Poll: Good Looks or Intelligence?

[Noriaki]

It's a fairly straight forward question....

Edit: mmm I didn't exactly mean "book smarts" but rather intelligent enough to have a conversation with them...I suppose the question should really be personality or good looks...

I've had occasion to interact with more "typical" men than I normally would in the last week or so (most of my friends are either female or aren't very "typical" men).

I'm curious....is the size of a woman's chest really that important to men? Some of these guy's girlfriends are just plain dumb....you know flick the hair, the girly little laugh, no brains at all, oh and of course, large breasts, small shirts and ridiculously small waists (oh yeah that's another thing...what's with this, if you make my pen look fat you're sexy thing??) seriously...I know lots of girls that acted like that in high school...but we are talking 19-27 year olds....in univeristy, or done and starting their careers...and yet they are dating these brainless toothpick women with large brests (or *are* those people)...I don't like the skinny look, but I'll admit some of these girls were pretty sexy...but one and all they had not an ounce of brain matter between them....try and have a conversation with them and I might as well be talking to a wall.....

Now we all have our opinion of attractive, some of them I thought were and some weren't, that's normal....but really I couldn't stand the thought of dating any of them...you talk to them, and they just giggle and bat their eye lashes at you....

I personally require some measure of intelligence from a woman...and after this week I'm beginning to wonder if I'm the only person alive that does....

I suppose I'm an educated intelligent person and one thing I enjoy from anyone is that they have the ability to make me think...debates are always very enjoyable if both sides are reasonable people and have well thought out arguments...so maybe it's just a personal bias and I put too much emphasis on something like intelligence? And it doens't have to Mathematical or Scientific intelligence (my major area), my friends wife is writing her Masters thesis in linguistics and she's one of the most interesting women I've ever met...
Not that I have anything against pretty girls...but a complete lack of brains absolutely repels me....

Do men as a whole really prefer subservient women that can't really do anything for them except cook for and clean up after them? <edit#6 (or thereabouts) not that there is anything wrong with cooking and cleaning...if a woman actually likes to do that, more power to her...I just don't like women that to it becuase it's where they *should* fit> I'd take a total slob who couldn't cook for her life, and wasn't that attractive if she could stimulate and challenge my brain...or maybe that's the problem...I use the brain encased in my skull...maybe most men use a different head for their thinking?

Ok this is starting to become a rant so I'll shut up now....anyways...

So would you rather have a really good looking woman (you can fill in your own definition of good looking, whatever *you* like) or a less physically attractive person that could at least hold up her end of a conversation...(let's pretend for the moment you can't have both....I'm sure there are lots of women out there that qualify as both, but if you had to have one or the other...)

Edited out my edit

(Note to the ladies: Feel free to answer the question to, being as I'm a guy I put it in terms of women, but I'm sure you can answer the qeustion just as well regarding men, and your opinions count to!)

 

[HazeGray]

Intelligence

 

[Missus]

I am lucky!!

I got both!!!

 

[iamwiz82]

well, i dont really like large breasts at all. B's. But anyways, intelligence is much more important, how can you have a meaningful relationship with a girl who is dumb as a post?

 

[Fearlss1]

Well its a hard question.. But beauty only las so long. Its like great sex.. However when you find someone with a great personality and smarts they will be more attractive to you in the long run.. I mean how fun is it going out with a UNBELIEVABLE DUMBA55,,, OMG listen to me I am starting to sound like a dork LOL,,, I guess this means way too much AT,,
This kinda reminds me of the post people do about FAT PEOPLE.. They say &quot; WHAT IS WRONG WITH FAT PEOPLE:
Well at that point right there you know that person is FAT!!!!
LOL just my .02

 

[Zucchini]

good personality and smarts don't always go together

Would you rather take a hot girl with sweet personality or a smart plain girl?

 

[KameLeon]

If I was stranded on an island with an intelligent not-good looking and a not-so-intelligent good looking woman, I would go with the one with good looks.

 

[ltk007]

Intelligence wins by far but its nice to find a woman who has both. I think personality and how well two people go together is more important than how &quot;booksmart&quot; someone is though.

 

[gittyup]

Fortunately, my wife has both....

 

[thraashman]

ok best way to put this is I like intelligence and a good personality. but if she doesn't look at least somewhat good, I'll probably never get to know her enough to find out if she's smart. And breast size generally makes no difference whatsoever to me, however tehre is such a thing as too big.

