Poll: Parents who won't let go...

[Jugernot]

What age do you think parents should let go of their kids and stop being in every part of their lives? Lately my mom has been wanting to know where I am at all times and its getting annoying as hell. 90% of the time I'm with my girlfriend and she knows it, yet she asks anyway. I do still live under their roof (we have a duplex and I live in the 2nd unit until I leave college), but this is getting rediculous!

What do you guys think?

^^SEE POLL!!^^

 

[GoldenBear]

So how old are you?

 

[bobtist]

At least she cares. Count your blessings...

 

[Jarwa]

Yeah, dude, count your blessings. Think about all the POS parents nowadays. Be happy and grateful for what you got.

 

[Jarwa]

Woops, doubled up on that one.

 

[Jugernot]

I'm 19.

 

[Dameon]

It should be a gradual process. Starting at about 16, they should be getting increased independence and doing their own thing. Of course, this means guys should be doing their own laundry and stuff. Personally, I'm not going to endorse rapid "letting go" at any point. It should be a gradual increase in independence, not suddenly cut off the apron strings at age 18.

 

[nateholtrop]

Be glad you have someone to ask you that..geez.

Nate

 

[joohang]

I agree.

Be grateful that your parents care about you.

They raised you, educated you, loved you.. They did so much for you. If I were you, I wouldn't complain.

Trust me. I'm 19 too, and living on my own sucks. It wasn't my choice either. I'm studying in college full-time with 3~4 part-time jobs to make a living. Sure, I have freedom, but I'd rather have parents asking me about my girlfriend, etc.

 

[jorken]

Yeah. Well I think my parents stopped caring at about 17. Now i'm 21 and even though I still live here it really doesn't feel like I have a family at all.

 

[gooseman]

Hey, I'm 38 and married and if I don't call my Mom at least every 3 days or so she calls me and wants to know what I've been doing for the last 3 days. I agree with the rest, be glad you have parents that care. Next to my wife, my Mother is the most important person in my life. BTW, my Mother-in-Law calls from Florida(we live in Arkansas) every day!!!! And just remember, you may think that you don't need your parents involving themselves in your life everyday but you are still their baby, they need you whether you need them or not.

 

Be glad you have your parents watching over you.
My parents passed away when I was young,still miss them very much.

 

[Azraele]

You can try talking to her about how much it bothers you, but try and go light on her. She's probably just worried about you. After all, you are her baby even though you're 19. She's watching you grow up, and she probably feels like she's losing you.

 

[shifrbv]

As others have said, be glad you have a parent who really cares. I come from a large family and only see or speak to many of them at Christmas. If it weren't for that holiday, I could pretty much tell people I was adopted and they'd believe me because no one ever stops by or calls even though they only live about 45 minutes away. I haven't seen or spoken with my father for years and I only see my mom at Christmas (which I have to make the effort to go there). My sister lives on the east coast. I hadn't seen or talked to to her in over 4 years. Last year she came back for a quick visit to see my new house (on her way to a friend's house), she stayed about 15 minutes and left. I haven't seen or spoken with her since.

Be thankful that you do have people who give a care about you.

 

[WrathofMod]

My propagators stopped caring a long time ago. I now spend my time wandering everyway... stalking, and striking

 

[Jugernot]

^

 

[BoberFett]

When you move out of their house and quit mooching off them.

 

[ArkAoss]

hee hee hee. My grand ma gets her self in a knot if she doesn't hear from my dad at least once a day, and he's 45.

and my dad's little brother is like 43, and he still hasn't moved out of her house. Well actually he kinda has, he's been seeing another woman, and will be getting a divorce, if he can ever hold a job long enough to file the papers. but my grand ma, will still alow his wife, and my cousins to stay, because they are cool. though my grandma is very nosy, she has has to know where all her friends are , and spends about an hr each morn, callin em "what you up to today?" their like "nuthin i'm old and tired,"
And she's like 75, but super busy, goin here, shopping, going to NYC to see the today show, driving to cape cod, to mass. and she's always botherin my poor grand pa, (he's got a bad back, wheelchair bound) and she likes to pick on him all the time too. some people never succumb to old age.

oh yeah, but let yer kids go at 19, but if they need help, don't boot em out the door at 19.

***Remembers to start packing, august is comoing up quick...

 

[Wuming]

hey... why is the youngest age 17? i think parents should start letting go around 15-16, and totally so by 20. i have seen the kids whose parents refuse to let go. the kids either become very rebellious or are so lame and tame. for me i was lucky to have parents who let me go slowly and rather early. think it's important for one to learn to be independent early. parents who refuse to let go are simply too insecure or too possessive.

 

[StageLeft]

People who said "be glad somebody cares" must forget what its like to be a kid! You should try and turn it around and tell her that her constant badgering induces stress and then you cannot perform as well at school and could she please stop