Resigning[ed] from my job, feel like shit [amazing] *update*

[SMOGZINN]

It's not personal, it's only business.
Trust me, the company would not hesitate to let you go if it helped their bottom line.
Don't confuse business with personal relationships.

 

[nublikescake]

It's not personal, it's only business.
Trust me, the company would not hesitate to let you go if it helped their bottom line.
Don't confuse business with personal relationships.

I guess I am not as professionally hardened as you guys. I'm still young!

 

[nublikescake]

Then preserve the business relationship you have with your peers and boss and boss's boss.

It will help you later on. To not do so will only harm you later on.

"Sorry guys, it's just business".

Agreed.

 

[spidey07]

It's not personal, it's only business.
Trust me, the company would not hesitate to let you go if it helped their bottom line.
Don't confuse business with personal relationships.

Yes, it's only business. But to neglect the personal relationships, contacts, etc that result from business relationships will due one peril.

 

[spidey07]

Agreed.

Young guys just starting out neglect that they will most likely (highly likely) run into people you know, specific industries have their own circles and they all talk no matter what HR says they can or cannot do.

Leave on good terms. If you do you can always go back.

 

[Engineer]

After my unceremonious exit from my last job as part of a massive lay-off, I joined my current employer with a view to find something better with time and then switch over. It was a permanent role but out of my line of work. I took it because the pay was very good, hours were amazing and the work was very relaxed and stress-free.

Lo and behold, I managed to land something in my field and am looking to get back into it.

I've only been working in my current job for 2 months. I've never done this before, i.e. resign from a professional role. My manager is a truly awesome guy, very relaxed, friendly and down-to-earth. It's what makes this so hard for me. Not the decision, but the actual handing in the two-weeks notice. I guess I should also add that he's the type of guy who's very trusting and sees the good in people as opposed to the bad. I'm not sure if he'll be the same guy after this! :awe:

Any advice on how to proceed with this? Inform him verbally first or just hand him the letter and wait for his reaction? Time of day? I'm a resignation n00b...help me out!

I went through this very recently. I dreaded telling my manager for almost a week. I finally just broke down and told him. Said I was very sorry but I had to give him a notice. I felt really bad but he took it much, much better than I expected.

He took a chance on me and I left but I had to do what was best for me and he seemed to understand.

Best of luck OP...it's difficult...coming from someone who just went through this (well, last October anyway).

Young guys just starting out neglect that they will most likely (highly likely) run into people you know, specific industries have their own circles and they all talk no matter what HR says they can or cannot do.

Leave on good terms. If you do you can always go back.

When I left the above job, I did just that and have been told (more than one time and even recently) that if I wanted my old job back, just say the word. Truth in spidey's statement.

 

[shortylickens]

DO
NOT
BURN
BRIDGES.

That is all.

 

[nublikescake]

I went through this very recently. I dreaded telling my manager for almost a week. I finally just broke down and told him. Said I was very sorry but I had to give him a notice. I felt really bad but he took it much, much better than I expected.

He took a chance on me and I left but I had to do what was best for me and he seemed to understand.

Best of luck OP...it's difficult...coming from someone who just went through this (well, last October anyway).

When I left the above job, I did just that and have been told (more than one time and even recently) that if I wanted my old job back, just say the word. Truth in spidey's statement.

You're giving me hope!

 

[nublikescake]

Young guys just starting out neglect that they will most likely (highly likely) run into people you know, specific industries have their own circles and they all talk no matter what HR says they can or cannot do.

Leave on good terms. If you do you can always go back.

I have no reason to not leave on good terms but I sure as hell won't be coming back to this industry if I can help it. It's almost completely unrelated to my field.

 

[bfdd]

I never feel bad for deciding to do things, only accidentally doing things do I feel bad about.

 

[spidey07]

I have no reason to not leave on good terms but I sure as hell won't be coming back to this industry if I can help it. It's almost completely unrelated to my field.

Heed my words carefully...