 

[ArkAoss]

personality, and inteligance, most smart guys can find a girl with those and decent looks too, if they care.

 

[GL]

I got for good lucks, intelligence (intellectually and in the arts) and personality. Such a combination does exist!

Let me expand on this:

Good looks initially catch my attention and want me to meet the girl. Then I meet her and observe her personality which helps me determine whether I want to get to know her. After a couple of dates, her intelligence will be evident and I can see where I want to head in the relationship.

-GL

 

[MisFit]

I know numerous extremely intelligent women who will act dumb, fearing that they will intimidate the men that they like.
Many men say that they wish for smart woman, but I wonder at times, I often see mens egos inflate when they feel they possess superior knowledge.
Personally, I prefer intelligent woman, with some cuteness thrown in.

 

[bigbootydaddy]

yeah id rather know whats inside her head than whats down her pants.

and if i do find whats down the pants and it surprises me...welll


ewwwww

 

[Noriaki]

Hmmm you make a good point MisFit....I don't have much of an ego to bruise...so I'd never really thought of that....

That makes some sense though....

 

[Deeko]

I could care less about intelligence, I'd put personality as most important, but looks would be above intelligence, cause I just don't care about that...you can be a complete ditz and still have a good personality.

 

[OS]

Noriaki,

I think you are oversimplifying things somewhat. I find that most people, no matter how shallow or superficial they seem, can hold some reasonable discussion as long as both parties are interested. Very very few people imo are stupid to the point where you cannot talk to them.

 

[Isla]

Just had to give you all this example...

My mother in law and my mother have been blessed with both beauty and brains.

My mother in law, however, is one of the most vain, selfish, and arrogant women I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. She has no friends because no one can stand to be around her. People literally avoid her... people she thinks like her talk behind her back all the time. She is so afraid of losing her looks (she just turned 50, going on 51) that she wears impossibly tight pants to show that she still has her figure and wears at least 1K worth of jewelry wherever she goes, even just to do the groceries. She does look fabulous, but she opens her mouth and you just want to run far away. Her relationship with her children is strained, but of course this woman is their mother. It really is a sad thing to see... her kids know her all too well, but... she is their mother. I say nothing, but I don't let her mess with me.

I can't imagine having a mother like that.

My mom is almost 20 years older than my MIL, but her inner beauty is so strong that she is still a very popular lady. She has tons of friends, her children adore and spoil her (we are pulling together to give her a new computer for her birthday) and everywhere we go together, we run into her old students who are obviously thrilled to see her. I hear &quot;You were the best teacher I ever had&quot; spoken to my mother at least once a year.

Beauty and intelligence mean nothing without a kind and loving heart to go along with it. After all, age takes a toll on the body and mind, but inner beauty shines through day after day, until the very end.

You should see my 94 year old Abuelita!

 

[pdo]

Here's a true story.. I have dated 2 women at the same time. One is beautiful and big breasted, and dumb and the the other ones . She's OK looking but very intelligent and I end up with her for 2 years.

 

[Yeeny]

I would rather have a man with brains lying in bed beside me at night, then some superstud who is going to rock my world and then drool all over my pillow.

Brains are very sexy, and a man I can hold a conversation with is a real turn on. Now give me both, and I will be in heaven.

 

[BoberFett]

I want an equal intellectually. But... I can't be with someone whom I don't find her physically attractive. If she's drop dead gorgeous, that's just a bonus.

 

[loosbrew]

sorry but at this point ive had all the inteligent conversations i can handle...time for some noooooooiiiieee!!!!


j/k

loosbrew

 

[Cosmic_Horror]

well a little of both...

You have to have some physical atrraction but for a relationship there has to be fullfilment on many levels. You have to be able to mentaly and emotionaly simulate each other.

well that is what i think anyway, but then again i am single so what do i know...

 

[MisFit]

True Isla, but both men and women are taught to prostitute themselves from a young age, women look good and men have money to pay for the pleasure of their company, thus making the man look like a successful stud. Both sexes buy into it and then moan constantly about it.
People have a mindset that intelligence and beauty cant co-exsist, and if a person lacks either they have to have a kind heart to make up for their shortcomings elsewhere.
Perhaps it just takes age and maturity to see the jewels that lay beneath the glitz of goodlooks and money.

 

[Russ]

This poll is invalid because the possible responses consist only of secondary and tertiary considerations, ignoring the primary and most relevant attribute necessary.

Russ, NCNE