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jhayx7

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I need to rant for a bit. Me and the misses are getting married this year (yay), and her dad is giving us $15,000 to get married (YAY!) but somehow my old lady is not happy... We are going to New Zealand to get married and have the honeymoon. There is a marriage package we are going to do (helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and get married up there) which is not terribly expensive but the entire NZ trip is going to be around $7,000.

That leaves us with $8,000. She wants to have a party when we get back so she can wear her wedding dress and be with friends and family (sounds like fun eh?). Thing is, she wants an elegent party...Quite possibly would be more than the $8,000 we would have left from the trip...

Now for the part I don't understand, since we will not have enough money to throw the party she wants (and deserves) she thinks that we should be paying for the honeymoon in NZ instead of using the 'dad money', then we would have enough money for the party. WHYY???? Why can't we use all of the 'dad money' for everything?? We are taking a very nice trip and are going to have a very nice marriage and would have a decent party even with the $7,000 left over... Am I being an @$$ or is she being spoiled??

BTW, we are buying a new condo a little before we are getting married so we need money for that and my laptop broke (in school still) so I need to buy a new laptop too... I would be all for us pitching in for our wedding but we don't have enough money.
 
why the need to go to New Zealand to get married? why not get married where you live and save money and then have the big party?


just be lucky you got a woman
 
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
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They're dreams cause most of the time, it's not financially feasible. Props to you if your wife had the marriage of her dreams, cause not everybody can do it.
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
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Never having been with a woman longer than 7 weeks, I can't speak from experience, but from what i've HEARD...the guys job is to basically show up 10 minutes before the thing, don't drool, and wear a tux

Originally posted by: jhayx7
I need to rant for a bit. Me and the misses are getting married this year (yay), and her dad is giving us $15,000 to get married (YAY!) but somehow my old lady is not happy... We are going to New Zealand to get married and have the honeymoon. There is a marriage package we are going to do (helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and get married up there) which is not terribly expensive but the entire NZ trip is going to be around $7,000.

That leaves us with $8,000. She wants to have a party when we get back so she can wear her wedding dress and be with friends and family (sounds like fun eh?). Thing is, she wants an elegent party...Quite possibly would be more than the $8,000 we would have left from the trip...

Now for the part I don't understand, since we will not have enough money to throw the party she wants (and deserves) she thinks that we should be paying for the honeymoon in NZ instead of using the 'dad money', then we would have enough money for the party. WHYY???? Why can't we use all of the 'dad money' for everything?? We are taking a very nice trip and are going to have a very nice marriage and would have a decent party even with the $7,000 left over... Am I being an @$$ or is she being spoiled??

BTW, we are buying a new condo a little before we are getting married so we need money for that and my laptop broke (in school still) so I need to buy a new laptop too... I would be all for us pitching in for our wedding but we don't have enough money.
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wait...money is money....if you have 20,000 in expenses, no matter where you spend it, 15000 of that is still covered. just explain it to her like that.
 
Originally posted by: jhayx7
I need to rant for a bit. Me and the misses are getting married this year (yay), and her dad is giving us $15,000 to get married (YAY!) but somehow my old lady is not happy... We are going to New Zealand to get married and have the honeymoon. There is a marriage package we are going to do (helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and get married up there) which is not terribly expensive but the entire NZ trip is going to be around $7,000.

That leaves us with $8,000. She wants to have a party when we get back so she can wear her wedding dress and be with friends and family (sounds like fun eh?). Thing is, she wants an elegent party...Quite possibly would be more than the $8,000 we would have left from the trip...

Now for the part I don't understand, since we will not have enough money to throw the party she wants (and deserves) she thinks that we should be paying for the honeymoon in NZ instead of using the 'dad money', then we would have enough money for the party. WHYY???? Why can't we use all of the 'dad money' for everything?? We are taking a very nice trip and are going to have a very nice marriage and would have a decent party even with the $7,000 left over... Am I being an @$$ or is she being spoiled??

BTW, we are buying a new condo a little before we are getting married so we need money for that and my laptop broke (in school still) so I need to buy a new laptop too... I would be all for us pitching in for our wedding but we don't have enough money.
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oh hell no...
if shes acting like this before the wedding just wait till you are tied to her...

Spoiled little bitch needs to grow up..
or pay for her own party...
 
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
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Never having been with a woman longer than 7 weeks, I can't speak from experience, but from what i've HEARD...the guys job is to basically show up 10 minutes before the thing, don't drool, and wear a tux
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You forgot being sober. 😛
 
I don't really understand the problem. She wants to spend money you don't have. You can't spend what you don't have.

Where does she think the money is going to come from? You don't have it!
 
Well, if we were to get married here, after flowers, photographer, food, drinks, etc... we would have no money left for a trip... That is why we are combining the two to save money. Weddings are such a rip off!!!

Originally posted by: pontifex
why the need to go to New Zealand to get married? why not get married where you live and save money and then have the big party?


just be lucky you got a woman
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Jebus women are stupid. Buy each other simple gold bands. Get married in the US. Sure, have the honeymoon in NZ. But for God's sake try to bank at least HALF of that $15K. As a down payment on a house, private school education or college education for the future kiddies.

Talk about priorities out of whack! Slap some sense into her!
 
Originally posted by: jhayx7
I need to rant for a bit. Me and the misses are getting married this year (yay), and her dad is giving us $15,000 to get married (YAY!) but somehow my old lady is not happy... We are going to New Zealand to get married and have the honeymoon. There is a marriage package we are going to do (helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and get married up there) which is not terribly expensive but the entire NZ trip is going to be around $7,000.

That leaves us with $8,000. She wants to have a party when we get back so she can wear her wedding dress and be with friends and family (sounds like fun eh?). Thing is, she wants an elegent party...Quite possibly would be more than the $8,000 we would have left from the trip...

