PSTD, Empathy, and Cross-Species Connection

Perknose

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I didn't know which forum to put this in. It's not really news, but . . . almost everything in our society is "political" at base. We have our fair share of shallow idiots here, but, imho, the level of discourse overall measurably outstrips OT, even if our Purch overlords unilaterally decided to append "Discussion Club" to its forum title.

Anyway . . . this article touched me in a deeply profound way. Fwiw, I think it's well worth reading.

A couple of brief excerpts which do not really do this piece justice:

"Love would not formally receive a diagnosis of severe post-traumatic stress disorder for another 15 years.

[...]

Finally, in 2006, she was in the veterans’ garden and happened to catch sight of the parrots being housed in an unusual facility that opened a year earlier on the grounds of the center.

‘‘This place is why I’m still here,’’ Love, now 54, told me one day last summer as I watched her undergo one of her daily therapy sessions at the facility, known as Serenity Park, a name that would seem an utter anomaly to anyone who has ever been within 200 yards of the place."

The author's ending paragraph:

"Nearing Serenity Park’s exit, I decided to turn back and step inside Cashew’s quarters for a moment. I had only to nestle close to her perch and she immediately hopped on my back. Crisscrossing my shoulders as I had watched her do with Lilly Love, she stopped at one point for what I assumed would be the parrot equivalent of a kiss. Instead, she began to clean my teeth: her beak lightly tapping against my enamel, the faint vibrations strangely soothing. Immediately afterward, she took a brief nap in my shirt’s left breast pocket — it felt as if I’d grown another heart — then re-emerged and crawled to the top of my head. She strolled about there for a time before plucking out one of her own deep blue-green feathers and then descending to gently place it on my left shoulder. I have it still."
 

Hayabusa Rider

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Every morning I come down and sit on the bottom stair step. My now largish puppy, an English Springer climbs into my lap and onto my shoulders, and wraps himself around them like a fur stole. I walk around with him outdoors for a bit and he trusts me when he is vulnerable. That's my blessing, trusting unconditional love that restores the soul. It's wonderful, but it's not unique, it's not about me and my pup, it's what you mention, expressed countless times in our connections with those we care for be it a wounded creature or those that love us back. Without understanding what they do, others who live and share our world these creatures tend to our deep needs.
 
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Perknose

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Every morning I come down and sit on the bottom stair step. My now largish puppy, an English Springer climbs into my lap and onto my shoulders, and wraps himself around them like a fur stole. I walk around with him outdoors for a bit and he trusts me when he is vulnerable. That's my blessing, trusting unconditional love that restores the soul. It's wonderful, but it's not unique, it's not about me and my pup, it's what you mention, expressed countless times in our connections with those we care for be it a wounded creature or those that love us back. Without understanding what they do, others who live and share our world these creatures tend to our deep needs.
^^^ THIS, THIS, THIS!
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This must be way, when on YouTube, I am stupidly, primally drawn to vids of two different species existing in harmony as friends. Without fail, they flood my heart to the bursting point with happiness and glee!
 

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My two cats are some of my best friends. I provide them with food, water and housing, and in exchange they give me love, companionship and the occasional mouse. I recently lost the cat who got me through some hard times when my wife passed. Everyone should have such a friend. His name was Tigger and I miss him so very much.

Cats fondly remembered: Willy, Jack Jack, Davy Jones, Buttercup, Misty Mountains (my daughters old lady nanny cat with a stripper's name), Casey, Ollie, Tigger. And the current cat crew: Theon Greykitty (yeah, he's been snipped) and Chloe. Beloved family members one and all.

We have a no-kill animal shelter nearby and I escape there often to play with the cats up for adoption. I'm not sure who is socializing whom, and I'd adopt them all if I could.
 
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We have a no-kill animal shelter nearby and I escape there often to play with the cats up for adoption. I'm not sure who is socializing whom, and I'd adopt them all if I could.
:D

When I used to go to New Hope/Lambertville more regularly during the day, I would often stop at the SPCA on the way home and spend time with all the dogs and in the cat room. And, yeah, it was always an open question as to who was socializing whom!
 

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I would also add gardening to the discussion.

The idea being it's still about taking care of a living thing and having an opportunity for peace and meditation.

I had a favorite dog that died a few years back and I'm still broken up about it, have a few other pets now, but there is also something special about being up early in the morning watering/ working/ harvesting the garden.

Planting veggie seeds and watching them grow. Tending the plants and the soil. Pruning the fruit trees. Connecting yourself with the seasons, the harvest cycles, the cuisines and recipes that change through the year as different plants ripen and mature.
That's something you just don't get at the grocery store buying tomatoes in April that were grown in Chile.
 
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Perknose

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I would also add gardening to the discussion.

The idea being it's still about taking care of a living thing and having an opportunity for peace and meditation.

I had a favorite dog that died a few years back and I'm still broken up about it, have a few other pets now, but there is also something special about being up early in the morning watering/ working/ harvesting the garden.

Planting veggie seeds and watching them grow. Tending the plants and the soil. Pruning the fruit trees. Connecting yourself with the seasons, the harvest cycles, the cuisines and recipes that change through the year as different plants ripen and mature.
That's something you just don't get at the grocery store buying tomatoes in April that were grown in Chile.
I can even find a sort of meditation just doing the dishes . . . but, YES, gardening!
 

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We planted a small raised garden this season: two tomato plants, one bell pepper and one jalapeno. All produced and it was a joy to watch them grow. I kick myself because I'm lazy and haven't had a full garden since I was a kid.