Question about sex and marriage

[Gravity]

There's a good book on this topic called "Passionate Marriage" by Dr. Scharch. He concludes that the person in the marriage that wants the LEAST amount of sex always controls it. He's a very compelling author and marriage therapist. He still practices in Colorado where he offers 3 and 5 days "retreats" for couples that want to grow in the area of intimacy. Sex is key to the relationship and cannot be seperated from the whole. Traditionally, most therapists say that if you fix the relationship, you will fix the sex. Dr. Schnarch says that this approach assumes that the sex that may occur is worth all the work. he also claims that the way couples engage in sex speaks volumes about their maturity and ability to actually be intimate. Read it and you'll find more answers than were provided here.

Cheers,

Gravity

 

[CKent]

The sad truth

 

[ForumMaster]

no offense, but i think you're too young to be married. you've been together for nine years? and you married at 21? no wonder she's tired. thing is, at 23, you're both young but she may be losing interest. i would never marry that young if i ever married just in case the girl decides to leave.

 

[BeauJangles]

Originally posted by: ForumMaster
no offense, but i think you're too young to be married. you've been together for nine years? and you married at 21? no wonder she's tired. thing is, at 23, you're both young but she may be losing interest. i would never marry that young if i ever married just in case the girl decides to leave.

I'm 21 and I couldn't make a decision about who to be with for the rest of my life at this point.

 

[Joemonkey]

Here is a very important question no one has asked:

have you or her gained a some weight in the past few years?

 

[AdamSnow]

This thread is funny beceause of preacher boy...

 

[dawnbug]

Originally posted by: Amplifier

Originally posted by: nakedfrog

Originally posted by: RadiclDreamer
Its not the same, and it wasnt this way before marriage, it was 5 times a day then.

Oh well. You're still getting it often enough to show that there's no real problem, so be a man and suck it up. You didn't get married so she could serve your sexual desires.

The bible disagrees with you...

From the book of Corinthians:

7:3 A husband should give to his wife her sexual rights,4 and likewise a wife to her husband. 7:4 It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband;

That's because the bible was written by men.

 

[AMDZen]

Originally posted by: ForumMaster
no offense, but i think you're too young to be married. you've been together for nine years? and you married at 21? no wonder she's tired. thing is, at 23, you're both young but she may be losing interest. i would never marry that young if i ever married just in case the girl decides to leave.

I completely agree.

And now, knowing that your so young - the fact that you've only been married 2 years and aren't still doing it at least every night - is discouraging. I'd say your marriage is doomed to failure given this new information.

Maybe she's cheating on you (yes I'm serious)

 

[BrianH1]

eh I'll call it.

nanniegannnnnns

 

[DrVos]

Originally posted by: Amplifier
The bible disagrees with you...

From the book of Corinthians:

7:3 A husband should give to his wife her sexual rights,4 and likewise a wife to her husband. 7:4 It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband;

Amplifier,

Way to take the Bible way out of context. I think it convenient that you snipped out this part:
7:4 It is not the wife who has the rights to her own body, but the husband. In the same way, it is not the husband who has the rights to his own body, but the wife.

I'm not gonna preach here, but the way you are using the Bible to twist things is really messed up.