Question for the married/in-love couples

[Angrymarshmello]

I got into a discussion with someone about love at first sight and that sort of thing. I'm just wondering for those who are married or are in-love with someone (BTW, that loves them back, not your obsessions with JLH) - was it love at first sight, or did your love for your spouse come naturally along during the relationship? Or was there even attraction at first sight? I personally believe there is that someone you know you'll spend the rest of your life with at first sight, although all the married couples/about to be married couples that I've talked to said their love for one another gradually built up during the course of their relationship. Just want to dig your brain a little, thanks!

 

[NeoV]

One time at first sight....

One time gradually....

 

[Viper GTS]

I don't believe in love at first sight. I've had the "OMG she's perfect, I'd marry her now if I could" reactions before, but that's not really love.

Love is the ability to recognize someone's faults, & love them not in spite of them, but because of them; the ability to look into the person's eyes when things are at their worst & say "God I love this woman."

I've experienced that once, it took 9 months for it to happen. Been there now for 20 months.

Viper GTS

 

[chrissyo4]

I don't really believe in love at first sight either... maybe Like at first sight!

IMO, Loving someong is a gradual process... it takes awhile to truly know a person and why you love them. You have to learn about one another and most importantly - compromise, trust, and communicate.

 

[pillage2001]

Never believe in love at first sight cause I never know what's the feeling of love till you're with that person for a long time. Love is a feeling that developes over time and not in a split second. You can adore a person at first sight and like her at the next but not love her after the following minute.

(BTW, that loves them back, not your obsessions with JLH) .LOL . Looks like someone is not allowed to post his obsession with JLH.

 

[CattyKathy]

<< I got into a discussion with someone about love at first sight and that sort of thing. I'm just wondering for those who are married or are in-love with someone (BTW, that loves them back, not your obsessions with JLH) - was it love at first sight, or did your love for your spouse come naturally along during the relationship? Or was there even attraction at first sight? I personally believe there is that someone you know you'll spend the rest of your life with at first sight, although all the married couples/about to be married couples that I've talked to said their love for one another gradually built up during the course of their relationship. Just want to dig your brain a little, thanks! >>

LoLz! obsession with JLH, hee hee

 

[NeoV]

let me clarify...

When I saw her I was absolutely captivated.....when I talked to her for the first time a year later, on a twenty-minute walk back to her place (she happened to live across from me that year) I fell in love with her....no doubt about it..

 

[DannyLove]

i hope you're not referring to me

Let me give you my opinion on this whole love at first site deal:

First... How do you get to love someone? by talking to them, by knowing them, by knowning everything about them, why they do the things they do, knowning the deepest things about them, and why they think or act the way they do. When you truely go deep into this person beyond your own self than you probably get such feelings that might be considered Love.

Can any of the above be detected or known when you first run into someone while walking down a street? the answer is: of course not. Thus, I don't believe in love at first site. Its simply a term.

I do believe in those &quot;feelings&quot; where you may think that she is &quot;the one&quot; but it shouldn't be considered as a term of &quot;love at first site&quot; you mainly fall for the beauty than what the definition truely is.

danny~!

edit: i noticed for all the words sight i typed in site.... i'm truely a nerd..

 

[Moonbeam]

I don't mean to be crude, but I experience this all the time at the first sign of certain shaped behind, or leg, or.......

 

[Jfur]

a week before I met my husband, I swear I heard a loud voice say his name ans daw an image of a man. It was really weird and I told all my friends, who laughed. then, I met him and didn't really take too much notice (although I did notice the name). we were friends for a while first. it is a decision I have never regretted, and I feel very fortunate to have met him btw, he was a &quot;break in the pattern&quot; for me -- not the type of guy I normally noticed or went out with. now I can't beleive I didn't notice his charms at first sight. actually, I did notice that he had really nice legs through a display case we were standing on opposite sides of. i also noticed his &quot;old Korean man&quot; bath slippers (men, take note, we will fixate on your shoes -- don't ask me why)

 

[Bellgoody]

I believe in lust at first sight.
Love at first sight simply justifys one's carnality.
Love takes time, lust occurs in a nanosecond.

 

[Emulex]

some odd reason, i knew this one from the very moment i laid eyes on her.. If she behaves she'll prolly get a rock in the next year

 

[obiwaynekenobi]

<< i hope you're not referring to me

Let me give you my opinion on this whole love at first site deal:

First... How do you get to love someone? by talking to them, by knowing them, by knowning everything about them, why they do the things they do, knowning the deepest things about them, and why they think or act the way they do. When you truely go deep into this person beyond your own self than you probably get such feelings that might be considered Love.

Can any of the above be detected or known when you first run into someone while walking down a street? the answer is: of course not. Thus, I don't believe in love at first site. Its simply a term.

I do believe in those &quot;feelings&quot; where you may think that she is &quot;the one&quot; but it shouldn't be considered as a term of &quot;love at first site&quot; you mainly fall for the beauty than what the definition truely is.

danny~!

edit: i noticed for all the words sight i typed in site.... i'm truely a nerd.. >>



AMEN Danny!

True Love is such an intensive experience that years and years later, You'll love that person as much as you did as the peak of your relationship. And as they say &quot;Wine Betters with age&quot; so does love in some cases. you truely will never appericate what and who you have until you either almost lose them or have.

Love at first Sight? No, I don't think so. But I think when you meet someone that just clicks with you that you'll feel something speical about that person. Something more than just intriqment. it's hard to define something that has no means of defention. (sp?)

 

[hungrypete]

Gradual. Love at first site is hormones, IMO. &quot;Love&quot; developed over about two years I think.

 

[classy]

Love can happen in many different ways. Instantly, over time, even certain situations can be lead to a person falling in love. There are no rules when it comes to falling in love.

 

[Total Refected Power]

I took one look at my wife, she had a wonderful glow in her eyes and beautiful smile. An instant connection was there. I commented to a friend of mine that she's the kind of girl you marry. I did 7 yrs later and we have been married since 1993.

It is what it is!

 

[crystal]

...the first sign of certain shaped behind, or leg, or...

Being no disrespect but I could call that lust.

 

[tom3]

I'd have to say that the &quot;first sight&quot; does have something to do with eventually loving someone. To quote DannyLove:

<< ... How do you get to love someone? by talking to them, by knowing them, by knowning everything about them, why they do the things they do, knowning the deepest things about them, and why they think or act the way they do. When you truely go deep into this person beyond your own self than you probably get such feelings that might be considered Love >>


I completely agree with his statement, but consider this. If there was no initial attraction, would you have wanted to get to know this person as much as you have? I think &quot;love at first sight&quot; intrigues and sparks the interest, with the getting-to-know to follow, which could possibly lead to love.