Relative being ass holes or us being stingy?

[zCypher]

Seriously, what the fuck? In the past, I moved across the country while broke as hell. A short time after getting there, while still broke as fuck, I paid to move friends over to our new place. Better work opportunities, at the time anyway. Never asked any money in return and wouldn't ever.

I did this just for friends and I was poor. The thought of arguing with siblings over (apparently a small part of) income is disgusting.

having said that, if I came up with an idea to see someone, I wouldn't expect others to pay for it. Pretty much as simple as that.

In a more family related example, a cousin was flown out by her parents to see one of her uncles. Said cousin's parents didn't ask for the uncle to split costs.

 

[Ms. DICKINSON]

Whoever brought it up should cough up the money. I don't expect my friends to pay for meals if I invite them out to eat.

 

[lupi]

you live in the great socialist state of the north, why would they not expect to share the cost of paying.

 

[L1FE]

Reminds me of this joke...

1. Your rich (so you claim) uncle probably resents having to pay more than his equal share since he feels like he's "earned" his money by studying longer, working harder, whatever to get to where he's at today. No clue what your dad or other uncles do, nor am I saying he is justified in how he feels. Just sayin'.

2. I understand where your dad is coming from, though, because as a family unit, you'd expect to help each other out. At the same time, it's one thing to just expect someone else to pay more because of what you think they make.

3. Your uncle is a jackass for asking people to pay for his visit.

Seriously, what's so hard about just doing what's right for your grandfather or asking each other for help?

 

[moshquerade]

it's always sad to me to hear of families falling apart over money or any other numerous ridiculous and petty things.

 

[CRXican]

I hate rich people because I'm jealous.

 

[geno]

it's always sad to me to hear of families falling apart over money or any other numerous ridiculous and petty things.

Money is sadly a common theme amongst stories like these.

 

[OulOat]

Seems like everyone needs to take a course in negotiation. Asking everyone to pay an even share of the costs is a fair start, but it's only the first step. If your family can't afford it, don't balk at the idea. Agree that it's a good idea and you definitely want your grandfather to be happy, but explain your financial burden and offer to pay a bit less of the costs. If the other side retorts with that being unfair on them, agree. Explain that's all you can contribute monetarily, but offer to do some of the time consuming tasks as well, like planning the trip or looking for the right retirement home. Go back and forth until all parties are happy.

Your family is not poor by any means, so refusing to pay $200 for airfare is indicative of stinginess. I think your dad should remember that the end result is to let your grandfather be happy. If he wants to go, cough up the money.

 

[Gonad the Barbarian]

If you can afford significantly more than your siblings to see that your parents get appropriate care, but refuse to pay more because that just wouldn't be fair, then you are a douche. If you then later insist that your siblings chip in to pay your parents' airfare to see your own grown children, then you are a ginormous douche.

 

[SpunkyJones]

If he wants the parents to visit him, he should pay for it.

 

[kitchiku]

that uncle is an asshole. his kids are all grown up, if they want their grandfather to see them for the last time, then they should all go visit their grandfather and not the other way round.

 

[ebaycj]

that uncle is an asshole. his kids are all grown up, if they want their grandfather to see them for the last time, then they should all go visit their grandfather and not the other way round.

This.

 

[bignateyk]

Wow, for a conservative he sure is being a big commie.