And ego gets you what?
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but if I think I'm really starting to care about a femme to the point where I'm interested in a relationship, I'd be more worried that she ended up happy than that she ended up with me.
And ego gets you what?
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but if I think I'm really starting to care about a femme to the point where I'm interested in a relationship, I'd be more worried that she ended up happy than that she ended up with me.
well, not being a guy...i dont know...
i know how girls act... and wondered if how guys reacted. I cannot see a guy getting all emotional about it, but wondered if it would bother the average guy ... even if he said it was ok. would he always feel like a loser for getting shot down compared to his friend to got the girl. to see them together and stuff... knowing that she shot him down.
The things you describe would probably happen in many males. Penis Envy is our greatest achilles heel.
The solution, I have found, is to make yourself the best possible choice you can be for a lady, in every regard. If you do this and she still decides not to pursue a relationship with you, I don't see how one can reasonably feel bad about it. The reasons were outside of your control.
A man secure in himself would not have any problem ceding ground if a friend were selected instead. A wise man would opt for friendship.
my current gf had rejected one of my good hs buddy and i managed to dazzle her with my charm. we've been going out for almost 2 years and have plans to get married. that buddy, meanwhile, has since acted very weird around me. one time i happened to be at my gf's place and that guy was chatting with her and saying some *weird* stuff about 'them'. also, he often whines to my gf about her 'ignoring' him, but i guess it never crosses his mind that my gf will tell me these things. needless to say, i don't see him as much of a close friend anymore. oh, and he once tried to take credit for hooking up my gf and me up. i don't even want to get into that.
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If she's the one, then fight him for her, she's more important anyway. If you're not sure yet, then buy him a beer and then ask him. Preferably at a locale where he will see lots of available womyns nearby.
In 9 out of 10 cases when the girl shoots you down..... you are insulted angry, and then you find you really don't like the chick anymore... so then it's no big deal what happens with your friend. Sure you might get a minor self esteem bout as a result... but nothing serious. It's when you don't get the balls to ask in the first place.... and then your friend gets the girl you have the big crush on.... thats when things get emotionally ugly.
To the OP..... it depends how much you like the girl, how much you like the friend.. and how old you are.... If you're under 20... and you like your friend, don't do it. If you're in your 20s or older.... and you really like the girl.... then do it.
-Max
go for it.
'Likes' doesnt hold much water, he has the same opportunity to persue as you. If he doesn't thats his own fault. Not to mention you obviously 'LIKE' her also. A good friend would realize he is a pussy for not persuing it himself and cheer you on in your efforts.
'Likes' doesnt hold much water, he has the same opportunity to persue as you. If he doesn't thats his own fault. Not to mention you obviously 'LIKE' her also. A good friend would realize he is a pussy for not persuing it himself and cheer you on in your efforts.
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