Prenuptual Agreement. Yay or Nay?

[RaistlinZ]

I was getting into a discussion with a buddy of mine about whether to get a Pre-nup for his upcoming marriage. I've always been an advocate for it, but apparantly his wife and her family are against it (surprise, surprise).

He doesn't want to press the issue much, but I still think it's important for him to have. He's not a rich guy or anything, but still. What do you all think?

 

[EpsiIon]

Having a pre-nup is like saying you're not sure it's going to work out. If you think you need one, you obviously don't trust your spouse and probably shouldn't be getting married.

 

[rudeguy]

whoa

 

[paulney]

Crap. I voted yes, when actually I wanted to say no.
If you need a prenup, don't marry that person. Easy.

 

[KarenMarie]

I suggested to the b/f that if we ever got married he should get one... his parents are multi millionaires and i have nothing. he would be foolish not to have one. He says he doesnt want one, cause the only person he would ever marry is me and he knows he will never need it.

 

[Yossarian]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I suggested to the b/f that if we ever got married he should get one... his parents are multi millionaires and i have nothing. he would be foolish not to have one. He says he doesnt want one, cause the only person he would ever marry is me and he knows he will never need it.

after you get married, you should divorce him and take everything just to show him!

 

[imported_LoKe]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I suggested to the b/f that if we ever got married he should get one... his parents are multi millionaires and i have nothing. he would be foolish not to have one. He says he doesnt want one, cause the only person he would ever marry is me and he knows he will never need it.

So, if you two don't work out, can I have the money instead?

Hehe...^_^

Yeah, pre-nup's depend greately on the situation. But like said, if you think you need one, you shouldn't be getting married.

 

[FrustratedUser]

Originally posted by: Yossarian

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I suggested to the b/f that if we ever got married he should get one... his parents are multi millionaires and i have nothing. he would be foolish not to have one. He says he doesnt want one, cause the only person he would ever marry is me and he knows he will never need it.

after you get married, you should divorce him and take everything just to show him!

Winnar!

 

[FrustratedUser]

Hell Yeahz.

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: Yossarian

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
I suggested to the b/f that if we ever got married he should get one... his parents are multi millionaires and i have nothing. he would be foolish not to have one. He says he doesnt want one, cause the only person he would ever marry is me and he knows he will never need it.

after you get married, you should divorce him and take everything just to show him!

I would never, ever do that to him. Not ever! I had nothing when he met me... he has been very good to me, an very loving and generous to VeggieFrog. I am very lucky to have him and I would never ever do anything like that to him. I would hate the person I would have to become to be the type that would behave as such.

whether we marry or not.. he says yes, I say no..... whatever we accumulate while we are together we split 50/50 .... everything he had before we met.... well, it was not mine then and it is not mine now. And as far as his parents money.... when the day comes that he inherits... well, his parents came here from another country... the worked their asses off, sacrificed, did without to raise a family and live the American Dream. That is not my money. did not work for it.

I guess the reason that he puts me in charge of all the money, his paycheck, his business ... all of it. Is because he knows... I am a better person that than, and I love and appreciate everything he has done for me.

 

[cjgallen]

Do you call him VeggieFrog IRL?

 

[SynthDude2001]

Originally posted by: cjgallen
Do you call him VeggieFrog IRL?

VeggieFrog is her daughter

 

[KarenMarie]

Originally posted by: cjgallen
Do you call him VeggieFrog IRL?

No... VeggieFrog is my daughter. Her name is Kristina but her user ID on ATOT is VeggieFrog. His name is Walter, but I call him Wally, Daddy-o or doodadinal. Except for ATOT where he is known as the b/f

 

[imported_hscorpio]

To me the argument against a pre-nup is kinda like the argument against getting a lawyer if you ever go to court over something; "If your innocent why do you need a lawyer?".

 

[yllus]

Definitely. I don't dare let her cut into my many...hundreds...of dollars.

Originally posted by: hscorpio
To me the argument against a pre-nup is kinda like the argument against getting a lawyer if you ever go to court over something; "If your innocent why do you need a lawyer?".

Worst analogy ever. Lawyering up and then shutting up is the smartest thing a person in legal trouble can do.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

people change, things change... a marriage is about love, not money. so if the love leaves, the money shouldnt too. id ask for a prenup even if i was the poor one in the relationship.

you dont take out life insurance because you think you are going to die, you take it out just in case. your partner should realize this, if the love is truly everlasting, it doesnt matter if there is an agreement or not, right?

 

[imported_hscorpio]

Originally posted by: yllus

Originally posted by: hscorpio
To me the argument against a pre-nup is kinda like the argument against getting a lawyer if you ever go to court over something; "If your innocent why do you need a lawyer?".

Worst analogy ever. Lawyering up and then shutting up is the smartest thing a person in legal trouble can do.

Actually many people advise that a pre-nup is the smartest thing a person getting married can do.

 

[cjgallen]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie

Originally posted by: cjgallen
Do you call him VeggieFrog IRL?

No... VeggieFrog is my daughter. Her name is Kristina but her user ID on ATOT is VeggieFrog. His name is Walter, but I call him Wally, Daddy-o or doodadinal. Except for ATOT where he is known as the b/f

I need reading lessons

 

[Ricochet]

Originally posted by: EpsiIon
Having a pre-nup is like saying you're not sure it's going to work out. If you think you need one, you obviously don't trust your spouse and probably shouldn't be getting married.

I disagree. The way I feel about pre-nup is the same way I feel about car insurance. I don't like paying for car insurance or like to talk about it. I let my agents handle the details. I'm a safe driver. What are the chances I would ever get into an accident? Guess what? Insurance is a necessary evil. No one wants an accident. No one can predict an accident. But it does happen to some people. To me pre-nup protects both parties.

 

[Vette73]

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
people change, things change... a marriage is about love, not money. so if the love leaves, the money shouldnt too. id ask for a prenup even if i was the poor one in the relationship.

you dont take out life insurance because you think you are going to die, you take it out just in case. your partner should realize this, if the love is truly everlasting, it doesnt matter if there is an agreement or not, right?

yep!!!

 

[K1052]

Yes, it would be a requirement.

 

[axelfox]

Chris Rock says:

"People think prenups are only for rich people. That's not the case. See if you have 20 million and your wife want half, big deal you ain't starving. But if you make 30 thousand and she want half, then you might have to kill her.'

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: paulney
Crap. I voted yes, when actually I wanted to say no.
If you need a prenup, don't marry that person. Easy.

 

[tk149]

Prenup? Yes, absolutely.

I'm sure that all those people in divorce court never believed they would end up there. Before their weddings, my divorced friends would have sworn on their mothers' graves that they would never get divorced.

49% of U.S. marriages end in divorce according to this page

"The leading cause of divorce is marriage."