RANT: How can people be so insane? :(

[Lonyo]

A short while ago I expressed interest in my ex-girlfriends best friend, awkward I know.
I checked with my ex, who said she was OK with it, so I went ahead and me and this other girl are going out.

Now my ex-best friend says that my ex-gf isn't actually OK with it and I should have waited, but how was I supposed to know when my ex said it would be OK and easued the fears of the other girl?
There was a 3-4 month gap between the break up and me going out with this person.

I have no idea how this can be 100% my fault for not realising my ex was only saying it would be OK to allow her mate to be happy, because I didn't just as once fleetingly, and it was the ex who allowed it all to happen.

 

[Eli]

You knew it would be trouble.

Things like that almost never work out.

 

[feralkid]

Originally posted by: Eli
You knew it would be trouble.

Things like that almost never work out.

I have to agree there...ex or not; it's still a triangle, hence destined for tragedy/suckage. :frown:

 

[Czar]

Just think about what you would do in here shoes, that your ex girlfriend would start to date your best friend only 3-4 months after your brakeup.

Doubt anyone would like that.

 

[Swag1138]

*walks by singing*

Shes my best friends girlfriend
my best friends girlfriend
my best friends girlfriend

and she used to be mine

 

[gotsmack]

did she leave you? if she did, then who cares what she thinks.

 

[tm37]

no man has ever sucessfully pulled of "the switch"

 

[her209]

Who cares what the ex thinks... that why she's your ex and not your current gf.

 

[Siddhartha]

Who is your ex-best friend?

 

[minendo]

Why do you give a damn what your ex thinks? She is your ex for a reason.

 

"Now my ex-best friend says that my ex-gf isn't actually OK with it and I should have waited, but how was I supposed to know when my ex said it would be OK and easued the fears of the other girl?
There was a 3-4 month gap between the break up and me going out with this person."

Huh? And how did your ex-best friend get into the picture? At least you introduced us to your so-called ex-gf, so shouldn't you introduce us to your so-called ex-best friend? Why bring that character out of no where and leave us guessing if your ex-best friend is distinct from your current gf or ex-gf, etc. Uhmmm . . . please help us out here 'cuz you're leaving us confused.

Do you easily lose your gfs and best friends? How did you get the word "ex" attached to your best friend?

In any case, frankly, it's none of your ex-gf's freakin' biz how your love life goes provided you had terminated the relationship since. If she has an attitude about you dating someone else simply because you gave her the leeway to give her permission or disapproval, then I can't fault her since it's up to you to cut it off. Cut it off completely by never asking any ex-gf for approval of who you date. If you do ask for approval, then you have to be ready for a disapproval. It isn't unsolicited, so I can't blame her. The day you tell her to stay out of your biz, I'll start to see your case for her unsolicited interference. Everything is in your control at the moment.

 

[Autumnscarbi]

Ok, although I'd be peeved that my ex wanted my best friend....I'd be more than peeved at my best friend....she should have known better...a real friend would know it bothered you....

 

[Lonyo]

I broke up with the girl, then she started liking my best friend cos that's who she turned to when I treated her badly.
She liked MY best mate, then I liked her best mate.
I went out with her best mate, that was why I checked it would be OK.
Now my best mate and my ex have "turned" on me, and say it's not OK to go out with my ex-gf's best mate, even though she originally gave the OK.

 

No offence, but your so-called best friend, ex, and you each have issues. It's sounding like some junior high or elementary school stunt or something. LOL!

Seriously, though, it's almost like a love triangle with jealousy going around. I am not convinced that you dated her best friend simply because you liked, liked her best friend. For every possible determinants, it is more likely than not that your decision to date her best friend was some envy going on with her taking your best friend. The fact that you felt compelled to get her approval shows that it has everything to do with jealousy. I don't mean the hateful jealousy. I mean the jealousy that stems from arrogance and missing what you had lost. You really do still like her, liker her. And she does like you but has mixed feelings about it (i.e., wanting to have you around but date your friend anyway). Basically, I think that you two need to sit down and iron out everything. Speak out your true feelings. It seems to me that you are suppressing your feeling and she's somewhat doing the same thing. Speak out your mind and be honest with her. You two need to dish it out completely so you can move on with your lives or get back together and manage a healthier relationship.

