No, I am not gay. I am not sure why you described the show as 'so gay'.
I just watched a few episodes last week while I was housesitting a friend's place. Sure, it is a chick sitcom. I find it to be funny and the general concept of the show is just like Seinfeld's--a group of friends living in NY making one mishap after another. Making fun at other people's mishaps seems to be the credo in sitcom industry.
Samantha is such a ho.
Charlotte seems too sweet, too goody goody.
Carrie just talks too much, but she is the narrator in the show.
I like Miranda. She has the least annoying traits. Oh ya, I voted redhead on the 'blonde, brunette, red hair' thread.