Leave on good terms and that job will be ready to take you back. You cannot predict the future when it comes to your employment. You're thinking in 1-2 year range, I think in 10-20 range.

Listen to me...who you know and how you are perceived is more important than anything else.

What taste do you want to leave in your chain of command, that will most likely land somewhere else in a decade later? "do not want" or "stand up guy I want, strong"?

Choose your path wisely. What is not in your career path now will likely cross others later in you career.

 

[nublikescake]

Heed my words carefully...

Leave on good terms and that job will be ready to take you back. You cannot predict the future when it comes to your employment. You're thinking in 1-2 year range, I think in 10-20 range.

Listen to me...who you know and how you are perceived is more important than anything else.

What taste do you want to leave in your chain of command, that will most likely land somewhere else in a decade later? "do not want" or "stand up guy I want, strong"?

Choose your path wisely. What is not in your career path now will likely cross others later in you career.

Again, I have no reason to burn bridges and I won't do so either. However, why would someone want to go back to a job which they left before, except out of desperation? What's to prevent them from leaving again at the drop of a hat when something better comes around. Why would a company re-hire a person like that?

 

[KaOTiK]

Sounds like a no pants work day is in your future. Show them the meaning of, rock out with your cock out

 

[spidey07]

Again, I have no reason to burn bridges and I won't do so either. However, why would someone want to go back to a job which they left before, except out of desperation? What's to prevent them from leaving again at the drop of a hat when something better comes around. Why would a company re-hire a person like that?

Your boss is now a director or VP and needs somebody he can trust be it in this company or another one he has moved through the ranks over 10 years and he needs somebody he can trust.

Are you that guy or not?

Never heard of a VP/Director coming in and lopping off heads and replacing them with people he can trust? Much to learn young padwon.

 

[TheSlamma]

Verbally, don't be a pu$$y

Be 100% honest, this job isn't in your profession and you don't see room for advancement, you have an opportunity in your profession. If he see's the good in everything then it's all good.

 

[Kev]

How is this a problem? Or is it just a brag thread in disguise? My vote would be the latter.

 

[BoomerD]

"Hey Bill. If you remember, I came here after working in the engineering field...Well, I received an offer to go back to that field, and it brings a HUGE pay increase. I certainly don't expect you folks to match that, nor would I ever ask you to try, so I guess what I'm trying to tell you, I accepted the other job...and I have to give you notice. I'd like to help you train someone to fill the position if possible, which should help make the transition easier on the company and my co-workers. Is two weeks enough, or will you need more time?"

OR, you COULD do it "Boomer-style."
<Friday evening before you start the new job>
"Hey Bill...I forgot to tell you...Today is my last day. I start a new job on Monday. Have HR mail my final paycheck, will ya?"

 

[nublikescake]

"Hey Bill. If you remember, I came here after working in the engineering field...Well, I received an offer to go back to that field, and it brings a HUGE pay increase. I certainly don't expect you folks to match that, nor would I ever ask you to try, so I guess what I'm trying to tell you, I accepted the other job...and I have to give you notice. I'd like to help you train someone to fill the position if possible, which should help make the transition easier on the company and my co-workers. Is two weeks enough, or will you need more time?"

OR, you COULD do it "Boomer-style."
<Friday evening before you start the new job>
"Hey Bill...I forgot to tell you...Today is my last day. I start a new job on Monday. Have HR mail my final paycheck, will ya?"

Have you seriously done that?

 

[nublikescake]

Verbally, don't be a pu$$y

Be 100% honest, this job isn't in your profession and you don't see room for advancement, you have an opportunity in your profession. If he see's the good in everything then it's all good.

Well...I kinda new that before I accepted the position.

 

[nublikescake]

How is this a problem? Or is it just a brag thread in disguise? My vote would be the latter.

That's it..you've blown my cover! :awe:

 

[Mxylplyx]

Just accept the fact that you are likely burning a bridge in order to advance to a better position. It happens, but understand that your current employer will NOT be happy about it after only 2 months. He'll be cordial about it probably, but you'll also be going on a do not hire list.

