RANT: I'll be a college boy who still lives with his mommy

[Static911]

Living on campus is far from the real world as stated above. Real world is sleeping by 11pm to wake up to go to work at 8:30am.

If you're in the party scene, yes, living at home might put a crimp in that aspect. However, if you choose to learn as much as possible, living at home isn't that bad of an idea...

edit: however, it is nice having your own space...ah...college...wow...I miss it already!

Static911

 

[JACKHAMMER]

<< iving on campus would get me a taste of that "real world" you're babbling >>

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Living in the dorms is the ANTI-real world. Ask anybody who has been there and is now done with school (sigh.. I wish I was still in school)

 

[venk]

If your parents are paying, tough luck.


If your paying, live wherever the hell you want.

 

[tweakmm]

<< BTW, would like some whine with your cheese? >>


*pssst*
it's cheese with your whine

 

[randomlinh]

living on campus is not real world. real world isn't gettnig drunk on your ass every other day (ok, sterotypical, i know, but that's how my hall was last year).

it is however, still a somewhat valuable experiece to some, and i see what you're getting at. and if you have scholarships paying for it, you should be able to chose whatever. hell, regardless you should be able to.. unless your parents are pickin the bill.

 

[abc]

hey, 1 yr blows by sooo fast don't feel so bad about it if you have to live back home.

if anything 'real world' is more like the commute - school -commute kind of thing,
where school is replaced by -job- 5days a week.

but u meant to refer to the 'be on your own' portion.

well my folks were never as apparently controlling as yours seem
but there's potentially alot on the line, college is expensive and sure ur folks are probably happy they don't have to fork over much since like you said u got yourself a nice scholarship through hardwork in HS or whatever.

So you feel you're doing them a favor right, but though i don't know all the details of your HS years, I would imagine that it was the home and stability of your folks that gave you a good chance to focus on doing well in HS in the first place.

 

[StageLeft]

So what if you get a car? That sucks. You should do all you can to get away. You should have covered this a year ago and knowing how they might be have set yourself to go to a university further away. This could really suck.

 

[azazyel]

I agree with your parents. Why would you want to live on campus when you are only 20min from school. Just stay at home get a job then move out in a year to an apartment. On campus living is a joke.

Do they have Frats there?

 

[Spamela]

what's the male equivalent of "princess" called?

 

[Texmaster]

Tough one MindStorm. But do your best to get on Campus. I can't imagine living at home while I was in college

 

[AU Tiger]

If you can't get out of the house, make the most of it. Save money like a mad man. That way when you do get out you will be financially ahead of the average college student/graduate.

 

[jhu]

i was in the same situation, except my parents wanted me to go away. imagine that. so i stayed at home and got a car instead. still cheaper in the long run

 

[vi edit]

Dorms kind of suck. I was an RA in one so I know how things go. Getting a house off campus with three of your best friends is where it's at though. There's always beer in the fridge and a game server always active.

No mickey mouse campus policies to follow. My own parking spot, and freedom to roam around. Actually cheaper than on campus living too, at least at my school/town.

 

[poopaskoopa]

I don't know who told you living in a crappy dorm with buncha young people who can't/don't cook or clean will resemble the "real world" you speak of. All I remember is that those fackers stole toilet papers on weekends and stepping on vomits. You'll miss out on some stuff, for sure, but I don't think you're going to miss out on much.

I do envy the 250kb/s upload that enables the on-campus peeps to run any game server they want though... If you think living with your parents is bad now, imagine my having had to walk in on your roommate making love to his right hand on monthly basis. I was so happy to leave that dorm.

 

[Peetoeng]

Undergraduate dorm rooms in my university were more like chincilla cage, just enough for bed and shelf; even chincilla cage has room for exercise wheel . It has public bathrooms and terrible food and turned out to be more expensive than living off-campus + food. The dorm room in my graduate school was rather acceptable, thrice the size of that in my undergrad and had bathroom and kitchen.

You got 4 years to figure out which one is reality and which one is illusion.

 

[BD2003]

I lived at home for the first year and a half of college. It was just school. Didnt meet too many people, just went to class etc etc. Got my work done. Learned what college classes are.

After a year and a half, I moved into the dorms at a different school. Didnt know a person. I'm not even that sociable. But I have TONS of friends now. Dont worry about not being able to make friends, its going to be so so easy, unless youre a dick, and noone wants anything to do with you.

