UPDATE2: Ahhh, life is good. We went out twice last weekend. Things went great - we can and do talk endlessly. Also, we've become very obvious with each other that we are interested in one another as more than friends. I'm thinking I might bring that up this weekend. Heh - speaking of this weekend, I should talk to her tomorrow and figure out exactly what we are doing. Oh yes, and she asked about 'Jane' - that she's been meaning to ask if 'Jane' and I were anything. I think I handled it well, I said something like:
No, we're not - i don't know where people got that idea. Well, I do, because we are seen in the halls a few times a day, but we're just friends.
And she said, 'good, I just wanted to be sure. I don't like the whole backstabbing thing - I've been on both ends and it's not fun.'
'Jane' and I have kinda simmered our friendship a bit, which is fine by me, it was getting to be a bit much...it kinda weirded me out when she would practically stalk me between classes...
Anyway, 'the other girl' rocks - couldn't be happier and 'Jane' and I are still friends - oh, and she hasn't mentioned anything about it - I don't think she will at this point.
UPDATE: Going out with the other girl this weekend. I'm pretty excited.
I would ask friends for advice, but I can't even do that without screwing up. Very stick situation...
I became friendly with a girl basically at the beginning of the school year and we've gotten to be good friends - we talk a lot and whatnot. Maybe a month and a half ago ago she basically asked me out (really slyly though...like, "i have GCs for Chilis...we should go...do you want to go tomorrow?...while we're in the area we can go to a movie..." It was ridiculous - I asked a few people if she was asking me out - they agreed) so I talked to her and said I got the impression that she was asking be out and I just wanted to be friends and that I didn't want a relationship. Fine, no big deal, she said that was cool and didn't mean to ask me out like that. Whatever, we moved on, still friends. So I get season tickets for SU College BBall every year with a friend of mine - he invites a girl and so do I - but in a completely innocent, platonic fashion - nothing more than friends. So this girl, we'll call her 'Jane' (as in Miss Doe) is able to go. BTW, I don't pay for her tickets - she does of course.
Fast forward to about a month later. We're still good friends and whatnot. I was invited to go to dinner with some people that I didn't really know too well - I only knew the kid that organized it well and I was the first person he asked. About an hour before we all go I ask who else is going...I didn't know them/couldn't stand them. I decided to invite 'Jane' to go since I was talking to her on AIM at the time and she wasn't busy. We went to dinner with everyone and hung out for awhile - no big deal.
Flash forward to now - another 2 weeks later. Still good friends, no big deal. But now I think I like another girl...but I feel terrible because I think she likes me as more than a friend! :Q I talked to two of my friends that I know are pretty close with her and they very subtly implied that she likes me as more than a friend - AHHHH! Worst part is, the girl I want to ask out on a date is friends with 'Jane.' Gahhh! I told one of my friends that I would like to get to know this other girl well but I know he won't tell anyone. However, I don't want to push it and ask him for her screen name or phone number. Nor can I ask anyone else that would know because I don't want this to get out. That said, I have only talked to this other girl a few times...I'm hoping tomorrow I'll have a chance to talk to her one on one and ask her out...but it's rare that I see her. Gah!
Here's my conundrum...what do I do:
a) Talk to 'Jane' about what's up and ask out the other girl
b) Not talk to 'Jane' and ask out the other girl and if 'Jane' asks be like, "I thought we were just friends" <- seems like the asshole move
c) Other - post your ideas
I feel really bad because my friend told me I basically lead her on - that I didn't know it (which I really didn't) but that I was in her eyes. He said that to a guy it doesn't seem like it, but she thinks I like her. Oh yeah, 'Jane' talks to me all the friggin time and like finds me in the halls - mildly annoying - I can't escape her.
AHHH! The other girl seems so cool and hot...not to say 'Jane' isn't - but that would be like asking out one of my guy friends...that's the kind of friend i see her as - no more than a friend (yet female).
Help a brotha' out.
Thanks.
No, we're not - i don't know where people got that idea. Well, I do, because we are seen in the halls a few times a day, but we're just friends.
And she said, 'good, I just wanted to be sure. I don't like the whole backstabbing thing - I've been on both ends and it's not fun.'
'Jane' and I have kinda simmered our friendship a bit, which is fine by me, it was getting to be a bit much...it kinda weirded me out when she would practically stalk me between classes...
Anyway, 'the other girl' rocks - couldn't be happier and 'Jane' and I are still friends - oh, and she hasn't mentioned anything about it - I don't think she will at this point.
UPDATE: Going out with the other girl this weekend. I'm pretty excited.
I would ask friends for advice, but I can't even do that without screwing up. Very stick situation...
I became friendly with a girl basically at the beginning of the school year and we've gotten to be good friends - we talk a lot and whatnot. Maybe a month and a half ago ago she basically asked me out (really slyly though...like, "i have GCs for Chilis...we should go...do you want to go tomorrow?...while we're in the area we can go to a movie..." It was ridiculous - I asked a few people if she was asking me out - they agreed) so I talked to her and said I got the impression that she was asking be out and I just wanted to be friends and that I didn't want a relationship. Fine, no big deal, she said that was cool and didn't mean to ask me out like that. Whatever, we moved on, still friends. So I get season tickets for SU College BBall every year with a friend of mine - he invites a girl and so do I - but in a completely innocent, platonic fashion - nothing more than friends. So this girl, we'll call her 'Jane' (as in Miss Doe) is able to go. BTW, I don't pay for her tickets - she does of course.
Fast forward to about a month later. We're still good friends and whatnot. I was invited to go to dinner with some people that I didn't really know too well - I only knew the kid that organized it well and I was the first person he asked. About an hour before we all go I ask who else is going...I didn't know them/couldn't stand them. I decided to invite 'Jane' to go since I was talking to her on AIM at the time and she wasn't busy. We went to dinner with everyone and hung out for awhile - no big deal.
Flash forward to now - another 2 weeks later. Still good friends, no big deal. But now I think I like another girl...but I feel terrible because I think she likes me as more than a friend! :Q I talked to two of my friends that I know are pretty close with her and they very subtly implied that she likes me as more than a friend - AHHHH! Worst part is, the girl I want to ask out on a date is friends with 'Jane.' Gahhh! I told one of my friends that I would like to get to know this other girl well but I know he won't tell anyone. However, I don't want to push it and ask him for her screen name or phone number. Nor can I ask anyone else that would know because I don't want this to get out. That said, I have only talked to this other girl a few times...I'm hoping tomorrow I'll have a chance to talk to her one on one and ask her out...but it's rare that I see her. Gah!
Here's my conundrum...what do I do:
a) Talk to 'Jane' about what's up and ask out the other girl
b) Not talk to 'Jane' and ask out the other girl and if 'Jane' asks be like, "I thought we were just friends" <- seems like the asshole move
c) Other - post your ideas
I feel really bad because my friend told me I basically lead her on - that I didn't know it (which I really didn't) but that I was in her eyes. He said that to a guy it doesn't seem like it, but she thinks I like her. Oh yeah, 'Jane' talks to me all the friggin time and like finds me in the halls - mildly annoying - I can't escape her.
AHHH! The other girl seems so cool and hot...not to say 'Jane' isn't - but that would be like asking out one of my guy friends...that's the kind of friend i see her as - no more than a friend (yet female).
Help a brotha' out.
Thanks.
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