Hope that helps.

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
broke up with the girl, then she started liking my best friend ...
She liked MY best mate, then I liked her best mate.
I went out with her best mate.

you are NOT at fault.

One good turn deserves another. She went out with your best friend now you're just returning the favor. besides who cares what she thinks.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
I broke up with the girl, then she started liking my best friend cos that's who she turned to when I treated her badly.
She liked MY best mate, then I liked her best mate.
I went out with her best mate, that was why I checked it would be OK.
Now my best mate and my ex have "turned" on me, and say it's not OK to go out with my ex-gf's best mate, even though she originally gave the OK.

Can I get a WTF?

Why the hell do you care what these people think? They are both your ex's. Its should be blindingly obvious to you that they aren't people that you should stay friends with.

 

[amnesiac]

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: Lonyo
I broke up with the girl, then she started liking my best friend cos that's who she turned to when I treated her badly.
She liked MY best mate, then I liked her best mate.
I went out with her best mate, that was why I checked it would be OK.
Now my best mate and my ex have "turned" on me, and say it's not OK to go out with my ex-gf's best mate, even though she originally gave the OK.

Can I get a WTF?

Why the hell do you care what these people think? They are both your ex's. Its should be blindingly obvious to you that they aren't people that you should stay friends with.

Ditto that.

The second you attach the "ex" modifier to anyone is the second you stop caring what they think. In fact, it's better that you don't talk to ANY "Ex" of yours for any reason unless the breakup was considered "amicable."

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: amnesiac 2.0

Originally posted by: her209

Originally posted by: Lonyo
I broke up with the girl, then she started liking my best friend cos that's who she turned to when I treated her badly.
She liked MY best mate, then I liked her best mate.
I went out with her best mate, that was why I checked it would be OK.
Now my best mate and my ex have "turned" on me, and say it's not OK to go out with my ex-gf's best mate, even though she originally gave the OK.

Can I get a WTF?

Why the hell do you care what these people think? They are both your ex's. Its should be blindingly obvious to you that they aren't people that you should stay friends with.

Ditto that.

The second you attach the "ex" modifier to anyone is the second you stop caring what they think. In fact, it's better that you don't talk to ANY "Ex" of yours for any reason unless the breakup was considered "amicable."

I think the worst part of it is that his ex-besf friend is telling him that he can't hook up with his ex-gf best friend when his ex-best friend hooked up with his ex-gf. Hypocrisy at it best.

Please do me a favor and kick that guy in the balls for me.... make sure you wear a steel toe or something too.

 

[Anubis]

Originally posted by: minendo
Why do you give a damn what your ex thinks? She is your ex for a reason.

winner

 

[Alphazero]

For the ex-gf, it's never really OK. It will always be a little awkward, you just have to decide whether it will or will not be too awkward for you.

 

[Deeko]

Originally posted by: Lonyo
A short while ago I expressed interest in my ex-girlfriends best friend, awkward I know.
I checked with my ex, who said she was OK with it, so I went ahead and me and this other girl are going out.

Now my ex-best friend says that my ex-gf isn't actually OK with it and I should have waited, but how was I supposed to know when my ex said it would be OK and easued the fears of the other girl?
There was a 3-4 month gap between the break up and me going out with this person.

I have no idea how this can be 100% my fault for not realising my ex was only saying it would be OK to allow her mate to be happy, because I didn't just as once fleetingly, and it was the ex who allowed it all to happen.

She is gonna say its ok, but she is gonna not be ok with it. Pretty clear.

 

[pulse8]

How long did you go out before you broke up?