POLL: How do you people end relationships?

[Schadenfreude]

So how do you denizens of ATOT end relationships (assuming you're the dumper, not the dumpee)? Inquiring minds want to know!

 

[Glavinsolo]

Give a 2 weeks notice

 

[Pepsei]

hey don't you take joy in seeing other's misfortune?

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: Pepsei
hey don't you take joy in seeing other's misfortune?

frankly I think those two (legitamate) answers would make others writhe in agony, just in different ways.

and this is a hypothetical question, man!

 

[Glavinsolo]

Answer the following

1. Does she love you?
2. How long have you been dating?
3. Are you seeing someone else?
4. Is it long distance?
5. Pics!

 

[dullard]

The kindest, most gentle way possible: tell them up front, in person, and if they want to know why then state the real reason why.

 

[DaShen]

Tell her straight up, but unless they are totally self absorbed, usually it is just a difference in personality, and so it is just a compatability problem. Therefore the break isn't always bad. Never had anything long term though, but I figure if something lasts long term, the only thing that would break it off would be infidelity (which isn't likely knowing the type of girl I would be interested in).

 

[torpid]

Erm... half of #1 I guess. Kind of like how they settled milton's case in Office Space. I don't act like a jerk, I just sort of drift off mentally and emotionally until they break up with me.

 

[Kibbo86]

One tactic I've used is just to stop calling, or returning her calls.

I've also done the direct, ego-shattering approach.

Neither are pretty.

 

[Tab]

I am big nerd who's never had a relationship, however I would go for the 2nd choice. I would think it would be wise to end the relationship as politely as you possibly can. Hopefully, you'll still get along then you can hit on her friends.

 

[MisterJackson]

I used to think that I never broke up with a girl, which technically I never have, but the thing is I finally realized that I MAKE them break up with me. I just treat them differently when I'm done with the relationship and they eventually figure it out and tell me they think it's not working out and best if we split. When I say, "Ok, cool, see ya round." they just kinda look at me all shocked. But I've already moved on in my mind so it's ok.

I know that's the assholish way, and I see that now. I thought I was doing them a favor by not being outright mean and saying "I want to leave you.", but I see now that my preffered method is probably more harsh than breaking it off clean. The girl I'm with now, her and I have a deal. If we want something else, we will just tell the other, be it good or bad, because neither of us wants to deal with bullsh1t.

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: MisterJackson
I used to think that I never broke up with a girl, which technically I never have, but the thing is I finally realized that I MAKE them break up with me. I just treat them differently when I'm done with the relationship and they eventually figure it out and tell me they think it's not working out and best if we split. When I say, "Ok, cool, see ya round." they just kinda look at me all shocked. But I've already moved on in my mind so it's ok.

I know that's the assholish way, and I see that now. I thought I was doing them a favor by not being outright mean and saying "I want to leave you.", but I see now that my preffered method is probably more harsh than breaking it off clean. The girl I'm with now, her and I have a deal. If we want something else, we will just tell the other, be it good or bad, because neither of us wants to deal with bullsh1t.

I've always broken up with girls by directly approaching the situation (after stewing about it for, oh I don't know, a few weeks/a month?) and telling them up front - they always hated it, and I've yet to be friends with any of them, but staying true to my name, I want to try out the "distancing" option sometime.

<--- "Dumper", never the "Dumpee" - I get bored easily.

:evil:

 

[SpunkyJones]

When I was a young man, I would simply stop calling. I was a wuss who wanted to avoid conflict.

 

[loup garou]

Dear Baby,
Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: loup garou
Dear Baby,
Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: You.

hahahahaha.

 

[DougK62]

Your choices suck.

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: DougK62
Your choices suck.

No, YOU suck!!!1oneoneone

My brilliant retort aside, what other options would you put in? I think all of the options would fall into one or the other category, forgoing some extreme cases.

 

[XiPhos117]

I'm usually straight forward, telling the girl a real reason why we are breaking up. Break ups are never pretty though, even if it is a mutual parting.

 

[BrianH1]

WHO YOU CALLING "YOU PEOPLE" ?!?!?!?!

 

[Schadenfreude]

Originally posted by: BrianH1
WHO YOU CALLING "YOU PEOPLE" ?!?!?!?!

You, 'cause you're fat?