ok, there's this girl that i know, i've known her for like 3 years, 1st year we talked, kinda tried a relationship she was in HS didn't have time, 3 weeks later said it wasn't working cause she didn't have time to see me. and then started dating a guy that lived closer. (figured that's why it ended) well we didn't talk, like 6 months later we start chatting again, and so since november of last year we've chatted alittle, i'm one of her "few" friends, well the thing is, i always ask her to hang out and she's always too busy or has some excuse. i think i saw her a total of 5 times in the last year just stopping to say hi, well i'm kinda getting sick of being the only one making an effort. she's still really busy, but i am too, i gone for work from 7am til 11:30pm during the week and usually work my part-time job on weekends. i work near where she lives so i offer to stop up after work, she's said ok twice, like 50% of the time i ask how she's doing she like bad, and i'm like what's wrong, takes like 3 days to get her to say what's wrong. not the problem itself, just what is wrong. like the answer i got this week "a guy"...that's it. she say's i'm one of her friends, but she never makes time to hang out, she never calls, but when i delete her from my buddy list she seems to care or something. well today i'm hanging out at home and here's how the conversation went..
by the way in the part where i say "obviously being nice doesn't get me anywhere" it refers to this thread Linkage she said it was true which i also think so.
here's today's convo
Her: ew
Saint GRW: what
Her: thanks for taking me off your buddy list
Saint GRW: obviously being nice doesn't get me anywhere so i might as well be a prick, you say i'm your friend yet you refuse to talk to me about your problems and every time your free or might be free you can't hang out even if you don't have plans
Her: i'm grounded!
Her: jeeze
Saint GRW: and as for the other 2 thoughts?
Her: i don't talk to anyone about my problems
Saint GRW: i do want to keep talking to you and i would like you as a friend, but reguardless. you won't make any time. all i do is work and try to hang out with you, the only other person i see is my cousin and his room mate, but i still offer to see you and am willing to make time, it seem's like your not the least bit flexable to hang out with me
Her: i'm busy
Saint GRW: and i realize you have alot to deal with, as do i. last night was the 1st night in 3 weeks i got more than 5 hours of sleep.
Her: good, same here
Saint GRW: your busy. and i'm busy, the only difference is i don't see you caring enough to make an attempt to see me.
Saint GRW: the thing that gets me is you said i was one of your few friends
Saint GRW: yet you can make time to hang out with them, and even going clubbing with people who you said were just people you know. not really like good friends..
Her: i go with my best friend in the whole world, christine
Saint GRW: what is it exactly that you want from me then? because you don't wanna talk about problems with anyone and you don't wanna make time to hang out. there's gotta be some reason it bothers you that i took you off my list. the part i don't get is. why does it bother you if not seeing or calling me doesn't bother you. after you saying true to the "nice guy" letter i sent, i'm brought to the conclusion you just like the attention i give you and don't care about anything else. if i'm wrong about anything let me know what i'm wrong about..
*she had an away msg up when i sent the last one, hasn't had any comment on it yet..
i guess what i'm asking. is what would you do.:|
by the way in the part where i say "obviously being nice doesn't get me anywhere" it refers to this thread Linkage she said it was true which i also think so.
here's today's convo
Her: ew
Saint GRW: what
Her: thanks for taking me off your buddy list
Saint GRW: obviously being nice doesn't get me anywhere so i might as well be a prick, you say i'm your friend yet you refuse to talk to me about your problems and every time your free or might be free you can't hang out even if you don't have plans
Her: i'm grounded!
Her: jeeze
Saint GRW: and as for the other 2 thoughts?
Her: i don't talk to anyone about my problems
Saint GRW: i do want to keep talking to you and i would like you as a friend, but reguardless. you won't make any time. all i do is work and try to hang out with you, the only other person i see is my cousin and his room mate, but i still offer to see you and am willing to make time, it seem's like your not the least bit flexable to hang out with me
Her: i'm busy
Saint GRW: and i realize you have alot to deal with, as do i. last night was the 1st night in 3 weeks i got more than 5 hours of sleep.
Her: good, same here
Saint GRW: your busy. and i'm busy, the only difference is i don't see you caring enough to make an attempt to see me.
Saint GRW: the thing that gets me is you said i was one of your few friends
Saint GRW: yet you can make time to hang out with them, and even going clubbing with people who you said were just people you know. not really like good friends..
Her: i go with my best friend in the whole world, christine
Saint GRW: what is it exactly that you want from me then? because you don't wanna talk about problems with anyone and you don't wanna make time to hang out. there's gotta be some reason it bothers you that i took you off my list. the part i don't get is. why does it bother you if not seeing or calling me doesn't bother you. after you saying true to the "nice guy" letter i sent, i'm brought to the conclusion you just like the attention i give you and don't care about anything else. if i'm wrong about anything let me know what i'm wrong about..
*she had an away msg up when i sent the last one, hasn't had any comment on it yet..
i guess what i'm asking. is what would you do.:|
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