likely to change.

My wife isn't the type to speak with someone about personal problems.

I found out fairly recently that she was incested as a child. I'm the only one that knows about it.

Who knows what that did to her head.

My life's pretty much a living hell, but I'm doing my best to make sure the kids have as happy a family life as they can.

The only thing that keeps me sane is that I travel 4 - 5 times a year so at least I'm able to get away from her every now and then.

 

[HomeBrewerDude]

Originally posted by: Riprorin
Thanks, but things aren't likely to change.

My wife isn't the type to speak with someone about personal problems.

I found out fairly recently that she was incested as a child. I'm the only one that knows about it.

Who knows what that did to her head.

My life's pretty much a living hell, but I'm doing my best to make sure the kids have as happy a family life as they can.

The only thing that keeps me sane is that I travel 4 - 5 times a year so at least I'm able to get away from her every now and then.

Rip, the fact that she told you means something...don't forget that... a small solace perhaps, but hey, you got to look for every positive you can.

 

[Riprorin]

Thanks for the encouraging words, Yamaha.

It's starting to take a toll on me; I really don't like the person I'm becoming.

It would be nice to be with someone that brings out the best in you rather than the worst.

 

[Jzero]

That's it; I'm not having kids

 

[Fausto]

Originally posted by: Jzero
That's it; I'm not having kids

YYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSS!!!! The gene pool is saved!!!

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: Fausto1

Originally posted by: Jzero
That's it; I'm not having kids

YYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSS!!!! The gene pool is saved!!!

Unfortunately, not soon enough to save humanity from thong-wearing cyclists

 

[ragazzo]

buy a chastity belt with a combo lock. j/k
sounds like you love you husband A LOT. others would've taken legal action, whether that be divorce or whatever.

he's a lucky man.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: Isla

Originally posted by: crumpet19
Well, I'm not married.. and right now I'm single. But, I would say that its wrong. It should be a mutual decsicion between two consenting people. Both should be able to attain some sort of pleasure out of it. Besides, if the husband did that then he's simply taking advantage of the wife. He's, in a way, using her.

That's what I think. This particular husband has been told that it's OK to masturbate. Use porn, not wife.

BTW, once or twice a week is considered pretty regular.

If I was that husband, I'd be out on those nights and only sleep with her on the nights I'm getting it.

 

[LordRaiden]

If you can't get it when she's awake, then you definately don't need to be getting it when she's asleap.