But keep in mind not everything is good about being on campus.

1) Roomates can be fvcking HELL. A friend of mine just couldnt take it anymore and had to move out. Going into my friend's suite now is like a fvcking warzone, they all cant wait to get out of there, because of ONE KID.

2) You live in a closet. I'm sure it varies from dorm to dorm, but in general, if youre at a dorm, youre living in a total shoebox, with someone you might not even like all too much.

3) The food sucks. Home cooked meals are like currency around here. Its THAT bad.

4) You will stop going to class. You will never make your morning classes.

Of course its not all bad

1) Tons of friends.

2) Lots......LOTS of "immoral" activites.

3) Class is a 10 min walk away.

4) You can eat what you want, when you want, how you want, EVERY DAY.


Theres are no job connections, no experience but corruption, and well, I suppose your social skills will be boosted, in a way. Its nothing like the real world. It really doesnt feel like youre on your own at all, but maybe I'm just used to it. But since youre convinced commuting is evil and it sucks, it IS going to suck. Dont fall into a self-fufilling prophecy. Its got its advantages.

Why dont you stand up to your parents? Youre a big boy now.

But in the end, I only know one thing.

I love college. Deeply. I never want to leave.

 

[Boogak]

<< imagine my having had to walk in on your roommate making love to his right hand on monthly basis. I was so happy to leave that dorm. >>


BWAHAHAHAHA!!!
* fap * fap * fap *

Shrug... I lived at home during my 5 years in college since school was only 15 minutes away. Never bothered me, still went out during the weekends and socialized with other students at the library or the student rec center. Seriously... enjoy college, adult working life blows. Except for the money to buy lots of new toys

 

[SpongeBob]

I would definitely recommend living in the dorms first year. You'll meet a ton of people, have a lot of fun, and you'll have lot's of people to help you study because most freshman take a lot of the same classes. Make some good friends and then get an apartment/house with them 2nd year. Living in the dorms is cool, but only for so long.

 

[Jejunum]

hey i goto uc

yah live on campus u seriously will be missing out...ignore the other people...

join clubs; come to uc martial arts

 

[royaldank]

Living at home isn't bad. You can approach it several ways to see why it could be an advantage.

First, you can be a full part of the campus experience by getting up in the morning at 8:00 and driving to school, and participate in all the study groups/labs/intermural sports and so forth. Meet people that live on or around campus. Hang out with these folks. Make it so you day starts at 8:00 and ends when you finally get home around 11:00 or 12:00 at night. Once you meet people, you can hang out at their place or go to the library or do whatever. No one cares if you live on campus or not. Mayb get a part time job on campus to meet more people.

Second, you can see it as a way to experience the real world you seem to desperately want to live. View it as your apartment. You get up and go to school. Get a job if your study habits don't take all night. Make some cash and don't ask your parents for money. Make sure you help out when you can, but make sure you continue to do well in school. If you are active in school, you wont be home as much as you think...with study groups and so forth.

You mentioned at one point it would only cost you another 4,000 or so to live in the dorm after scholarships. Then, you went on to mention student loans. These can be nice if you use, but why abuse them? I have plenty of friends now that are 2-5 years out of school and they have to make monthly payments to their student loans. They wonder why I was able to go visit my brother in London for two weeks and it's because I've never had student loans. That means you start amassing lots of money a lot quicker. I can afford to buy toys and gadget with some of the loan payment money all my friends send in. I've never had to worry about student loan debt, and since I had jobs, I never had any CC debt either. Both are killing my friends right now.

Be active in class. You don't need to be active in the dorm. Out of the fourty or so people on my hall floor, seriously about 10 were there the next year.

 

[QueHuong]

One thing I've noticed that the people who are condescendingly telling me that living on campus sucks and how deluded I am, they have way more posts than I do: they spend a hell lot of time on AT - they have no life and I'd take their advices with a grain of salt. So until those people get a real life, stop yer bitching.

Jejunum, since you go to UC, I'll IM you sometimes to ask about residence halls and stuff.