 

[Spike]

Somewhat similar situation myself only I've been with the company almost 7 years. I love my manager, my job, and my workgroup but I can't see myself going anywhere. Also, we do fairly regular lateral rotations and all the other managers are terrible, I would hate going to work for them. I applied for another job on a whim and was made an offer. The pay is roughly the same I have now but there are signing bonuses, fewer hours, and a much more relaxed environment. The loss of a pension sucks, and will suck worse later, but I feel it's worth it.

Good luck OP! I'm dreading telling my manager the same thing come this Friday...

 

[BoomerD]

Have you seriously done that?

Oh hell yes...or even better, start time in construction is usually 7 a.m. I always tried to be at work by 6:30 to have the crane checked out and warmed up so that at 7:00, I was ready to work. On a one job that was already sketchy, my superintendent got into a pissing match with the project general supt., and it went down hill from there. When the general supt. got on my ass about the piece of shit crane the company had rented...I looked at him...and told him, "You're right. This thing IS a piece of shit and shouldn't be on your jobsite...in fact, life's too fucking short to run junk equipment. I'm outta here. Call the hall and get someone else."
I had another job lined up before I hit the freeway.
The business agent came to the next job and told me that I shut the job down for a couple of days by quitting. They didn't have another qualified operator to send out... Don't fuck with your crane operator...

 

[SunnyD]

Not sure where you live/work OP, but most states are "At Will" states. That means your employer can terminate you without cause at any time. Your current employer would be more than happy to drop your ass in the gutter should the mood strike you. There would be no tears shed by them, nor would they try to help you in the interim. THIS is what company loyalty gets you these days. Tell me, why should you feel obligated to do anything but provide the same standard to your current employer should you so desire?

You have to look out for your best interests. If your boss is even worth half a shit, he knows that, and will understand. Other than that, don't give a shit.

Heed my words carefully...

Leave on good terms and that job will be ready to take you back. You cannot predict the future when it comes to your employment. You're thinking in 1-2 year range, I think in 10-20 range.

Listen to me...who you know and how you are perceived is more important than anything else.

What taste do you want to leave in your chain of command, that will most likely land somewhere else in a decade later? "do not want" or "stand up guy I want, strong"?

Choose your path wisely. What is not in your career path now will likely cross others later in you career.

You are so naive. You can be on the best terms with a company as possible, and the moment you provide your notice in the best possible way, you turn into the biggest asshole on the planet there is in the eyes of the wrong executives. Case in point, I provided extended notice with my last job. My manager knew it was coming, and he was okay with it. After talking to him and providing him with my notice, he had to inform the VP of the company who went on a tirade, or more like a toddler-tantrum. When it was all said and done, instead of 3 weeks and my assurance that I would bring whomever they hire up to speed before I left PLUS offering to work part time remotely if needed to keep them going in the interim... I was told I had (verbatim) "30 minutes to pack my shit and get out of the office."

My manager came into my office as I was packing and said he should have conveniently forgot that I was leaving until the last day of my notice, and then had been like, "Oh, today's your last day, isn't it. I should probably call the VP..."

 

[guyver01]

I've only been working in my current job for 2 months. I've never done this before, i.e. resign from a professional role. My manager is a truly awesome guy, very relaxed, friendly and down-to-earth. It's what makes this so hard for me. Not the decision, but the actual handing in the two-weeks notice. I guess I should also add that he's the type of guy who's very trusting and sees the good in people as opposed to the bad. I'm not sure if he'll be the same guy after this! :awe:

Any advice on how to proceed with this? Inform him verbally first or just hand him the letter and wait for his reaction? Time of day? I'm a resignation n00b...help me out!

Tell him verbally, with a letter of resignation in your hand.
Trust me... if they were gonna lay you off, they wouldn't be having the same moral dilema.

Business is Business.