Qucikest Way to get over ex-GF??

[bmacd]

So my gf and i finally decided to split after a rough week of fighting. We held the bf/gf title for just over a month and i got really attached to her. She was a partying sorority girl...i was the laid back non-drinking, non-smoking loving boyfriend. Her family LOVED me and her sister was soooo cool. But...we had a talk about compromises since last week when i gave her an ultimatum to pick me or weed, and that's when the trouble started. Then i told her if she wasn't an alcoholic, then drop the drinking for a month, otherwise, we were done. So..she promised me for one month, then backed out on it after getting smashed in Windsor. She told me she felt pressured into saying yes.

Anyways...i was ready to break up with her early in the week, then we talked and made up. The night she went to Canada, things felt tense on the phone, so i flew to her house, picked her up for dinner (to get some food in her stomach so she's not dry-heaving all night or throwing up straight fluids) and dinner went great! It felt like a first date again. Then the next day, she stayed with one of her sorority sisters and came to the realization that me holding her back from drinking and a guy that "can't keep up with her" isn't for her. Geez...all my friends said to drop the alcoholic junkie, and her friends have the nerve to say drop me for not being able to keep up with her. I can't win.

Anyway....Sunday night there was tension over the phone..so i called her up as i was going to her house and said, "i'm coming over...no need to get ready". So i popped over, had a nice silver bracelet (she hates gold) and a pretty rose. The bracelet i left in my car in a small ribbon-wrapped box, and the rose i handed to her like EVERY other date. We got in the car, arrived at Dairy Queen (ice cream place) and she opened it. She had this look in her eyes, then looked at me, then advanced the track on my CD to a group called Dashboard Confessional (notorious for breakups...that's what their music is about...dunno why i even put them on my CD). I quickly turned on my favorite Our Lady Peace song (her favorite group, BTW) and she started crying i think. Then i burned my tires out of the ice cream place and we broke up in her driveway with her dad and older sister in the window. It was quick and painful, and here i am all sh|tfaced at home listening to Our Lady Peace (the group she got me hooked on...and broke up to).

I dunno...maybe i need a week to myself...no girls

-=bmacd=-

 

[ATLien247]

It was probably a good thing for you to do. Although I understand where you are coming from, I don't think you really were in the position to tell her how to go about her social life. Maybe she'll grow out of it... maybe not. Hey, at least she turned you on to OLP.

 

[vi edit]

Qucikest Way to get over ex-GF??

Find a girl that actually respects you, acknowledges your love, and returns the emotion. From your post, you received none of this from your so called "ex-gf". Once you hook up with someone, this previous gal is gonna be long gone out of memory.

 

[txgixer]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Qucikest Way to get over ex-GF??

Find a girl that actually respects you, acknowledges your love, and returns the emotion. From your post, you received none of this from your so called "ex-gf". Once you hook up with someone, this previous gal is gonna be long gone out of memory.

Undoubtedly

I wasted 5 years in a similiar situation

 

[StattlichPassat]

Good for you- you did the right thing. If you meant a lot to her, hopefully this will give her a good, swift kick in the butt of reality and make her realize what she just lost because of her habits. Take some time off from women, spend a little money on yourself for once, and enjoy life.

 

[BigJohnKC]

The question:

Qucikest Way to get over ex-GF??

The answer:

Her family LOVED me and her sister was soooo cool

Do her sister.

Maybe this is bad advice, but try being single for a while. You don't need a woman to be complete. Be happy, be single, enjoy your freedom and all the extra money you'll have. If she comes back, just tell her you'll take her back as soon as she grows up and stops drinking and stuff. Stick to your ultimatum.

 

[alm99]

OLP is the greatest band in the world, sorry to hear about the breakup, she wasn't right for you let alone any girl thats in a sorority, majority of them are bitches, I know from experience, I did say majority and not ALL. Move on, see some strippers, do things that you like or can do now that you are single.




I have to say it since I never have....PICS?

 

[bmacd]

4th of july pic

I asked her for a couple more pics monday (1st day after breakup) and she said she has some for me. Her sister is taken and lives in Chicago. She still wants to date seeing as this was a mutual breakup, but i don't know if i could do it without any committment. It's like fvck anybody you want and have no guilt, b/c there's no bf/gf title. It's hard enough seeing her without being able to really hold/kiss her, let alone anything else. I dunno anymore... I kinda feel like i'm chasing amy...if you know the quote where Silent Bob explains Chasing Amy..

-=bmacd=-

 

[Anubis]

beer and lots of it

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: TheEvil1
beer and lots of it

i don't drink and don't smoke...which was the big reason we split. I didn't want to be around her when she drank mostly b/c she acted like a h0e taking her clothes off, giving random guys piggy back rides, and holding her hair back got old.

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[Que-TiP]

find another one...there's plenty around

 

[Anubis]

Originally posted by: bmacd

Originally posted by: TheEvil1
beer and lots of it

i don't drink and don't smoke...which was the big reason we split. I didn't want to be around her when she drank mostly b/c she acted like a h0e taking her clothes off, giving random guys piggy back rides, and holding her hair back got old.

