Amd motherboards use DDR memory, not DDR2. All specify DDR400 memory, although other speeds should work.
CPU speed and memory speed can be controlled independantly with multipliers and dividers. What you refer to as "hard to overclock your RAM higher than 210mhz for ddr400 and thats a problem since your fsb needs to be equivelent to that" (your English teacher would ask "What does 'that' refer to?") means that if FSB = memory speed, then the memory is running a 1:1 divider, which, is some scenarios, may be more stable.
In reality almost all memory will overclock. but is only guaranteed to run at it's specified speed. Some may OC a little, some alot.
The best advice is to buy memory that will run at the same speed as the FSB. But you can't know what FSB you can OC to until you try, and you don't know how fast your memory will OC either, until you try.
And to add to the confusion, all DDR400 memory is not equal, even if it has the same specification. Memory memufacturers use ICs (the little black squares on the sticks themselves) to build memory modules and they change ICs randomly (based on supply and demand..price!). So, with a typical purchae in a store you won't know which IC's are on the modules until you have hem in your hands (the Rev. No.s printd on the modules can be traced back th the actual IC's used to build that stick. Diferent ICs overclock diferently, some will run fast, some will run with low latencies some will bo both, some are in between. I think a little more reading on OCing is in order
The typical method for learning to overclock is to "Read the Stickies"
Here's a few. DO NOT read them all, you'll go stark raving mad! Pick one or two that appeal to you and read the "general" sections about OCing.
http://www.overclock.net/overclock.p...king-guide.htm
http://forums.extremeoverclocking.co...d.php?t=151373
http://www.ocforums.com/showthread.php?t=263753
http://www.lostcircuits.com/advice/bios2/6.shtml
http://www.dfi-street.com/forum/showthread.php?t=20823
http://i4memory.com/showthread.php?t=327
http://www.hardforum.com/showthread.php?t=795444