What do you guys advise I do about trying to work out some deep rooted anger that my ex has towards me? We've been apart for like 3 months and I really want to get her back, but I can't even begin to make things work between us because shes got this bottled up anger from past problems that gets in the way.
Every time I feel like I'm getting somewhere with her, she responds for a little bit but eventually goes right into defense mode. She gets this attitude that it must be too good to be true, and unloads this.. I don't know how to describe it beyond blind fury. She drags up sh!t that happened like nearly 2 years ago. I mean, it was bad sh!t. I'm not even going to begin to get into it, because I'm ashamed of it. I was a total asshole. I still am in a lot of ways.. but I'm working on it. I'm going to therapy and working out some of my issues, but I just feel like so incomplete without her. Shes the mother of my child and I just want to fix things between us and try and have some resemblance of a normal family life. She says that everything is my fault and now I'm paying the price for my actions, and she's right...
I mean, I really don't need to have her back like right this second. Forgiveness would be a good step towards a possible future... I'm actively working on all of the things that caused our relationship to fall apart... How do I get her to see that it's not too good to be true this time?
This is locked because several here
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Try speaking with the therapist about this
and best of luck.
AnandTech Moderator
Every time I feel like I'm getting somewhere with her, she responds for a little bit but eventually goes right into defense mode. She gets this attitude that it must be too good to be true, and unloads this.. I don't know how to describe it beyond blind fury. She drags up sh!t that happened like nearly 2 years ago. I mean, it was bad sh!t. I'm not even going to begin to get into it, because I'm ashamed of it. I was a total asshole. I still am in a lot of ways.. but I'm working on it. I'm going to therapy and working out some of my issues, but I just feel like so incomplete without her. Shes the mother of my child and I just want to fix things between us and try and have some resemblance of a normal family life. She says that everything is my fault and now I'm paying the price for my actions, and she's right...
I mean, I really don't need to have her back like right this second. Forgiveness would be a good step towards a possible future... I'm actively working on all of the things that caused our relationship to fall apart... How do I get her to see that it's not too good to be true this time?
This is locked because several here
weren't mature enough to handle this topic.
Try speaking with the therapist about this
and best of luck.
AnandTech Moderator
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