Prenup.. did you make one?

[JulesMaximus]

Nope. No prenup here.

 

[BDawg]

If people weren't a cavalier about whom they marry, prenups wouldn't be necessary.

 

[psiu]

No prenup here.


Both sides seem to be arguing fairly well, and covering the high points for me.

dderidex in particular has a good post. I completely disagree 🙂, but it's well thought out and logical. Don't see that much on here 😛.

 

[0roo0roo]

Originally posted by: BDawg
If people weren't a cavalier about whom they marry, prenups wouldn't be necessary.

you really think 50% of people are cavalier?

it seems to look more like the luck of the draw. people simply are no good at choosing. you can never really know the mind of another person, you can only delude yourself into believing you do through the magical elixer of romantic love. and you cannot pretend that people will not change over time to become incompatible. its just how the world works.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Spamela
no - neither of us had anything when we got married, but i find
the concept repugnant, anyway.

Same for me. We had squat. Still do, really.. 🙂

It ABSOLUTELY makes divorces easier. That's what it's for right.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: 0roo0roo
of course you're a twit. by your standards a woman that gets out of a marriage because of domestic violence is "just quitting" 😛 talk about lame absolutism.

Yup. She is. Should her husband spend time in prison? Absolutely. Should they try to reconcile? Absolutely.

ok. thats just nuts. a women who is beat should accept him back? What about if he beats or molest he children? should she take him back? There are just some times when it is better to move on.


My wife signed a pre-nup. I had a good deal of assets before we got married. I was not going to take the chance on losing them. While i love her and want to stay married with her until i die i can not guarantee that it will happen.

A buddy of mine got married and divorced in a year's time. She tried to take everything from him (house, bank accounts etc). He got lucky in divorce court and just had to pay off her car they got while married. But he nearly lost everything.

I can guarantee that i will not cheat on my wife. but i can not control her. Buti do not believe she will ever cheat, while she is very pretty I do not believe she would ever do it. I know a few guys that were after her pretty hard (who were much better looking then me and had money) but she shot them down. We have been married 5 years but together as a couple for over 10.

 

[Ausm]

I wish i would have...Would have saved me thousands of dollars and tons of grief.

Ausm

 

[Beattie]

I asked my Fiancee if she wanted a prenup. She said "no". I said, "fine, if you ever want out, I will have to kill you." and she said "fine."

🙂

 

[CPA]

No.

 

[TallBill]

Originally posted by: Beattie
I asked my Fiancee if she wanted a prenup. She said "no". I said, "fine, if you ever want out, I will have to kill you." and she said "fine."

🙂

rofl 😀

 

[0roo0roo]

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Spamela
no - neither of us had anything when we got married, but i find
the concept repugnant, anyway.

Same for me. We had squat. Still do, really.. 🙂

It ABSOLUTELY makes divorces easier. That's what it's for right.

considering your position, it was a rather easy position to take.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: 0roo0roo

Originally posted by: djheater

Originally posted by: Spamela
no - neither of us had anything when we got married, but i find
the concept repugnant, anyway.

Same for me. We had squat. Still do, really.. 🙂

It ABSOLUTELY makes divorces easier. That's what it's for right.

considering your position, it was a rather easy position to take.

Granted. Still one wonders what Kant would make of it.

 

[rahvin]

Originally posted by: trmiv
No, we didn't. It sounds like a good idea, but just try to bring it up to your fiancee. Come back and report the results.

The results were not positive in my case, tears, accusations of not "knowing" her and general hurt feelings. :thumbsdown:

 

[dabuddha]

Nope didn't make one nor do I need one.

 

[dabuddha]

Originally posted by: Nik

Originally posted by: 0roo0roo
of course you're a twit. by your standards a woman that gets out of a marriage because of domestic violence is "just quitting" 😛 talk about lame absolutism.

Yup. She is. Should her husband spend time in prison? Absolutely. Should they try to reconcile? Absolutely.

Seriously, if all you're going to do is insult me because I hold an opinion that you do not share on a serious subject, you may promptly kiss my ass, eat sh|t, and fvcking die in a fire.

Says the person who obviously has never been married. Only people that I feel that would actually think this way are the wife beaters themselves. Get a clue Nik.

 

[DPmaster]

Originally posted by: Nik
Anyone who gets divorced is just quitting. Giving up. And no, it doesn't matter what anyone else says, I don't care. Marriage is permanent for me and I'll fvcking die before I get a divorce no matter how tough things get.

When I get married, I will do whatever I can to make the marriage a success. However saying getting a divorce is just quitting is not always true.

OK let's have a hypothetical situation concerning divorce. This is an extreme case but I want to see what your take is on it.

Let's say a man has been happily married to his wife for several years. They have a 5-year old daughter. However, after several years, her happiness has gradually faded. She has decided that her husband can't satisfy her sexually any more. The husband and wife have gone to counseling but counseling does not help. She doesn't care anymore. She has zero sexual attraction to the husband...she still wants to stay with him though because he is financially successful and can provide for the family. The wife now looks towards the husband's male friends and several of her male friends to fulfill her sexual needs. She is sexually satisfied by 8-10 guys a week...sometimes 2-3 guys at the same time. The husband finds out about this but she doesn't care. She doesn't care for counseling because she feels this problem stems from the husband.

Now let's take this to an even more extreme. Unfortunately one of the guys she has been seeing ends up being a child molester. The man constantly molests the 5-year old daughter everytime he is over to see the wife. The wife cannot stop the molester from doing it though so she finally gives in and lets the guy molest her daughter.

Now put yourself in this husband's shoes (for the ladies, reverse roles) and tell me what you would do in this situation. Are you going to try to "work it out" or is a divorce now an option?

Again, this is just a hypothetical question and I want to see what your take is on it.

 

[Mill]

Originally posted by: BDawg
If people weren't a cavalier about whom they marry, prenups wouldn't be necessary.

That's bullsh!t. By the same logic, if people weren't cavalier about their health and lifestyle they wouldn't need health insurance or life insurance.