Now for the part I don't understand, since we will not have enough money to throw the party she wants (and deserves) she thinks that we should be paying for the honeymoon in NZ instead of using the 'dad money', then we would have enough money for the party. WHYY???? Why can't we use all of the 'dad money' for everything?? We are taking a very nice trip and are going to have a very nice marriage and would have a decent party even with the $7,000 left over... Am I being an @$$ or is she being spoiled??

BTW, we are buying a new condo a little before we are getting married so we need money for that and my laptop broke (in school still) so I need to buy a new laptop too... I would be all for us pitching in for our wedding but we don't have enough money.
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Is this the first woman you've ever met? Because, they don't want to get married on top of a mountain, they want a big, expensive princess wedding in a cathedral with all their family and friends, and they've been planning it since they were born; you're just the last piece of the puzzle to fall into place. So she obviously wants to blow Daddy's $15,000 for her gala event, which is probably what the money was for in the first place (tradition says that bride's father pays for wedding). She does not want to go to New Zealand, unless its just for the honeymoon, in which case she plans for the money to have already been spent (which is why you'd have to pay for NZ yourself).

Now do you understand? No? Good, then you're ready to get married! :laugh:
 
Originally posted by: jhayx7
I need to rant for a bit. Me and the misses are getting married this year (yay), and her dad is giving us $15,000 to get married (YAY!) but somehow my old lady is not happy... We are going to New Zealand to get married and have the honeymoon. There is a marriage package we are going to do (helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and get married up there) which is not terribly expensive but the entire NZ trip is going to be around $7,000.

That leaves us with $8,000. She wants to have a party when we get back so she can wear her wedding dress and be with friends and family (sounds like fun eh?). Thing is, she wants an elegent party...Quite possibly would be more than the $8,000 we would have left from the trip...

Now for the part I don't understand, since we will not have enough money to throw the party she wants (and deserves) she thinks that we should be paying for the honeymoon in NZ instead of using the 'dad money', then we would have enough money for the party. WHYY???? Why can't we use all of the 'dad money' for everything?? We are taking a very nice trip and are going to have a very nice marriage and would have a decent party even with the $7,000 left over... Am I being an @$$ or is she being spoiled??

BTW, we are buying a new condo a little before we are getting married so we need money for that and my laptop broke (in school still) so I need to buy a new laptop too... I would be all for us pitching in for our wedding but we don't have enough money.
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You are correct, she is high maintenance and is spoiled. You really can't do much about it though. Might I suggest engagement counseling. If you go to a church, it is free and will help out with this stuff.
 
Originally posted by: chuckywang
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
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They're dreams cause most of the time, it's not financially feasible. Props to you if your wife had the marriage of her dreams, cause not everybody can do it.
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ah... except, it was the wedding for BOTH of us... I planned and busted ass to get good deals, did a lot of things myself, etc.

We spent money on the destination wedding and paid for it ourselves, but honestly, even my dear husband said it was worth it.

OP, we were in the exact situation though, we just bought a house before getting married too... altouhg we had been saving and paying for our wedding for over a year in advance.
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
Click to expand...



Never having been with a woman longer than 7 weeks, I can't speak from experience, but from what i've HEARD...the guys job is to basically show up 10 minutes before the thing, don't drool, and wear a tux
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You forgot being sober. 😛
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Are you certain he forgot?
 
Thinking about it, you two don't sound like a very good fit. You realize that the butting of heads will continue like this forever, right?

I'd drop the money we spent on our destination wedding again, it was probably the best experience of my life.

EDIT: Lola beat me to saying it was worth it.
 
My co-worker has a good suggestion...

How about don't get married! 1) Either marry her but in a year or two after you've saved enough for her dream wedding, or 2) Don't marry such a greedy woman with her priorities so out of whack. I say do the latter.
 
Exactly!!!!!! I told her last night that I can't fart money out, if so we wouldn't be having this discussion (she didn't like that)

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't really understand the problem. She wants to spend money you don't have. You can't spend what you don't have.

Where does she think the money is going to come from? You don't have it!
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Originally posted by: jhayx7
Exactly!!!!!! I told her last night that I can't fart money out, if so we wouldn't be having this discussion (she didn't like that)

Originally posted by: kranky
I don't really understand the problem. She wants to spend money you don't have. You can't spend what you don't have.

Where does she think the money is going to come from? You don't have it!
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Is she pulling the whole, "You can't pay for all that I want, so I guess you don't love me" bullsh!t?

If so, run! Run far away! And find a woman who knows what life is really all about.
 
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.
 
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Originally posted by: Accipiter22
Originally posted by: iamwiz82
Most women dream their whole lives about their wedding day and the accompanying party.

We did the exact thing she wanted, btw. We got married in Hawaii and then came back here and had a reception.
Click to expand...



Never having been with a woman longer than 7 weeks, I can't speak from experience, but from what i've HEARD...the guys job is to basically show up 10 minutes before the thing, don't drool, and wear a tux
Click to expand...

You forgot being sober. 😛
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And with no markings. I was the best man for my friend's wedding and his family members and I took him out for the bachelor party. Of course I did my duty and had him spanked by 7 strippers on stage, but some of them went nuts and wrote all over his body with a Sharpie pen(something like "Vixen was here!"), and also spanked him pretty hard with the belt, leaving him with welts. Apparently the dumbass didn't completely clean himself before the wedding and the bride found some stuff written on his back on the wedding night.
 
Originally posted by: jhayx7
Guys, don't get me wrong, she is a great find.. we never fight or have issues and this is the first big issue we have had. Maybe going to councling will help.
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please keep in mind that girls go crazy while planning weddings.

Did you ask to have the wedding a little later so you BOTH can save?
 
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