Rant included..

[jhayx7]

No, she is not pulling that. Her standpoint is that this is going to be her only wedding she will ever have so she wants it to be "pretty"

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Exactly!!!!!! I told her last night that I can't fart money out, if so we wouldn't be having this discussion (she didn't like that)

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't really understand the problem. She wants to spend money you don't have. You can't spend what you don't have.

Where does she think the money is going to come from? You don't have it!

Is she pulling the whole, "You can't pay for all that I want, so I guess you don't love me" bullsh!t?

If so, run! Run far away! And find a woman who knows what life is really all about.

 

[iamwiz82]

Were planning on taking this trip before her father offered the money?

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

you're already at the counseling phase...eep.

 

[jhayx7]

Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

 

[GTaudiophile]

Sounds like you've already lost your balls and caved to her. Don't you realize that $15K could be used to INVEST in something?

House (usually appreciates in value)
Savings account for education: private school and/or college

 

[jhayx7]

I think of counselilng as taking care of your car. You don't change the oil after the motor blows up, you change it so the motor DOESN'T blow up.

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

you're already at the counseling phase...eep.

 

[Accipiter22]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

question: DO you even KNOW how much this is going to cost? Why not just figure it out, THEN figure out if there's even an argument ot be had...all i saw was 7k for the NZ trip....that leaves 8G...which is plenty for a big party

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

wow... i guess i over planned then because there is a lot to plan, even for a small wedding.
It is nice you are planning the NZ trip though.
Are you planning for the flowers and "reception" dinner for the two of you, etc as well? Will you have a photographer? will she be getting her hair and makeup done there?

Is she a simple girl, or more high maitnence?

 

[iamwiz82]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

question: DO you even KNOW how much this is going to cost? Why not just figure it out, THEN figure out if there's even an argument ot be had...all i saw was 7k for the NZ trip....that leaves 8G...which is plenty for a big party

And gifts accompany a wedding reception.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
No, she is not pulling that. Her standpoint is that this is going to be her only wedding she will ever have so she wants it to be "pretty"

This is common for upper middle class, high maintenance girls. Go to engagement counseling. 1) Ask to postpone the wedding till you've saved enough. 2) Go ahead with the wedding, invite your wealthy family friends, and on the registry have a donation box.

If the wedding is large enough with a rich enough group, you will actually make money off of it, especially if you plan, plan, plan (with savings in mind).

 

[BlueFlamme]

The reason you don't understand women is simple, you're still using Logic.



Or as better put by Jack Nicholas...

Receptionist: How do you write women so well?
Melving Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
My co-worker has a good suggestion...

How about don't get married! 1) Either marry her but in a year or two after you've saved enough for her dream wedding, or 2) Don't marry such a greedy woman with her priorities so out of whack. I say do the latter.

Agreed.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: BlueFlamme
The reason you don't understand women is simple, you're still using Logic.



Or as better put by Jack Nicholas...

Receptionist: How do you write women so well?
Melving Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability

It would be true if you added to that line emotional sensitivity and social (relationship) awareness

Girls have good qualities about them, just reason/logic isn't the highest on the list.

**EDIT**
There qualities also are their defects when taken to extremes. i.e. overly sensitive.

 

[jhayx7]

She is a simple girl, but picky. We will not have the reception dinner, just a party. We will need to book a place, have someone to cater the event, photographer and bartender.

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

wow... i guess i over planned then because there is a lot to plan, even for a small wedding.
It is nice you are planning the NZ trip though.
Are you planning for the flowers and "reception" dinner for the two of you, etc as well? Will you have a photographer? will she be getting her hair and makeup done there?

Is she a simple girl, or more high maitnence?

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
She is a simple girl, but picky. We will not have the reception dinner, just a party. We will need to book a place, have someone to cater the event, photographer and bartender.

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

wow... i guess i over planned then because there is a lot to plan, even for a small wedding.
It is nice you are planning the NZ trip though.
Are you planning for the flowers and "reception" dinner for the two of you, etc as well? Will you have a photographer? will she be getting her hair and makeup done there?

Is she a simple girl, or more high maitnence?

OK, wait a sec.... i thoguht you guys were getting married IN NZ?
is that not the case?
you made it seem like she DID want to get hitched there then just have a reception at home upon your return.

