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question about women I AM SO CONFUSED

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The Batt?sai

Diamond Member
well there's this person i've been talking too. this is some of what they told me. can someone help me make sense of it?

synopsis: she says she loves me but is not ready for a committment. how can u love someone but not be ready for a committment? i think she wants us to stay friends and it be something more but just at a slower pace but i'm not sure. excuse the typos. its late and me and her were both tired.

C (12:25:30 AM): why are u mad at me?
D (12:25:56 AM): cas i went on yah my space and some chick was like call me later
C (12:26:47 AM): ur mad cause some chick told u to call her?
D (12:26:50 AM): she told u to call her later
C (12:26:51 AM): from my myspace page?
D (12:26:54 AM): yah
C (12:27:03 AM): ah
C (12:27:06 AM): thats my friend kris
C (12:27:10 AM): i've known her for 4 years
C (12:27:14 AM): she has a bf by the way!
C (12:27:15 AM): lol
D (12:27:29 AM): ooh well
D (12:27:32 AM): my bad
C (12:27:39 AM): its ok
C (12:27:43 AM): she stays in chicago too
D (12:28:03 AM): ooh well . . sorry
C (12:28:08 AM): thas why u were mad?
D (12:28:37 AM): yah , but today was weird
C (12:29:37 AM): well if u ain't feelin me anymore after today i understand...
C (12:29:45 AM): i felt that way drivin home like u might not....
D (12:30:04 AM): i think its juss cas we just started talking
D (12:30:29 AM): i juss felt like i wanted to hug u but . . .
D (12:30:33 AM): it didnt feel right
C (12:30:57 AM): i dind't feel like uw anted me to hug u at ur job
D (12:31:23 AM): yah we got some nosey ppl
C (12:31:36 AM): i was waiting and hopin u could come outside fora few minutes
C (12:31:44 AM): thas why i waited so long
D (12:32:02 AM): ooh i couldnt unless i was o break or cleaning
C (12:32:22 AM): its ok. u was working.
D (12:32:39 AM): anyway was u mad
C (12:33:20 AM): i was feelin like u weren't feelin me. maybe that was more me imagining stuff. sometimes i think the worse is whats happening
D (12:33:50 AM): well i think we need to sloow things up brb
D (12:34:35 AM): back
C (12:34:37 AM): ok
D (12:35:00 AM): i feel like we need to get to know one another 1st
D (12:35:17 AM): b/c i dont want this to just be infatuation
C (12:35:28 AM): i don't want that eitehr
C (12:35:30 AM): either
D (12:35:39 AM): s0o0o wat do u think
C (12:36:20 AM): wonderin what u mean by slow things up
C (12:36:38 AM): do u not want us to say i love u anymore, or what do umean
D (12:36:51 AM): like wat r we now?
C (12:37:12 AM): 2 slow confused people?
C (12:37:26 AM): lol
D (12:37:28 AM): lmao
D (12:37:45 AM): we juss need to take things slow like john legand said
D (12:37:49 AM): and go with the flow
C (12:37:57 AM): he said that
C (12:38:00 AM): i'm tryin to remember that song
D (12:38:06 AM): not the go with the flow part
D (12:38:12 AM): "ordinary people"
C (12:38:19 AM): ah
C (12:38:38 AM): well i was thinkin when i was driving back that
C (12:38:48 AM): when i first meet someone i'm real shy
C (12:38:51 AM): i don't knwo why
C (12:39:00 AM): and i know i've talked u a lil bit so i shouldn't have been
D (12:39:05 AM): yah
D (12:39:19 AM): its different when u see the person
D (12:39:25 AM): face to face
C (12:39:54 AM): i guess u have to warm up to them in person too
C (12:40:21 AM): i thought about turnin around and going back and giving u a hug then leavin but i thought that would have been weird so i just went home
C (12:40:32 AM): and felt like in a limbo my whole drive home
C (12:40:47 AM): it felt like it took 5 mintues for me to get home. my mind was somewhere else
D (12:42:00 AM): look
D (12:42:18 AM): i think what im tryn to say is that im not ready 4 a commitment right now
D (12:42:24 AM): that doesnt mean nver
D (12:42:28 AM): *never
D (12:42:37 AM): dont look like that
C (12:42:50 AM): i did say go at ur pace so do u
D (12:43:05 AM): yah but i noe thats not wat u want
D (12:43:17 AM): i just dont want u or me to get hurt
C (12:43:26 AM): i'm a big boy
C (12:43:29 AM): i'll be ok
D (12:43:37 AM): yah but ur not lookin ok
D (12:43:40 AM): wats on yah mind
C (12:43:59 AM): i don't know why u said u love me but ur not ready for a commitment
C (12:44:09 AM): i mean i kinda do
D (12:44:24 AM): well u can love someone, but not be ready for a commitment
D (12:45:24 AM): true love is telling that person i love you enough to say that i think we need to slow up and take it slow b4 some 1 gets hurt in da proces
D (12:45:25 AM): s
C (12:45:51 AM): i just hope it isn't the love u have for a friend
C (12:45:52 AM): lol
D (12:45:59 AM): baby
D (12:46:17 AM): dont b like dat u'll only make it harder on yah self
C (12:46:47 AM): im a big boy. i'll be ok
D (12:46:54 AM): stop sayn that
D (12:46:58 AM): tell me how u feel
D (12:47:07 AM): r u mad, angry, hurt?
D (12:47:12 AM): ?
C (12:47:30 AM): i'm feelin like if u find someone else ina few months to talk too
D (12:47:45 AM): ?
C (12:48:10 AM): i don't wanna be ur friend hopin for more someday if it may never come
C (12:48:26 AM): cause i've waited a whole lot for other people in my life
C (12:48:30 AM): and it never panned out
D (12:48:33 AM): wat u need to do is be patient . .thats the first key to love
C (12:48:42 AM): i know baby
D (12:48:48 AM): honestly im not lookin for noe 1 to be with right now
C (12:49:05 AM): well how do u feel besides that
D (12:49:30 AM): i feel like i truly care about u and i dont want to be the girl who breaks ur heart

