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Quick... do I go to the funeral?

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pstylesss

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So my dad's wife's nephew that I never met was in a terrible car accident and on life support for a few weeks. He passed away a few days ago and it's been really hard on that family. I don't really know them, I have met one of my step mom's sisters once or twice maybe. I never met the boy that just died, and I don't recall ever knowing he existed before the accident. The funeral service is at 10am tomorrow and over a 30 minute drive. I was thinking about going but I thought it was 1PM or so and I don't have any clothes ready.

What should I do? Or what would you do in this situation?
 
No one will notice if you don't go. If you do go, the only person who is going to care that you are there is you. Everyone knows this.
 
Funerals are very weird to attend if you were not close to the person. I've been to 3 funerals that meant a lot to me and they really tore me down. I've been to 3-4 that I barely knew the person or didn't know the person and I felt completely out of place, and really wanted to get out fast.

 
Originally posted by: oldsmoboat
Over 30 minutes away? Well that's obviously insurmountable and unreasonable.
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hmm olds, might I sense some sarcasm? :laugh:

I thought the distance might give people some perspective. It's not like the funeral home is across the street.
 
OP
It really depends on how close you are to your step mother and what it would mean to her.
:camera:s of step mom?
 
funerals are about your being there for those alive you know not those dead.

That said most would probably rather you sit this one out anyway.
 
Originally posted by: TallBill
I've been to 3-4 that I barely knew the person or didn't know the person and I felt completely out of place, and really wanted to get out fast.
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This. I went to a couple before where I didn't even know the person as well. Apparently my GF at the time worked with the guy around 7 years ago...I went for support of the GF, but I felt like an ass because I am pretty sure I was the only person there that wasn't in tears.

In my book: don't know the person = don't go.
 
Originally posted by: ZeroIQ
So my dad's wife's nephew that I never met was in a terrible car accident and on life support for a few weeks. He passed away a few days ago and it's been really hard on that family. I don't really know them, I have met one of my step mom's sisters once or twice maybe. I never met the boy that just died, and I don't recall ever knowing he existed before the accident. The funeral service is at 10am tomorrow and over a 30 minute drive. I was thinking about going but I thought it was 1PM or so and I don't have any clothes ready.

What should I do? Or what would you do in this situation?
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go. hook up w/some random chick at the funeral home's batthroom. chicks are emotional at funerals

seriously
 
Originally posted by: Epic Fail
Originally posted by: dbk
Have you talked to your father? How close are your step-mom?
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By the use of my dad's wife, I say not close.
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I would still probably go for my dad at least to show my support. I'm sure he would appreciate that.
 
Under such circumstances I would send a card of flowers at minimum. I would have attended a visitation if possible.
 
It's important to remember that funerals have nothing to do with the person in the casket. It's about closure for the people that were close to him. So, if it would help your dad or his wife to attend, it may be worth it.

Having said that, there's no way I'd attend.
 
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