Query: If you were married, would you want to know whether or not your wife was a transsexual?

[gopunk]

suppose she is, but you don't know it. would you want to know?

i have no idea what i'd pick

 

[Orsorum]

I think I would want to know, yes.

 

[b0mbrman]

Hell yes I'd want to know!

 

[gopunk]

really? i dunno, i think this might be one of those "ignorance is bliss" type things. i think i would be concerned that it would change my feelings about them.

 

[CKDragon]

PICS?

CK

 

[Orsorum]

<< really? i dunno, i think this might be one of those "ignorance is bliss" type things. i think i would be concerned that it would change my feelings about them. >>



It would raise issues, in my mind, about their past, and about their current mental state.

 

[gopunk]

It would raise issues, in my mind, about their past, and about their current mental state.

agreed... but suppose they were transsexual? what are you going to do? divorce? that doesn't seem right... you did fall in love with them after all.

 

[Orsorum]

<< It would raise issues, in my mind, about their past, and about their current mental state.

agreed... but suppose they were transsexual? what are you going to do? divorce? that doesn't seem right... you did fall in love with them after all. >>



Maybe seek counseling, talk it over with them.

 

[b0mbrman]

<< It would raise issues, in my mind, about their past, and about their current mental state.
agreed... but suppose they were transsexual? what are you going to do? divorce? that doesn't seem right... you did fall in love with them after all. >>


Well...you could always raise the honesty issue. Hiding transsexuality is as good as lying in my book

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Of course I'd want to know. One of the main reasons....I plan on having children someday. If that person is a transsexual, it isn't possible to conceive with him.

 

[gopunk]

<< Of course I'd want to know. One of the main reasons....I plan on having children someday. If that person is a transsexual, it isn't possible to conceive with him. >>



that's true... alright you guys have convinced me. when i get married, i will have my wife sign a legal document written by my lawyers, stating her true gender.

 

[exp]

<< agreed... but suppose they were transsexual? what are you going to do? divorce? that doesn't seem right... you did fall in love with them after all. >>

If you find out your S.O. is a transsexual you are clearly justified in a divorce. You were deceived and are under no obligation to stay with them. It's a similar kind of situation (only worse IMO) to finding out that she has been cheating on you throughout your entire relationship. Is she still the same person? Yes, but now you can see the big picture whereas before you were deluded. You are now better equipped to make an informed decision on whether you want to stay with this person.

 

[Kadarin]

<< Of course I'd want to know. One of the main reasons....I plan on having children someday. If that person is a transsexual, it isn't possible to conceive with him. >>



Yet.

While there's certainly nothing wrong with being (or being with) a transsexual, I would definitely want to go into the situation with my eyes open. (Not that it wouldn't be obvious anyway... (and I say this from experience))

 

[ThaGrandCow]

Something that major should have come out way before you were married. That is a huge breach of trust. If your S.O. wasn't honest enough to inform you of that fact before the marriage, they cannot be trusted to keep up their end of the marriage agreement.

 

[Jfur]

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<< Of course I'd want to know. One of the main reasons....I plan on having children someday. If that person is a transsexual, it isn't possible to conceive with him. >>



that's true... alright you guys have convinced me. when i get married, i will have my wife sign a legal document written by my lawyers, stating her true gender. >>



Anyone here know the facts about the multiplicity of genders, i.e., that there are not just males and femals (but a variety of hermaphrodites and women that are genetically male but typically don't find out)?

 

[hzl eyed grl]

I watched something the other day on TLC. I'm not exactly sure about it all, but I remember that there was a girl on there. She had outer female genitalia (if I remember right), but she had testes inside instead of overies and her DNA was that of a male. (Or something like that.)

 

[Nocturnal]

<< suppose she is, but you don't know it. would you want to know?

i have no idea what i'd pick >>



hey, just curious, but do you have a thing for trannies? i think i remember you posting something about transexuals before... whats up with that?

 

[gopunk]

<< Something that major should have come out way before you were married. That is a huge breach of trust. If your S.O. wasn't honest enough to inform you of that fact before the marriage, they cannot be trusted to keep up their end of the marriage agreement. >>



i dunno, that is true, but i think many people use that thing to avoid the real issue... like they are just uncomfortable with the thought of a transsexual in the first place. not to say that i'm comfortable with it, i'm extremely uncomfortable with it.

If you find out your S.O. is a transsexual you are clearly justified in a divorce. You were deceived and are under no obligation to stay with them. It's a similar kind of situation (only worse IMO) to finding out that she has been cheating on you throughout your entire relationship. Is she still the same person? Yes, but now you can see the big picture whereas before you were deluded. You are now better equipped to make an informed decision on whether you want to stay with this person.

putting my irrational fears aside, i don't believe it is worse. maybe they just never felt the need to tell you. i mean, there are lots of things husbands and wives don't know about each other, because it just never comes up. cheating is bad because people feel "cheated". they invested their love into this person, and this person has been putting their love elsewhere. this doesn't happen with a transsexual... assuming they dont' cheat, there is no misbalance of love.

presumably you knew your wife quite a while before you two got married. do you really think finding out that she was a man previously, diminishes her qualities? i mean objectively speaking, putting emotion aside... it's like if you bought and drove a car for 15 years and it ran great. then, you found out it was rebuilt from a wreck. does that make it any less of a car?