If you are getting married in NZ, there is still things to plan there besides the helicopter ride to the mountain

 

[jhayx7]

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
She is a simple girl, but picky. We will not have the reception dinner, just a party. We will need to book a place, have someone to cater the event, photographer and bartender.

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

wow... i guess i over planned then because there is a lot to plan, even for a small wedding.
It is nice you are planning the NZ trip though.
Are you planning for the flowers and "reception" dinner for the two of you, etc as well? Will you have a photographer? will she be getting her hair and makeup done there?

Is she a simple girl, or more high maitnence?

OK, wait a sec.... i thoguht you guys were getting married IN NZ?
is that not the case?
you made it seem like she DID want to get hitched there then just have a reception at home upon your return.

If you are getting married in NZ, there is still things to plan there besides the helicopter ride to the mountain

Yes, we are getting married in NZ, I was refering to the reception party back here. The wedding package includes her hair, makeup, flowers, etc...

 

[Lola]

Originally posted by: jhayx7

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
She is a simple girl, but picky. We will not have the reception dinner, just a party. We will need to book a place, have someone to cater the event, photographer and bartender.

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Well, she doesn't have to plan much. We decided last night it would be my job to plan the NZ trip and her job to plan the party (not entirely, just money estimates).

Originally posted by: LolaWiz

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?

wow... i guess i over planned then because there is a lot to plan, even for a small wedding.
It is nice you are planning the NZ trip though.
Are you planning for the flowers and "reception" dinner for the two of you, etc as well? Will you have a photographer? will she be getting her hair and makeup done there?

Is she a simple girl, or more high maitnence?

OK, wait a sec.... i thoguht you guys were getting married IN NZ?
is that not the case?
you made it seem like she DID want to get hitched there then just have a reception at home upon your return.

If you are getting married in NZ, there is still things to plan there besides the helicopter ride to the mountain

Yes, we are getting married in NZ, I was refering to the reception party back here. The wedding package includes her hair, makeup, flowers, etc...

AH! i see! Awesome!! :thumbsup:

 

[y2kc]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

but it's "her day".... I hate when they say that.

she should be happy with what she has.

 

[jhayx7]

Originally posted by: y2kc

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

but it's "her day".... I hate when they say that.

she should be happy with what she has.

NS, it's like I am just supposed to show up to make "her day" complete...

 

[Stuxnet]

Originally posted by: jhayx7
I need to rant for a bit. Me and the misses are getting married this year (yay), and her dad is giving us $15,000 to get married (YAY!) but somehow my old lady is not happy... We are going to New Zealand to get married and have the honeymoon. There is a marriage package we are going to do (helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and get married up there) which is not terribly expensive but the entire NZ trip is going to be around $7,000.

That leaves us with $8,000. She wants to have a party when we get back so she can wear her wedding dress and be with friends and family (sounds like fun eh?). Thing is, she wants an elegent party...Quite possibly would be more than the $8,000 we would have left from the trip...

Now for the part I don't understand, since we will not have enough money to throw the party she wants (and deserves) she thinks that we should be paying for the honeymoon in NZ instead of using the 'dad money', then we would have enough money for the party. WHYY???? Why can't we use all of the 'dad money' for everything?? We are taking a very nice trip and are going to have a very nice marriage and would have a decent party even with the $7,000 left over... Am I being an @$$ or is she being spoiled??

BTW, we are buying a new condo a little before we are getting married so we need money for that and my laptop broke (in school still) so I need to buy a new laptop too... I would be all for us pitching in for our wedding but we don't have enough money.

Looks like you already got married and no one told you.

 

[SP33Demon]

Originally posted by: Accipiter22

Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.

you're already at the counseling phase...eep.

OP, I would tell her that you guys need to see an "engagement planner" instead of counselor. Counseling indicates a problem 😉

 

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: BlueFlamme
The reason you don't understand women is simple, you're still using Logic.



Or as better put by Jack Nicholas...

Receptionist: How do you write women so well?
Melving Udall: I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability

QFT!!!

Dude, it won't make sense to you, stop trying to understand.

 

[randomlinh]

weddings are overly expensive IMO. it's overhyped. so basically, i'm SOL in getting married because very few women have the same attitude towards it 🙂

 

[imported_weadjust]

Just make sure you have enough left over the buy a set of nads.