To clarify what I meant by "real world": First off, I doubt anyone else would say living with their parents is closer to the real world than living on your own at a dorm. Secondly, like someone pointed out, living on campus would improve social skills. I don't see how commuting would allow a student more opportunities to meet other people, more time to spend on extracurricular activities, etc. Also, my counselor recommends I live on campus "to gain valuable college experiences." Oh, and I'm sure those ATers who are telling me otherwise are more qualified than a person who counsels and works with students for a living. Don't take offense when I place more weight to what my counselor says than to those who hide behind a computer screen and find threads to crap in.

And yes, I have my own selfish reasons for living on campus. Like any other college students, I want to have fun without the looming presence of a parent constantly nagging me. And I have enough sense not to go crazy since I know I will lose my scholarships. So yeah, I want to have fun but I know I have responsibilities. The tight-asses who are bitching at me seem to idiotically assume all I want to do in college is drink (by the way, I don't even like beer).



<< I agree with your parents. >>


I forgot to mention that my mom personally thinks I should commute until I GRADUATE which will be at least 7 years from now, and then I can go live on my own (4 undergrad years + 1 year co-op; and since I plan on getting a master's, you can tack on another 2 years to that = 7 years). That's how overprotective my mom is. Still agree with her?



<< BTW, would like some whine with your cheese? >>


Hah! I didn't even notice that last sentence from happypuppy's post since I didn't feel what he had to say was important enough for me to read the whole post. The idiot tried to say something witty and it comes out all wrong...and that "witty" phrase has been grossly overused and is far from original. LOL. puppy, you're almost as dumb as platinumgold.

 

[royaldank]

<< One thing I've noticed that the people who are condescendingly telling me that living on campus sucks and how deluded I am, they have way more posts than I do: they spend a hell lot of time on AT - they have no life and I'd take their advices with a grain of salt. So until those people get a real life, stop yer bitching. >>



Maybe these are people that sucked up whatever came their way and studied and excelled without b!tching and complaining about it. Maybe now they have coushin exec jobs and have nothing better to do than post on stupid interent boards during the day to pass the hours. You can also learn things here and discuss these topics.



<< To clarify what I meant by "real world": First off, I doubt anyone else would say living with their parents is closer to the real world than living on your own at a dorm. >>



I've got an apartment now and they don't cook dinner downstairs. I don't have a meal card. I don't have a bunch of drunk kids running around at 2:00 in the morning. I don't have an RA around to police what I'm doing. Living "in the real world" means cleaning up after yourself. It means keeping your appointment straight and being responsible. You can live in the real world and still be at your parents house. But, if you live at home and are too lazy to take responsability, then living at home wont be like the real world. But, why the hell do you want to be in the real world. You wont believe it now, but enjoy your time at home and in school. Sure, there's no homework once you're in the real world, but there are plenty of other stressors. Those don't end no matter what age or where you live.



<< Secondly, like someone pointed out, living on campus would improve social skills. I don't see how commuting would allow a student more opportunities to meet other people, more time to spend on extracurricular activities, etc. >>



Are you riding the 8:30 to 3:30 bus to school everyday? You do know your allowed to particpate in intermural sports, study groups, and things like that even if you live off campus.



<< Also, my counselor recommends I live on campus "to gain valuable college experiences." Oh, and I'm sure those ATers who are telling me otherwise are more qualified than a person who counsels and works with students for a living. Don't take offense when I place more weight to what my counselor says than to those who hide behind a computer screen and find threads to crap in. >>



Who does this counselor work for? If it's your school, then he's getting a kickback for the school or himself by sending you close to home. Maybe not financially, but the more kids they send there, the better their school looks. And the better they equip the local university, the better response they get from the university. If he is a conselor at UC, then you obviously know why he told you to live on campus.



<< And I have enough sense not to go crazy since I know I will lose my scholarships. >>



Man, if that was always true, it would be hard to find new scholarships each year.

I'm not thread crapping but I think most of us are trying to point out how living at home isn't the end of the world. I've lived at home, lived on campus, living with other guys, done it all. It's not so bad. Take that year to get a job and save some money. Make sure you have your responsabilities taken care of and can pay bills, and so forth, yourself and on time. Get a routine of taking care of the little things. That's what is harmful to freshman...having to adjust to so much. Also, it would make your parents feel better, and ten or twenty years from now, you'll understand how much that means. It's not the end of the world, man.

 

[Michael1897]

don't worry about the living at home, paying for housing is a pain the ... well you know.
think of it this way there will be more money for you to spend and good food to eat every day

I miss my mom's cooking *sigh*