As someone who wished to contribute something to the stabbing thread:
"I think the reason the stab her thing is offensive, particularly for women is that it you don't come up with it without having hostile feelings, and when you express those feelings everybody senses the inner latent content. Who wants to go around in a world that constantly gives off messages of contempt. Most everybody has a certain amount of contempt, but it is a personal problem, the result of a lack of self understanding. The more mature a person becomes, the more he or she considers the implications of ones words and actions. The younger a person, the less time and experience one has with such a strange notion that there are other people in the world who have feelings and needs. What separates the mature from the immature isn't always that they are intrinsically better, but that they are more thoughtful and respectful of the feelings of others. Having experienced the generally hostile ambience of our culture one realizes that there is only one way to improve it, and that is to improve yourself.
Each person has the option to try to realize that the hostility we have been exposed to makes us hostile in turn. But in the understanding that one is simply infected with a disease, a very unfortunate disease, one can begin the effort to come to peace with it. We were hurt by hurt people. We don't have to pass it on. It was never personal what happened to us. We just thought it was because we were the ones it happened to. When you see that you can begin to appreciate what it means to be kind. Try to make the atmosphere around you welcome to all. In such a place even yourself becomes more welcome."
I am personally displeased that it was locked. But beyond my personal gripe, I felt that thread delt with a serious and important matter. The fact that the posters ranged from perps to protesters was healthy, in my opinion. I am especially upset that an issue of great personal relevance to women should have been shut down before some of them could have had a chance to add their voices to the issue. It seems to me that learning appropriate behavior, even if you don't like to hear about it, is part of what it takes to grow up. Shutting off discussion of an unpleasantness doesn't do anything to improve its causes. Anyway I think you get the drift.
I post this for your thought.
"I think the reason the stab her thing is offensive, particularly for women is that it you don't come up with it without having hostile feelings, and when you express those feelings everybody senses the inner latent content. Who wants to go around in a world that constantly gives off messages of contempt. Most everybody has a certain amount of contempt, but it is a personal problem, the result of a lack of self understanding. The more mature a person becomes, the more he or she considers the implications of ones words and actions. The younger a person, the less time and experience one has with such a strange notion that there are other people in the world who have feelings and needs. What separates the mature from the immature isn't always that they are intrinsically better, but that they are more thoughtful and respectful of the feelings of others. Having experienced the generally hostile ambience of our culture one realizes that there is only one way to improve it, and that is to improve yourself.
Each person has the option to try to realize that the hostility we have been exposed to makes us hostile in turn. But in the understanding that one is simply infected with a disease, a very unfortunate disease, one can begin the effort to come to peace with it. We were hurt by hurt people. We don't have to pass it on. It was never personal what happened to us. We just thought it was because we were the ones it happened to. When you see that you can begin to appreciate what it means to be kind. Try to make the atmosphere around you welcome to all. In such a place even yourself becomes more welcome."
I am personally displeased that it was locked. But beyond my personal gripe, I felt that thread delt with a serious and important matter. The fact that the posters ranged from perps to protesters was healthy, in my opinion. I am especially upset that an issue of great personal relevance to women should have been shut down before some of them could have had a chance to add their voices to the issue. It seems to me that learning appropriate behavior, even if you don't like to hear about it, is part of what it takes to grow up. Shutting off discussion of an unpleasantness doesn't do anything to improve its causes. Anyway I think you get the drift.
I post this for your thought.