-=bmacd=-

never said you had to go overboard

 

[bmacd]

ya...i know that...another 94 some odd billion left...but i'm looking for things to do to try and ease the emotion a little bit. She has stuff all over my car that i have to take out like this love bug she made for our half-valentines day (city of dearborn, MI thing) which is glued on my dashboard, she has a couple CDs in there, and i keep playing the CD we broke up to over and over...

-=bmacd=-

 

[Hammer]

Heh, I won't give you the advice one of my female friends gave to me cause the mods would lock it, but my personal advice would be to stay single for a while and enjoy it as much as you can.

 

[Fritzo]

Become gay. You'll forget about girls all together!

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
Become gay. You'll forget about girls all together!

Oiiiiii

-=bmacd=-

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: bmacd
ya...i know that...another 94 some odd billion left...but i'm looking for things to do to try and ease the emotion a little bit. She has stuff all over my car that i have to take out like this love bug she made for our half-valentines day (city of dearborn, MI thing) which is glued on my dashboard, she has a couple CDs in there, and i keep playing the CD we broke up to over and over...

-=bmacd=-

You were only with her a month, right?!
That's about as brief as it gets in my book. Just walk away. Quickly. Be a GUY for awhile. Do GUY things. Forget about women for a few weeks. Live for yourself.

It's amusing b/c Greeks are always trying to shed the stereotypes that go along with being Greek, and here is a Greek who is willing to dump her boyfriend because she would rather drink, smoke, and be slutty.

My gf who has been with me ~2 years was always interested in joining a sorority. She actually got almost pledged her freshman year, but due to a bunch of strange political nonsense that I still don't fully understand, she got pissed off and didn't.
Before we started dating, we were talking about this, and she said that it left such a bad taste in her mouth that she never wanted to deal with them again.

Great! I was nervous b/c I don't think I could ever date a sorority girl, especially as a non-Greek. I would always resent that her "club" would expect her to keep secrets from me, I would always resent being blackballed from certain social events solely because of my non-Greekness, and I resented the fact that my girlfriend would potentially change from the bubbly yet intellectual person she is into a drooling moron.

Suddenly after we were together a few months, she decides she wants to pledge again.
I was really upset about it. I felt like she lied to me to get her foot in the door, and now that I was attached, she was going to change everything.
But I didn't want to be Mr. Controlling Boyfriend, so I told her I wasn't happy about it, but I wanted her to do what she really wanted to do.
At my school all the girls have to go to this "Round Robin" before they can even go to any rushes. They have to meet members of all the sororities. So she goes to the Round Robin, had fun, yatta yatta. No big deal, she had fun, she seems normal, maybe this will work.

Well then she goes to one of the rushes.
OMFG.
When she came back it's like she was a different person. She was acting like a complete ditz! I guess it's hard to shake the act after you put it on for 4 hours trying to fit in with all the other bimbos? I have no friggin idea, but she was acting completely retarded and I was damn ready to toss her out of my room.
The next day she had returned to normal, but I saw that as a taste of the future with my "new" girlfriend who acts like a ditz even though I know she's not, and wastes all her time drinking, and using her "important" sorority commitment as her excuse for flunking all her classes.
I told her how I felt and she decided not to continue with it.

18 months later, we're still happily together, she's still intellectual but fun, doing well in school, etc, etc.

Just a little story for you all

 

[ElFenix]

have female friends who understand and tell you she was a b!tch and a ho or whatnot and they never like her anyway. or something.

 

[LordJezo]

Pics?

 

[bmacd]

Originally posted by: LordJezo
Pics?

Originally posted by: bmacd
4th of july pic

I asked her for a couple more pics monday (1st day after breakup) and she said she has some for me. Her sister is taken and lives in Chicago. She still wants to date seeing as this was a mutual breakup, but i don't know if i could do it without any committment. It's like fvck anybody you want and have no guilt, b/c there's no bf/gf title. It's hard enough seeing her without being able to really hold/kiss her, let alone anything else. I dunno anymore... I kinda feel like i'm chasing amy...if you know the quote where Silent Bob explains Chasing Amy..

-=bmacd=-

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[Azraele]

For what it's worth, I think breaking up was the right thing to do. It doesn't make it any less painful, but time will take care of that.

Good luck.

 

[Zclyh3]

Damn man. First this incident and then the Time Cable incident. What next?

 

[Stark]

Go work in an old folks home changing depends for a few weeks. Maybe that will cure you of your desire to take care of people.

Odds are she'll come crawling back in a week or so.
Or she'll get drunk and show up on Girls Gone Wild 10 surrounded by naked frat boys.

Either way, she's probably not someone you want a future with. Go buy the Swingers DVD and watch it repeatedly. That's the most realistic post-breakup-male-perspective movie ever made.

You're money.

 

[hoihtah]

i'd say... the best way to get over a relationship is to know how to embrace singlehood.

 

[DeafeningSilence]

Get the Freedom Fun Pass from Blockbuster! For only $20 a month, rent games as long as you want, 2 at a time!
(Their radio commercial features a guy who just broke up with his girlfriend.)

But seriously, casually dating this girl won't do anything to help you. It seems obvious that the relationship is going nowhere, so just get out of the situation. Take it from someone who's been there... not too long ago.