Problems at work.....

Gibson486

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I have a problem at work. Here it is. It all started when I picked my girl friend up at work. When we were walking home, she told me that one of the co-workers there said I really sucked at my job right in front of her and to her face (my g/f and I work at the same place). I got really mad and I do not know why. After hearing it, I went back and told the co-worker off. I don't know why I did it, I am surprised that I did it because I usually do not care what peope say about me. Now, I look back, and I see that I made a fool of my self. I told my boss about the incident and I told him that I work way to hard for someone to tell me indirectly that I suck at my job and that the comments make me feel unappreciated. I told him that I might quit. My boss, who was suprised and speechless, told me he was gonna talk to him, but I am thinking that he only said that to comfort me and prevent me from quiting. Well, today, my g/f told me that the reason why the co-worker is talking trash is because he heard that I was talking trash about him. The thing is, i don't talk trash about him. I respect the guy because he taught most of teh things I know about my job. When other workers accuse of him of being a bad worker, I usually stand up for him and say that he is just bored with his job. My girlfriend told him that, but he refuses to believe it. He told my girlfriend that my boss told him I was talkign trash about him! Now I want to strangle my boss! I do not know what to do now. I really respect the guy, but I cannnot contunue this job if working will be that hostile. if I stay, I fear that my girlfreind will be stuck in teh middle and a small incident will be made into something big. I also love my job, but I also fear that my girlfreind will get sick of teh situation and start keeping things from me. What can I do?
 

pulse8

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And these are the days of our lives.... ;)


Anyway, I say just stick it out and see how things go. No sense in jumping the gun, you've already done that twice. Just go to work and see how it pans out. You may be surprised.

Good luck!
 

rgwalt

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Apr 22, 2000
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Dude, get together with your boss and the other guy (and your GF too) and iron the situation out. Best thing to do. Then sit back and smoke a bowl.

Ryan
 

yobarman

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<< Dude, get together with your boss and the other guy (and your GF too) and iron the situation out. Best thing to do. Then sit back and smoke a bowl.

Ryan
>>



I like his style.
 

Gibson486

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Aug 9, 2000
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Nah, i am not getting my girlfreind into this. She was worried enough cause me and teh co-worker are supervisors and I am worried that if he gets really mad at me, then he will take it out on my girlfreind by making her job harder. I'm probably gonna confront my boss then just stick around and see if things smooth out. One thing that gets me really mad though is that he told my girlfriend thinking that she would not tell me.
 

Rarr

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Talk to the guy who made the comment about you. In a situation like this you should go directly to the source. Things get jumbled through word of mouth and if you really want to attack the situation at hand, you should arrange a meeting with the guy to discuss things.

If you don't want your gf in the middle of things, then do not have her talk to the guy.

When you talk to the guy just ask him straight up if and why he said what he did or didn't say. Also, find out the source who told him that you were talking negatively about him. Explain what your comments were to co-workers about him too, and that you didn't talk poorly of him.

When all is said and done, and once you've talked directly to the source of the problem- I am sure that you will find out that it may all be a misunderstanding.