and the last thing she said was this below:

D (1:38:19 AM): read my away message
D is away at 1:38:26 AM.
C (1:38:29 AM): ok
________________________________________
Auto response from D (1:38:29 AM): Ok chris im goin to bed member i still love u and b happy . .goodnight!
 
dude..it is a total loss.....jsut sell it and stock buying from them.

odds are you'll get a lemon.

haiving to replace the engine and the transmission on a new one even though you got a good deal practically cancels out your miserliness..
 
Originally posted by: Goosemaster
dude..it is a total loss.....jsut sell it and stock buying from them.

odds are you'll get a lemon.

haiving to replace the engine and the transmission on a new one even though you got a good deal practically cancels out your miserliness..
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huh?
 
If a girl ever told me she loves me and is not ready for commitment I will tell her ok 🙂 and stop talking to her.

I take it you are 18 or younger..

We've all been there so in the future you will thank me.

Block her and move on to another woman.
 
This is a girl who isn't mature enough to just tell you she doesn't want to be your girlfriend. She's trying to let you down easy but doesn't know how. AND she wants the emotional/ego support you give her until she can find someone else to cover those needs.

Go find someone else. If you keep pining for this one you'll only torture yourself. That and you'll miss the next one.
 
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: Goosemaster
dude..it is a total loss.....jsut sell it and stock buying from them.

odds are you'll get a lemon.

haiving to replace the engine and the transmission on a new one even though you got a good deal practically cancels out your miserliness..
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huh?
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See...now you complete and utter confusion feels like.....


my job here is done😎
 
Originally posted by: Aimster
If a girl ever told me she loves me and is not ready for commitment I will tell her ok 🙂 and stop talking to her.

I take it you are 18 or younger..

We've all been there so in the future you will thank me.

Block her and move on to another woman.
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i understand what u are saying. but there's no hope at all there?

ps she told me she loved me after a week. i think she was feeling me way too fast honestly. still no hope though?
 
Liek I said, and I was talking on topic until I flipped to Speed Netowrk, it is a total loss....


just learn your lesson and move on


😉
 
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: Aimster
If a girl ever told me she loves me and is not ready for commitment I will tell her ok 🙂 and stop talking to her.

I take it you are 18 or younger..

We've all been there so in the future you will thank me.

Block her and move on to another woman.
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i understand what u are saying. but there's no hope at all there?

ps she told me she loved me after a week. i think she was feeling me way too fast honestly. still no hope though?
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there is no hope at all.

we've all been there man. We've all been hurt. It sucks.

Women like this are bad news. Stay away.
You should care but never show a girl you care. Her away msg makes her seem in control of the situation. "be happy".

Act like you don't care and make it seem like you have a busy and interesting life. She will be interested to join your life. Right now she thinks you are down and your life sucks all because of her. Don't ever give a girl that power ever again.

That's my advice to you.
 
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: DainBramaged
lmao...like I would bother reading that load of crap
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at the very top there was a synopis? 😕 about everything now
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1. Stop taking all of these responses personally.
You asked for advice and then posted something that would give people who are old enough to give said advice a brain hemmorage.

It's simple. She thinks it's cool that you like her. It makes her feel good about herself. But she doesn't like you the way you like her. A grown woman would just tell you to buzz off. She is not a grown woman and probably doesn't realize that she is stringing you along for her own selfish wants. All she knows is that she wants someone else who makes her feel the way you make her feel. (That means not you) But until she finds that other person she will use you.

Don't be a tool. Go find someone else. The beautiful thing about women is that there are soooo many of them out there. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a woman. Let her go and find another one.

 
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: DainBramaged
lmao...like I would bother reading that load of crap
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at the very top there was a synopis? 😕 about everything now
Click to expand...

1. Stop taking all of these responses personally.
You asked for advice and then posted something that would give people who are old enough to give said advice a brain hemmorage.

