Poll: What would you do - rape situation

[BigToque]

Situation:

Your SO gets raped and is taken to the hospital the next day to make sure she is ok.

Your SO doesn't beleive in abortion and refuses to take an emergency contraceptive pill because of the possibility that there could already be a fertilized egg, even if it has not planted itself in the uterus.

Case 1: Your SO gets pregnant from the rape and decides to keep the child and give it up for adoption.

Case 2: Your SO does not get pregnant, but she still didn't respect your wishes to take the ECP to PREVENT the chance that she could get pregnant from the pregnancy.

Now, personally, I think that abortion in almost all cases is wrong. The only exceptions where I would find it acceptable would be:

1. The pregnancy threatened the health of the mother. This is very rare.
2. The woman was raped and gave no consent to getting pregnant. In this case, the fetus never had a right to life anyway. It's still murder, but I could live with it.

In both cases what would you do?

 

[Sheepathon]

God bless Canada.

 

[astralusion]

Originally posted by: Stefan

Case 2: Your SO does not get pregnant, but she still didn't respect your wishes to take the ECP to PREVENT the chance that she could get pregnant from the pregnancy.

uhm...doesn't really matter what your wishes are in my opinion...i mean it's great to put in your input but when it comes down to it, she can do whatever she wishes to do...that being said you can always leave...i just know that i wouldnt'

 

[upsciLLion]

It'd be even better if humanity just offed itself completely.

 

[Yossarian]

in both cases I would leave so fast there would be a little cartoon cloud of dust in my wake

 

I wouldn't be with someone who wouldn't believe in an abortion resulting from rape.

 

[ggnl]

Where's option #3: I wouldn't date someone stupid enough to have a rapist's baby.

 

[Toasthead]

Originally posted by: astralusion

Originally posted by: Stefan

Case 2: Your SO does not get pregnant, but she still didn't respect your wishes to take the ECP to PREVENT the chance that she could get pregnant from the pregnancy.

uhm...doesn't really matter what your wishes are in my opinion...i mean it's great to put in your input but when it comes down to it, she can do whatever she wishes to do...that being said you can always leave...i just know that i wouldnt'

exactly

 

[acemcmac]

I would never make my wishes known in that kind of situation. The last thing you need the mother saying is "that man wanted you aborted!"

and it will happen.

 

[Gamer X]

I'll shoot her.

 

[NuroMancer]

Originally posted by: Gamer X
I'll shoot her.

And that is why you Will NEVER get laid. OR have a GF OR be happy with life.

Jesus,

Your SO just GOT RAPED. Have some simpathy, If some dude took advantage of you, do you think you'd be thinking clearly?!

 

[Linflas]

God forbid if my wife was ever raped I would stand by her whatever decisions she makes regarding it.

 

[NuroMancer]

Originally posted by: Linflas
God forbid if my wife was ever raped I would stand by her whatever decisions she makes regarding it.

Exactly. If she truely was your SO you'd stand by her.

 

[mi xiao]

Originally posted by: jumpr
I wouldn't be with someone who wouldn't believe in an abortion resulting from rape.

that is one of the major things i would hope would be all part of the "we have the same thoughts/beliefs on X."

there are some issues here:
1. if she were to get pregnant, this pregnancy will be a constant reminder of the rape. rape is hard enough to get over, nevermind constantly being reminded of it via a pregnancy. keeping a pregnancy is noble, but will open itself to a huge emotional upset that will take a large toll on your relationship.

2. after a rape, it is imperative that she be taken to the hospital asap, not the "next day."


in the end, it is her body and she will do whatever she GD well pleases with it. it is not your decision.
don't leave her because she was raped, no matter what the outcome.

Originally posted by: Stefan
1. The pregnancy threatened the health of the mother. This is very rare.

i don't believe it is THAT rare. ever hear of pre-eclampsia or eclampsia?
there are a lot of other potential health problems.


either way, hope it all works out for you two.

 

[astralusion]

Originally posted by: NuroMancer

Originally posted by: Linflas
God forbid if my wife was ever raped I would stand by her whatever decisions she makes regarding it.

Exactly. If she truely was your SO you'd stand by her.

thank you ... at least a couple people on this board have some feelings

 

[BigToque]

Originally posted by: Linflas
God forbid if my wife was ever raped I would stand by her whatever decisions she makes regarding it.

I couldn't be with someone who had a child that wasn't from me, even if it was from rape.

 

[skace]

Well, I want to say that I'd stand by the woman I love no matter what. But at the same time, I have to wonder if I would even love a woman that I do not agree with, I mean if we don't agree on this how many other things wouldn't we agree on.

So uh, I'm not answering.

 

[NuroMancer]

Originally posted by: Stefan

Originally posted by: Linflas
God forbid if my wife was ever raped I would stand by her whatever decisions she makes regarding it.

I couldn't be with someone who had a child that wasn't from me, even if it was from rape.

Why?

 

[DougK62]

Originally posted by: jumpr
I wouldn't be with someone who wouldn't believe in an abortion resulting from rape.

 

[Gamer X]

Originally posted by: NuroMancer

Originally posted by: Gamer X
I'll shoot her.

And that is why you Will NEVER get laid. OR have a GF OR be happy with life.

Jesus,

Your SO just GOT RAPED. Have some simpathy, If some dude took advantage of you, do you think you'd be thinking clearly?!

I was just kidding,did you really think I was serious:Q

 

[Koenigsegg]

Can this hit 200 replies by noon PDT?

I say yes!

 

[Insomniak]

I wouldn't be interested in someone that brainwashed, but if you really do care for her, I kind of agree with the others here - it's her decision. That's why I'm pro-CHOICE, not pro-abortion/birth control.

 

[CVSiN]

wow some asshats here.... you guys are that shallow you would leave a girl that got raped and put in this circumstance to make a morally hard call.

pretty weak..

 

[Kenazo]

What a stupid scenario. If you're going to believe in pro-choice you have to also believe that the woman has the right to chose not to have the abortion, and you have to believe that it is her choice and only her choice.

 

[eigen]

Yeah, I only date girls that could be considered "liberal femnazis".The girl I am interested in now is president of my school's N.O.W chapter.So I am not too worried about it....