PSA: When your SO says if you wanna return/exchange your gift

[lokiju]

Well I've never been one to look a gift horse in the mouth but my wife said many many times to me before hand that if I wanted to exchange/return my Valentine's Day gift, that I could do so without worrying at all about it hurting her feelings.

Now normally I'd call shens on a statement like that but for whatever reason she had me convinced this time. So I get my gift and granted it was nice and it's something I mentioned in passing that I liked in the past, I just felt like I could get something more useful.

So I did the dumbass thing and said that I did like it but that there were other things I'd rather have and felt that this particular item would (in kinder words) collect dust in the near future.

Well she wasn't "completely fine" with me telling her despite her assurances and now says shes "fine" with me exchanging it. Of course I can't take back saying it and don't even have the option of not returning it now.

I should have just kept my mouth shut

What was I thinking?

I blame my moment of stupidity on this damn cold I've been fighting all week in combination with all the medicine I had flowing through my body!


Cliffs: When your SO says it's OK to tell them if you want to return/exchange a gift. DON'T FALL FOR IT!

 

[Injury]

What was it? Come on. You know we were going to ask.

 

[Legendary]

What was it and what did you exchange it for?

 

[DeadByDawn]

<ackbar> It's A Trap </Ackbar>

 

[Gunslinger08]

You broke man law #1. Never trust a woman.

 

[zebano]

Everyone knows that women aren't logical!

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: Injury
What was it? Come on. You know we were going to ask.

One of those over the chair shiatsu back massager things.

 

[Ilmater]

I tell them anyway and keep taking it back. I don't care. I don't want them keeping gifts they don't want any more than I want to keep gifts from them that I don't want. I just try to get my gf of the moment used to the idea. They get used to it and stop taking it personally.

 

[chambersc]

Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
<ackbar> It's A Trap </Ackbar>

DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER!

Yeah, OP, you were lulled into a false sense of security. How long have you two been dating? This could say a lot about your situation.

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: Legendary
What was it and what did you exchange it for?

See previous reply and I haven't exchanged it yet.

It's partly my fault since I didn't suggest or hint at a single thing I wanted and she never knows what to get me since I like electronics which always cost a lot and she has no clue about.

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: Ilmater
I tell them anyway and keep taking it back. I don't care. I don't want them keeping gifts they don't want any more than I want to keep gifts from them that I don't want. I just try to get my gf of the moment used to the idea. They get used to it and stop taking it personally.

I agree and am going to have to take the approach so it doesn't become a constant issue.

When I told her I want her to let me know if she doesn't like her stuff, I really meant it. I'd rather her have something she wants than try and spare my feelings.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
<ackbar> It's A Trap </Ackbar>

one of the older ones too, right behind "I really don't want a gift" and "Do I look fat in this?"

 

[lokiju]

Originally posted by: chambersc

Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
<ackbar> It's A Trap </Ackbar>

DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER!

Yeah, OP, you were lulled into a false sense of security. How long have you two been dating? This could say a lot about your situation.

Not dating, shes my wife.

It's never been an issue before.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: DeadByDawn
<ackbar> It's A Trap </Ackbar>

:laugh::beer:

 

[Ramma2]

Here's how it works.

1. Accept gift graciously, love it and cherish it and make her feel good for getting it for you.
2. Use it a few times, be sure to keep all manuals and boxes.
3. Wait 1 year.
4. Sell "that old thing" on eBay for a minor financial loss

 

[MrWizzard]

<Golem>Trixty womenzes</Golem>

 

[CPA]

Next time each of you should exchange a heartshaped box of candy or cards. Problem solved. Why the hell are you buying each other gifts on Valentines? Christmas was just two months ago?

 

[Tuktuk]

You fscked up man.. was it really worth whatever you were going to exchange it for? Even if she says it is okay, with gifts like that the point is more symbolic than it is to give you something useful. Make the person feel happy that they got you the right gift and move on, instead of trying to milk it for some $20 item you could've just bought yourself. The only times you should exchange a gift is for clothing that doesn't fit or if the item is slightly different form the one you wanted (for example you want a different kind of Xbox so you pay more to exchange for that one).

 

[TallBill]

I will never want to return a gift from my wife. And she will never want to return a gift from me. Becuase instead of holiday based gift giving, we buy what we want, when we can afford it.

 

[FoBoT]

yeah, don't do this

i took back a watch my wife gave me for a birthday or something
this was 17 years ago

she still remembers

 

[Fiat1]

Originally posted by: FoBoT
yeah, don't do this

i took back a watch my wife gave me for a birthday or something
this was 17 years ago

she still remembers

Woman are like elephants they NEVER forget. And they will remind you of that for the rest of you life. They just can't let things go.

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: lokiju

Originally posted by: Legendary
What was it and what did you exchange it for?

See previous reply and I haven't exchanged it yet.

It's partly my fault since I didn't suggest or hint at a single thing I wanted and she never knows what to get me since I like electronics which always cost a lot and she has no clue about.

she doesnt know what to get u that isnt electronics?

soundsl like deeper problems in your relationship?

 

[scott916]

You'd make her feel a lot better if you could make sure she walks in on you using it and let her know you're really enjoying it. Use it a few times a week or something, just milk it a little. Two months down the road, you can put it into a closet and she'd never even remember.

 

[fuzzybabybunny]

>< I don't understand why people do these things

When I say something, I mean it, and prepare to back it up.
I UNDERSTAND that a gift that I give may not always hit the mark. I'd be PERFECTLY fine with having it returned for something more on the mark. It's about the satisfaction of the person you give the gift to, after all...

 

[bignateyk]

This is why:

1) You never try to buy a woman a USEFUL gift. And if you are getting an expensive piece of jewelry, its usually a good idea to let the girl pick it out, as much as that defeats the purpose of a gift. Gifting of lingerie and clothing is also usually a bad idea, as it can bring many undesired reactions, usually involving less sex.

2) As a man, you never, EVER return a gift given to you by your SO, unless it is clothing that doesnt fit.