It's simple. She thinks it's cool that you like her. It makes her feel good about herself. But she doesn't like you the way you like her. A grown woman would just tell you to buzz off. She is not a grown woman and probably doesn't realize that she is stringing you along for her own selfish wants. All she knows is that she wants someone else who makes her feel the way you make her feel. (That means not you) But until she finds that other person she will use you.

Don't be a tool. Go find someone else. The beautiful thing about women is that there are soooo many of them out there. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a woman. Let her go and find another one.
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i wasn't taking anything personal in the thread lol. what i don't get is why women would do that especially if they say they love u first. that i totally don't understand. unless she was just saying it to see how i felt.
 
😕
I loved alot of women before I was ready for commitment...............grip on reality ftw!
 
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: DainBramaged
lmao...like I would bother reading that load of crap
Click to expand...

at the very top there was a synopis? 😕 about everything now
Click to expand...

1. Stop taking all of these responses personally.
You asked for advice and then posted something that would give people who are old enough to give said advice a brain hemmorage.

It's simple. She thinks it's cool that you like her. It makes her feel good about herself. But she doesn't like you the way you like her. A grown woman would just tell you to buzz off. She is not a grown woman and probably doesn't realize that she is stringing you along for her own selfish wants. All she knows is that she wants someone else who makes her feel the way you make her feel. (That means not you) But until she finds that other person she will use you.

Don't be a tool. Go find someone else. The beautiful thing about women is that there are soooo many of them out there. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a woman. Let her go and find another one.
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i wasn't taking anything personal in the thread lol. what i don't get is why women would do that especially if they say they love u first. that i totally don't understand. unless she was just saying it to see how i felt.
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Read my second paragraph.

Your attentions make her feel good. It pumps her self esteem. But that's all it does for her. So until she finds someone else who pumps her self esteem AND makes her want to get pumped she'll keep you around. When she finds that guy she'll either tell you she wants to be "freinds" or will just stop talking to you altogether.

Get it?
 
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: DainBramaged
lmao...like I would bother reading that load of crap
Click to expand...

at the very top there was a synopis? 😕 about everything now
Click to expand...

1. Stop taking all of these responses personally.
You asked for advice and then posted something that would give people who are old enough to give said advice a brain hemmorage.

It's simple. She thinks it's cool that you like her. It makes her feel good about herself. But she doesn't like you the way you like her. A grown woman would just tell you to buzz off. She is not a grown woman and probably doesn't realize that she is stringing you along for her own selfish wants. All she knows is that she wants someone else who makes her feel the way you make her feel. (That means not you) But until she finds that other person she will use you.

Don't be a tool. Go find someone else. The beautiful thing about women is that there are soooo many of them out there. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a woman. Let her go and find another one.
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i wasn't taking anything personal in the thread lol. what i don't get is why women would do that especially if they say they love u first. that i totally don't understand. unless she was just saying it to see how i felt.
Click to expand...

Read my second paragraph.

Your attentions make her feel good. It pumps her self esteem. But that's all it does for her. So until she finds someone else who pumps her self esteem AND makes her want to get pumped she'll keep you around. When she finds that guy she'll either tell you she wants to be "freinds" or will just stop talking to you altogether.

Get it?
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but she says constantly about how fine i am. ?
 
Look on the bright side. She's doesn't sound too intelligent:

D (12:30:04 AM): i think its juss cas we just started talking
D (12:30:29 AM): i juss felt like i wanted to hug u but . . .

Not someone with whom you'd necessarily want to have children and grow old. If I were you, I'd drop her.
 
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: Whoozyerdaddy
Originally posted by: quasarsky
Originally posted by: DainBramaged
lmao...like I would bother reading that load of crap
Click to expand...

at the very top there was a synopis? 😕 about everything now
Click to expand...

1. Stop taking all of these responses personally.
You asked for advice and then posted something that would give people who are old enough to give said advice a brain hemmorage.

It's simple. She thinks it's cool that you like her. It makes her feel good about herself. But she doesn't like you the way you like her. A grown woman would just tell you to buzz off. She is not a grown woman and probably doesn't realize that she is stringing you along for her own selfish wants. All she knows is that she wants someone else who makes her feel the way you make her feel. (That means not you) But until she finds that other person she will use you.

Don't be a tool. Go find someone else. The beautiful thing about women is that there are soooo many of them out there. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting a woman. Let her go and find another one.
Click to expand...

i wasn't taking anything personal in the thread lol. what i don't get is why women would do that especially if they say they love u first. that i totally don't understand. unless she was just saying it to see how i felt.
Click to expand...

Read my second paragraph.

Your attentions make her feel good. It pumps her self esteem. But that's all it does for her. So until she finds someone else who pumps her self esteem AND makes her want to get pumped she'll keep you around. When she finds that guy she'll either tell you she wants to be "freinds" or will just stop talking to you altogether.

Get it?
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but she says constantly about how fine i am. ?
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If she wants your attention she has to keep you around. Right? Carrot... Stick... Sound familliar?
 
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