It turns out I may have either the empathy or the intelligence - I just needed a minute to let the rusty wheels in my brain spin a little...
I am going to go the NON-PC route to answer your question. If for no other reason than to jump start the debate.
Is a little boy with Trisomy 21 special? Is he mentally challenged?
Yes and yes. He is also retarded.
To my mother, I am special. To your mother, so are you. To his mother, so is he. Calling him special is patronizing.
Is he mentally challenged? Of course. When I took advanced Organic Chemistry so was I. We all have our mental limits, his are well below normal. In other words, his development has been retarded by his condition.
Trisomy 21 also carries with it physical manifestations that will stunt his growth and ultimately shorten his life. His physical development is thus retarded too.
Kids with Down Syndrome rarely grow up to be fully self sufficient adults that their parents do not have to worry about (all parents worry, but you get the point).
The bottom line is our little boy is a retard.
However, this term has come to have a derogatry meaning and thus has fallen out of favor and more specifically come under fire from the PC police.
Fair enough. But to the people who want to call him mentally challenged or special, I say you are almost as bad. You are using nice but inappropriate euphemisms to label him.
He is a boy with Down Syndrome. And to anyone who knows him, he is probably a very special friend despite his mental and physical challenges.