Rant about bad parenting.

[LeeTJ]

My son, 6 yrs old had a neigbor friend over at our house today and what struck me was, I've never met his parents before, they never came over ONCE, they didn't even come to tell him it was time to come home and it was going on 7:30 pm before i had to tell this kid and his younger brother it was time for them to go home.

I don't get parents like that. Me, there is NO way i could ever let my kid stay over all day at someone elses home w/o knowing something about the parents.

again, mb i'm just waaaayyyyyy to controlling, but i think the other parents are just crazy to let their 2 children go to a strangers house and stay all day long w/o finding out anything about the people that live there.

Update

Ok, so i went over to the neighbors house, I figure if their kids are going to keep coming over to our house i should have their contact info etc. While i was there i said to the mother, "Hey, it's great our kids can play together, but from now on, please call us before you send them over." Exchanged phone numbers and left.

couple days later, my son and his friend are walking home after getting off the school bus and my wife sees them and the kid says to my wife that he can't come over any more because I don't like him.

LOL. What kind of parent would tell his/her child something in like that??

I never said i didn't like the kid, i just wanted to know that there was a responsible parent on the other end in case something happened.

anyway, i hope he never comes over, cause i guarantee you, if he came over and got hurt at my house, his parents would be trying to sue us left and fvcking right.

sheesh.

Would you call that parenting??

 

[JeffreyLebowski]

guees what, you=free daycare.

 

[Red Dawn]

Nothing wrong with you Lee.

 

[Spoooon]

Maybe they had to be home by 8?

 

[rgwalt]

I wouldn't say you are controlling. I'd say you are smart.

Ryan

 

[TwinkleToes77]

You were just a free babysitter... They didnt care who their kid was with as long as they didnt have to worry about them for a few hours. Thats a shame. My mom used to never let me go out with other families until she met them.

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
guees what, you=free daycare.

You say that as if it's a bad thing. There needs to be more parents like this.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
guees what, you=free daycare.

well, mb i am too controlling but i'd rather have other peoples kids over here so that i can keep on eye on how my kids behave than the other way around.

 

[Wingznut]

You are not "controlling". A better term would be "responsible."

Not too long ago, I'm working in the garage using all sorts of different power saws. Well, in walks this 4-yr old little girl and starts playing with my sons' toys. Mom or Dad were nowhere in sight, nor have I ever met them. But they are allowing their little girl to walk all around the neighborhood.

 

[melly]

Originally posted by: TwinkleToes77
You were just a free babysitter... They didnt care who their kid was with as long as they didnt have to worry about them for a few hours. Thats a shame. My mom used to never let me go out with other families until she met them.

ditto

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: Wingznut
You are not "controlling". A better term would be "responsible."

Not too long ago, I'm working in the garage using all sorts of different power saws. Well, in walks this 4-yr old little girl and starts playing with my sons' toys. Mom or Dad were nowhere in sight, nor have I ever met them. But they are allowing their little girl to walk all around the neighborhood.

exactly, my sons friend is 6 and his younger brother is 4. so they have a 6 yr old watching his 4 yr old younger brother and NO adults in site.

this is reprehensible.

 

[Zebo]

Maybe his parents are from somesmalltown, Arkansaw where you could trust your neighbors. Or maybe they are just trusting of people in general. I think this is more a geoghaphical characteristic.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: Carbonyl
Maybe his parents are from somesmalltown, Arkansaw where you could trust your neighbors. Or maybe they are just trusting of people in general. I think this is more a geoghaphical characteristic.

i don't know. i don't consider myself paranoid but there is no way i would just leave my kids at someone elses place w/o knowing something about the family.

 

[Spyro]

Originally posted by: Red Dawn
Nothing wrong with you Lee.

 

[Zebo]

I'm the same way...But then after 6PM they are at home or I'm with them anyway.

 

[HombrePequeno]

When I was that age, I had to be home at like 5. My parents knew all of my friends parents too.

 

[Mallow]

sounds like good parenting

 

[pulse8]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
guees what, you=free daycare.

well, mb i am too controlling but i'd rather have other peoples kids over here so that i can keep on eye on how my kids behave than the other way around.

Sorry to get way off topic here, but is there some reason you abbreviate "maybe" to mb?

 

[SnapIT]

Originally posted by: Mallow
sounds like good parenting

Yup

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: LeeTJ

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
guees what, you=free daycare.

well, mb i am too controlling but i'd rather have other peoples kids over here so that i can keep on eye on how my kids behave than the other way around.

Sorry to get way off topic here, but is there some reason you abbreviate "maybe" to mb?

cause i'm lazy.

i spend all my energy watching my kids.

 

[Isla]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ
My son, 6 yrs old had a neigbor friend over at our house today and what struck me was, I've never met his parents before, they never came over ONCE, they didn't even come to tell him it was time to come home and it was going on 7:30 pm before i had to tell this kid and his younger brother it was time for them to go home.

I don't get parents like that. Me, there is NO way i could ever let my kid stay over all day at someone elses home w/o knowing something about the parents.

again, mb i'm just waaaayyyyyy to controlling, but i think the other parents are just crazy to let their 2 children go to a strangers house and stay all day long w/o finding out anything about the people that live there.

That makes two of us.

I'm that way as much with my 15 year old as I am with my 4 year old. It's not being controlling.... it's called CARING!

 

[pulse8]

At what age do you trust your child's judgement on who they spend time with?

 

[Zebo]

Originally posted by: LeeTJ

Originally posted by: pulse8

Originally posted by: LeeTJ

Originally posted by: JeffreyLebowski
guees what, you=free daycare.

well, mb i am too controlling but i'd rather have other peoples kids over here so that i can keep on eye on how my kids behave than the other way around.

Sorry to get way off topic here, but is there some reason you abbreviate "maybe" to mb?

cause i'm lazy.

i spend all my energy watching my kids.

LOL

 

[mastertech01]

Its plain irresponsibility. They are the typical ones who feel great that thier children are free to explore and learn, and cry like the end of the world when something happens to them. Like the parents who let thier children ride in the front seat of the car unrestrained and then get into an accident and the child is injured badly or killed by a speeding air bag. Then they want to sue the auto manufacturer.

 

[LeeTJ]

Originally posted by: pulse8
At what age do you trust your child's judgement on who they spend time with?

haven't got there yet in my opinion. i agree, at some point i'm going to have to trust my childrens judgement. i trust my son for some things now, but not yet.

when the time comes i'll make the adjustment.