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Question about sex for divorced people

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astrocase

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I just gotta say it's been outstanding!

But that doesn't mean much unless you rate your ex. I'd say she was good at the time compared to the few I'd slept with before her, obviously complete and total crap as the marraige failed, but with 20/20 hindsight and more experience on my part she wasn't very good at all relatively speaking. I had a 6th sense going into the marraige that there was something missing from the sex but I loved her so I overlooked it.

It blew my mind when I started sleeping with other women. Wow! I didn't know what I was missing!

I can't help but cringe a little bit when I hear about these guys who have never slept with anyone else. Ignorance is bliss hopefully.
 
Personally, sex is only a small part of my life. If it's not the best it's going to impact me about the same level as having a bad wine at my dinner.

All I want is a kind, loyal, caring woman with an interesting personality. I'd rather have that then a woman that's great in bed but otherwise vacuous.

To each their own.
 
This is about sex. That's a whole different subject.

Everyone has a different sex drive and I recognize that. Mine is huge so sex is a bigger factor than a glass of wine at dinner.
 
Guys like Charlie Sheen who have slept with over 5000 women.... you gotta think, can he have a stable long-term relationship with any woman now that he's been with so many....
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
This is about sex. That's a whole different subject.

Everyone has a different sex drive and I recognize that. Mine is huge so sex is a bigger factor than a glass of wine at dinner.
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Right, I understand that. I wasn't trying to belittle your position on the matter. Just demonstrating a different perspective.
 
I can say that I'm marrying someone who is not the best sex I've ever had.

She is fantastic...but I've been with a number of women and have experienced a whole gamut of talents. I give her a 8.5/10 from my own personal experience.

That being said... I couldn't imagine being with anyone else. Someone on this board once quoted a wise person who said "Sex is 90% of a bad relationship and 10% of a good relationship". Even if my fiancee was mediocre, I'd still be marrying her. The fact that she is fantastic and nearly at the top from my experience is just a really nice bonus.
 
I noticed the same thing at first and I immediately attributed it to my ex being sucky but that wasn't the case at all (in my experience anyway).

I don't know how long you were with your ex but I was with mine for 16 years before we called it quits. Naturally, as you stated in your OP, as the relationship got bad so did the sex but the simple fact was we both got older, less flexible and less energetic as the years wore on.

My first experience after my ex was with a gal 10 years younger than me and let me tell you, I was blown away by her energy and imagination but that's what "new" sex is like most of the time... I also lost 50 lbs and was rarin' to go after several months of abstinence so i'm sure my performance was enhanced as well at the time.

I'm sure my ex wife could still curl a toe or two if properly motivated...
 
Sex is really all that matters. All that lovey dovey stuff is just a crock of sh!t. Eat, sleep, fvck, kill, die. That's all that life needs to be.
 
Originally posted by: astrocase
I just gotta say it's been outstanding!

But that doesn't mean much unless you rate your ex. I'd say she was good at the time compared to the few I'd slept with before her, obviously complete and total crap as the marraige failed, but with 20/20 hindsight and more experience on my part she wasn't very good at all relatively speaking. I had a 6th sense going into the marraige that there was something missing from the sex but I loved her so I overlooked it.

It blew my mind when I started sleeping with other women. Wow! I didn't know what I was missing!

I can't help but cringe a little bit when I hear about these guys who have never slept with anyone else. Ignorance is bliss hopefully.
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A good friend of mine was getting laid all the time after his divorce. It took him a few months to get into being single but I gotta say, he really took advantage of it for the few years he was single. I met some of his conquests...they were hot! Lucky bastage! 😀
 
Originally posted by: y2kc
I noticed the same thing at first and I immediately attributed it to my ex being sucky but that wasn't the case at all (in my experience anyway).

I don't know how long you were with your ex but I was with mine for 16 years before we called it quits. Naturally, as you stated in your OP, as the relationship got bad so did the sex but the simple fact was we both got older, less flexible and less energetic as the years wore on.

My first experience after my ex was with a gal 10 years younger than me and let me tell you, I was blown away by her energy and imagination but that's what "new" sex is like most of the time... I also lost 50 lbs and was rarin' to go after several months of abstinence so i'm sure my performance was enhanced as well at the time.

I'm sure my ex wife could still curl a toe or two if properly motivated...
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I was divorced at 26 after being with her for 7 years. Having sex with 30 year olds was just more icing on the cake. One of the biggest bonuses was simply the variety. Once you get married a woman can simply pick and choose what she wants and doesn't want to do and you're kinda sol about the whole thing. When you're single that isn't so much the case. Learning from my mistakes I just don't get involved with women who are picky about what they want to do and want done in bed. It's great! Finding women more comfortable about their sexuality helps a lot.
 
Originally posted by: PricklyPete
I can say that I'm marrying someone who is not the best sex I've ever had.

She is fantastic...but I've been with a number of women and have experienced a whole gamut of talents. I give her a 8.5/10 from my own personal experience.

That being said... I couldn't imagine being with anyone else. Someone on this board once quoted a wise person who said "Sex is 90% of a bad relationship and 10% of a good relationship". Even if my fiancee was mediocre, I'd still be marrying her. The fact that she is fantastic and nearly at the top from my experience is just a really nice bonus.
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how does a man's mindset begin to see things from a perspective like this?
 
Originally posted by: KrillBee
how does a man's mindset begin to see things from a perspective like this?
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It's a problematic, but thankfully not very widespread affliction known as "maturity", which is usually contacted during the early 20's.

If you haven't caught it by 26, you probably never will.
 
this is why saving yourself for marriage is absurd! who wants a virgin? give me a woman that knows what she's doing anyday.
 
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