 

[gopunk]

hey, just curious, but do you have a thing for trannies? i think i remember you posting something about transexuals before... whats up with that?

i was listening to a loveline episode. they replayed it today, and so i thought about it again, and made another post no, i have nothing for trannies. it's disgusting, imo, and those who do it are most likely screwed up. however, if you're attracted to a screwed up person enough to marry them... i guess i don't see why the screwedupness would be a problem. that's just the type of person you're attracted to, imo.

 

[Nocturnal]

<< hey, just curious, but do you have a thing for trannies? i think i remember you posting something about transexuals before... whats up with that?

i was listening to a loveline episode. they replayed it today, and so i thought about it again, and made another post no, i have nothing for trannies. it's disgusting, imo, and those who do it are most likely screwed up. however, if you're attracted to a screwed up person enough to marry them... i guess i don't see why the screwedupness would be a problem. that's just the type of person you're attracted to, imo. >>



was this the love line with kelly hu on it?

if so, did you hear the call from the 17 year old girl who said her boyfriend liked her to use her dildo on him? i heard that and i was like wtf? love line is kinda weird sometimes.

 

[gopunk]

was this the love line with kelly hu on it?
if so, did you hear the call from the 17 year old girl who said her boyfriend liked her to use her dildo on him? i heard that and i was like wtf? love line is kinda weird sometimes.

no, this was an episode from a long long time ago... i heard the first part of the hu episode, but fell asleep before the dildo call i guess. loveline is often weird... did you hear scott? the guy and his dog...? but that's what i like about it... i don't know that many people like that in my life (or at least i don't know it), so i find listening to their problems very interesting.

 

[Nocturnal]

<< was this the love line with kelly hu on it?
if so, did you hear the call from the 17 year old girl who said her boyfriend liked her to use her dildo on him? i heard that and i was like wtf? love line is kinda weird sometimes.

no, this was an episode from a long long time ago... i heard the first part of the hu episode, but fell asleep before the dildo call i guess. loveline is often weird... did you hear scott? the guy and his dog...? but that's what i like about it... i don't know that many people like that in my life (or at least i don't know it), so i find listening to their problems very interesting. >>



lol true. i didnt hear anything about a dog. i usually listen to it while i go and pick up my girlfriend from school. i only hear a few calls cuz they often play commercials. what was it with a dog? beastality? ive heard a call from a guy who asked if watching tranny porn was ok. he said he was str8. dr. drew said its something to do with the domnation... or something like that.

IMHO the dr. gives some stupid advice sometimes. but thats just my opinion.

 

[gopunk]

lol true. i didnt hear anything about a dog. i usually listen to it while i go and pick up my girlfriend from school. i only hear a few calls cuz they often play commercials. what was it with a dog? beastality?

yes... it lasted like an hour because adam and drew were so fascinated with it

ive heard a call from a guy who asked if watching tranny porn was ok. he said he was str8. dr. drew said its something to do with the domnation... or something like that.
IMHO the dr. gives some stupid advice sometimes. but thats just my opinion.

man don't diss on drew... he's the man i usually agree with most of the stuff he says... esp. since he's able to predict things so well based on the theories he uses to give the answers. listening to him judge the age a caller was molested at is like magic.

 

[Nocturnal]

<< lol true. i didnt hear anything about a dog. i usually listen to it while i go and pick up my girlfriend from school. i only hear a few calls cuz they often play commercials. what was it with a dog? beastality?

yes... it lasted like an hour because adam and drew were so fascinated with it

ive heard a call from a guy who asked if watching tranny porn was ok. he said he was str8. dr. drew said its something to do with the domnation... or something like that.
IMHO the dr. gives some stupid advice sometimes. but thats just my opinion.

man don't diss on drew... he's the man i usually agree with most of the stuff he says... esp. since he's able to predict things so well based on the theories he uses to give the answers. listening to him judge the age a caller was molested at is like magic. >>



im not dissing him, im just saying that there are other doctors out there who tend to disagree with him and his theories. i mean hes a specialist with addiction and drugs and what not, but there are other things he thinks hes a specliast in, but he isnt. i guess he tries to be a well rounded psychologist psychiatrist or gp or whatever he is, but he isnt.

 

[Kadarin]

<< loveline is often weird... did you hear scott? the guy and his dog...? >>



I was listening to their radio show once a few years back, where they put together an audio compilation (set to music) of some the comments they and the guy made during that show, and it was probably the funniest thing I've ever heard on the radio